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    (Original post by Underscore__)
    So if someone cheats on their girlfriend at 17 it means they're going to at 55? That phrase has always annoyed me because it's such nonsense.


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    (Original post by donutellme)
    Perhaps not, but the chances are higher than someone who's never cheated.
    You have no evidence to suggest that's the case


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    (Original post by Underscore__)
    You have no evidence to suggest that's the case


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    Common sense suggests that.

    Besides, if a girl has ever cheated i want nothing to do with her.
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    Common sense suggests that.

    Besides, if a girl has ever cheated i want nothing to do with her.
    It's not common sense. A person might have cheated and really regretted it whereas a person who hasn't cheated might want to but is yet to have the opportunity


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    (Original post by Underscore__)
    It's not common sense. A person might have cheated and really regretted it whereas a person who hasn't cheated might want to but is yet to have the opportunity


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    We can think in mights, or we can think in reality.

    A cheater has complete disregard for someone who trusts them and loves them, and instead pursues their own needs no matter the cost to someone else. Pretty much psychopathic.

    Someone who sees it as acceptable once will always be susceptible to it.
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    (Original post by ckfeister)
    Yes, 6 people agreed with me.
    Wow, you've got one in twelve million people in this country on your side.

    (Original post by donutellme)
    We can think in mights, or we can think in reality.

    A cheater has complete disregard for someone who trusts them and loves them, and instead pursues their own needs no matter the cost to someone else. Pretty much psychopathic.

    Someone who sees it as acceptable once will always be susceptible to it.
    Or a cheater just makes a stupid mistake that they later regret. You're taking a far too black and white view.


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    (Original post by DrLovejoy)
    I am an involved man, and from time to time I have slept with other women 😬😩😂😬😩😂. Yes I know what the reaction is going to be. But why do people get so get up about it. I love my partner and am ultimately loyal to her, she will stay in my life no questions about it. I don't see sleeping with other people as betraying or as that bad to be honest. Why do some people ruin their lives, their partners life and their children's lives because someone slept with someone? Do they fail to understand that a desire to use a basically biological desire and having lived together are completely different things?



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    DrLovejoy.

    I rest my case.
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    (Original post by 13 1 20 8 42)
    I can somewhat understand your point of view. Sex and love can well be divorced from each other. However, if you do this, and it is not an open relationship, then it indicates a lack of respect for your partner, calling into question the healthiness of the relationship. You are putting yourself above them in a sense.
    So if you cheat because you love someone else that is worse than if you cheat because you lust after someone?

    Sorry but on a very basic level it doesn't matter if you love or lust that someone else. No one is asking you to find only your partner attractive. But there is already a difference between seeing someone and thinking they are hot, and actually "lusting" after them and wanting to **** them. And then going ahead with that shows a complete lack of respect for your partner. Not to mention breaking trust.
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    (Original post by DrLovejoy)
    Why do some people ruin their lives, their partners life and their children's lives because someone slept with someone?

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    No, the cheater ruins the relationship by lying to the person they cheat on. Don't ever blame the person you cheat on, they didn't cause the problem.

    I've actually got no problem with sharing, but lying is a problem. If my partner said "I really want to bang x person" I'd be OK with it, because there isn't any abuse of my trust. If they did it behind my back, it would be the end.
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    (Original post by Underscore__)
    Wow, you've got one in twelve million people in this country on your side.



    Or a cheater just makes a stupid mistake that they later regret. You're taking a far too black and white view.


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    Are you a cheater or something?

    There's no "mistakes" in cheating. It's a decision made by them.
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    So if you cheat because you love someone else that is worse than if you cheat because you lust after someone?

    Sorry but on a very basic level it doesn't matter if you love or lust that someone else. No one is asking you to find only your partner attractive. But there is already a difference between seeing someone and thinking they are hot, and actually "lusting" after them and wanting to **** them. And then going ahead with that shows a complete lack of respect for your partner. Not to mention breaking trust.
    Yes I agree that it makes no practical difference. As I said cheating in general indicates lack of respect. Basically I'm saying I get why someone would think that it's less of a big deal, not that it actually is.
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    (Original post by 13 1 20 8 42)
    Yes I agree that it makes no practical difference. As I said cheating in general indicates lack of respect. Basically I'm saying I get why someone would think that it's less of a big deal, not that it actually is.
    Ah I see what you mean now.
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    Why don't you tell your girlfriend and see what she has to say, seen as though it's such a basic need you need to fulfill...
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    Are you a cheater or something?

    There's no "mistakes" in cheating. It's a decision made by them.
    You can intend to do something that you later think was a mistake. You have such a black and white view on it. It comes across as though you're either very cut up about being cheated on or you're quite young/immature


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    (Original post by Underscore__)
    You can intend to do something that you later think was a mistake. You have such a black and white view on it. It comes across as though you're either very cut up about being cheated on or you're quite young/immature
    The former if anything. But I've held this view forever.

