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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Good Evening All.

    I have been in a relationship for the past 9 months with my boyfriend he is refusing to introduce me to his friends and his family.

    I have paid now 7 times...for a Hotel to see him for several weeks at a time costing me over £5000 (I work full time and so does he) i have never been to his house nor met any of his friends.

    Anytime i bring up this i get a blank response and he changes the subject.

    What am i meant to do? I love this guy HUGELY, and he messages me first in the morning and last at night and just looking through our Facebook chats and we we have had over 193,000 messages.

    I get ''I love you so much'' several times throughout the day argh please help!

    Am i wasting my money? , he doesn't earn anything like i do but when i do visit he pays for some meals for me etc.
    what do you do for work?
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    (Original post by DIN-NARYU-FARORE)
    what do you do for work?
    I am a nurse.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Good Evening All.

    I have been in a relationship for the past 9 months with my boyfriend he is refusing to introduce me to his friends and his family.

    I have paid now 7 times...for a Hotel to see him for several weeks at a time costing me over £5000 (I work full time and so does he) i have never been to his house nor met any of his friends.

    Anytime i bring up this i get a blank response and he changes the subject.

    What am i meant to do? I love this guy HUGELY, and he messages me first in the morning and last at night and just looking through our Facebook chats and we we have had over 193,000 messages.

    I get ''I love you so much'' several times throughout the day argh please help!

    Am i wasting my money? , he doesn't earn anything like i do but when i do visit he pays for some meals for me etc.