    How is this not black and white though? If someone intends to cheat, they know EXACTLY what they are doing. It isn't an accident at all. And they would know that what they are doing is bad and wrong. So why do they deserve forgiveness or any sympathy when they get found out? It's totally a mistake from the get go, and they know it.

    If they truly regret it, then that's their problem. No one has to put up with the fact that they don't respect relationships.
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    (Original post by Underscore__)
    Wow, you've got one in twelve million people in this country on your side.



    Or a cheater just makes a stupid mistake that they later regret. You're taking a far too black and white view.


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    (Original post by DrLovejoy)
    I am an involved man, and from time to time I have slept with other women 😬😩😂😬😩😂. Yes I know what the reaction is going to be. But why do people get so get up about it. I love my partner and am ultimately loyal to her, she will stay in my life no questions about it.
    I don't understand. Are you with a man or a woman? Are you yourself a man or a woman?

    As for why people get upset about cheating, it's really not that hard to understand. Sex is the most intimate act you can perform with another human being; the thought that your partner is sharing that intimacy with someone who isn't you can be very hurtful and provoke intense insecurity.

    When you're a couple you usually have things in your sex life that you do with each other, you wonder whether they do those things with the person they're cheating with; you wonder do they kiss on the mouth... and sex can so easily lead to love, you wonder whether it goes in that direction.

    So of course people are concerned, hurt, upset, what have you, when their partner goes off and gets ****ed by another person.
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    The former if anything. But I've held this view forever.

    How is this not black and white though? If someone intends to cheat, they know EXACTLY what they are doing. It isn't an accident at all. And they would know that what they are doing is bad and wrong. So why do they deserve forgiveness or any sympathy when they get found out? It's totally a mistake from the get go, and they know it.

    If they truly regret it, then that's their problem. No one has to put up with the fact that they don't respect relationships.
    Well capacity is relative really, not that being drunk makes cheating okay but it's certainly not fair to say someone who is drunk knows exactly what they're doing.

    I didn't say accident, I said mistake. You can intentionally do something that you later perceive to be a mistake.

    From what you're saying why forgive anyone for anything bad they've done? I'm also not saying that someone who cheats should be forgiven by their partner. I started out as saying that just because someone has cheated once it doesn't mean they'll do it again. It can simply be a one off mistake.


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    I'm an Alpha male.

    And girls want to **** alpha males. Let it piss you off as much as you want, but you know it's completely true. That girl you like who is kinda cute in a weird way, but is totally sweet and you have the biggest crush on? The one who keeps going back to guys who treat her wrong for reasnos you don't understand? The one who calls you up at 1 am to cry about how her boyfriend hasn't called her in 3 days, and no matter how long you listen to her, she'll never think of you as anything other than asexual? The one who will curl up next to you on the couch, hug you close, kiss you on the cheek, and never let you ****ing touch her beyond that?

    Yeah, I'm ****ing her.

    The hot girl who won't even look at you when you nod at them and smile? The one who laughs when you trip in the hallway and drop your stuff? The one who comes up and coyly aks for your help with her homework, and then pretends you don't exist once you finish?

    Yeah, I'm ****ing her too, even harder.

    The geeky girl you think might be enough like you that you have a chance with her? She plays warcraft on your server, and watches anime, and reads comics? She's so incredible and you just love her so much but you still haven't worked up the courage to tell her how you feel about her?

    Guess who just sucked me off and told me they'll always love me?




    And what's more? I laugh at guys like you. When you cry about how much girls treat you bad, and wonder why they can't just see that you're a nice guy who would always treat them right? I nod and tell you to hang in there, you'll find someone right for you someday, don't give up hope man. But inside? I'm laughing my ass off at you you pathetic ****. Every girl you set your sights on, who isn't a disgusting pig-monster, I'm going to **** 6 ways from sunday before you even tell her you think she's cute. I won't bother trying when you finally settle for that 350 pound girl who works at hardees, you can have that. Anything else I'm going to *** on her face before you get those lips near it.

    And the biggest reason I laugh? It's not me doing all this. It's the girls. When you cry about how lonely you are? Or talk about how you just want to curl up and dissapear, and all that emo bull****? You're triggering her "Don't ****" instinct something feirce. You're a miserable weak coward, why would she want your genes? Feel free to buy her a new computer and help her decorate her apartment, you're great for that. But her baby-maker is barking orders at her, telling her to wrap her legs around me and hold on for as long as she can. She needs it, on a primal level you'll never get to see first hand, even if you do get a chance to **** her. Sooner or later one of them will lay back and spread their legs, but you won't see any hunger in their eyes. They won't beg you to love them forever and make them yours. You won't know what it's like to see her animal side needing you as much as she needs to eat and breath.




    And she's cheating on you, I promise that. When she sits around quiet and uncomfortable, acting irritable and irrational towards you, wanting you to just back away and leave her alone, it's not her period. It's because I haven't called her for a day or two and her instincts are telling her to go find me. The primitive section of her brain doesn't want to risk smelling like another man when she gives herself to me, she wants me to know she's completely mine. We do things together she tells you she never would. Her pooper? Mine. I want to give her a facial? of course. I want her to suck the *** out of my ****, even though I just finished pumping away at her ass? she's never going to tell me no. She doesn't WNAT to tell me no. She wants me to know she'll do anything it takes to keep me. She'll rim my ass while she's down there sucking me off if it means pleasing me. She'll drink my *** from a shotglass. She'll wear a buttplug when we go out to dinner. She'll sleep handcuffed to my headboard. Anything.

    And then she'll go home to you and tell you she's not in the mood today.

    I'd say you should become an hero, but you being around makes her want a real man all the more, so keep ***ging it up, I'll keep that pussy warm while you're crying in the corner.
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    (Original post by Proud Alpha)
    I'm an Alpha male.

    And girls want to **** alpha males. Let it piss you off as much as you want, but you know it's completely true. That girl you like who is kinda cute in a weird way, but is totally sweet and you have the biggest crush on? The one who keeps going back to guys who treat her wrong for reasnos you don't understand? The one who calls you up at 1 am to cry about how her boyfriend hasn't called her in 3 days, and no matter how long you listen to her, she'll never think of you as anything other than asexual? The one who will curl up next to you on the couch, hug you close, kiss you on the cheek, and never let you ****ing touch her beyond that?

    Yeah, I'm ****ing her.

    The hot girl who won't even look at you when you nod at them and smile? The one who laughs when you trip in the hallway and drop your stuff? The one who comes up and coyly aks for your help with her homework, and then pretends you don't exist once you finish?

    Yeah, I'm ****ing her too, even harder.

    The geeky girl you think might be enough like you that you have a chance with her? She plays warcraft on your server, and watches anime, and reads comics? She's so incredible and you just love her so much but you still haven't worked up the courage to tell her how you feel about her?

    Guess who just sucked me off and told me they'll always love me?




    And what's more? I laugh at guys like you. When you cry about how much girls treat you bad, and wonder why they can't just see that you're a nice guy who would always treat them right? I nod and tell you to hang in there, you'll find someone right for you someday, don't give up hope man. But inside? I'm laughing my ass off at you you pathetic ****. Every girl you set your sights on, who isn't a disgusting pig-monster, I'm going to **** 6 ways from sunday before you even tell her you think she's cute. I won't bother trying when you finally settle for that 350 pound girl who works at hardees, you can have that. Anything else I'm going to *** on her face before you get those lips near it.

    And the biggest reason I laugh? It's not me doing all this. It's the girls. When you cry about how lonely you are? Or talk about how you just want to curl up and dissapear, and all that emo bull****? You're triggering her "Don't ****" instinct something feirce. You're a miserable weak coward, why would she want your genes? Feel free to buy her a new computer and help her decorate her apartment, you're great for that. But her baby-maker is barking orders at her, telling her to wrap her legs around me and hold on for as long as she can. She needs it, on a primal level you'll never get to see first hand, even if you do get a chance to **** her. Sooner or later one of them will lay back and spread their legs, but you won't see any hunger in their eyes. They won't beg you to love them forever and make them yours. You won't know what it's like to see her animal side needing you as much as she needs to eat and breath.




    And she's cheating on you, I promise that. When she sits around quiet and uncomfortable, acting irritable and irrational towards you, wanting you to just back away and leave her alone, it's not her period. It's because I haven't called her for a day or two and her instincts are telling her to go find me. The primitive section of her brain doesn't want to risk smelling like another man when she gives herself to me, she wants me to know she's completely mine. We do things together she tells you she never would. Her pooper? Mine. I want to give her a facial? of course. I want her to suck the *** out of my ****, even though I just finished pumping away at her ass? she's never going to tell me no. She doesn't WNAT to tell me no. She wants me to know she'll do anything it takes to keep me. She'll rim my ass while she's down there sucking me off if it means pleasing me. She'll drink my *** from a shotglass. She'll wear a buttplug when we go out to dinner. She'll sleep handcuffed to my headboard. Anything.

    And then she'll go home to you and tell you she's not in the mood today.

    I'd say you should become an hero, but you being around makes her want a real man all the more, so keep ***ging it up, I'll keep that pussy warm while you're crying in the corner.
    Umm

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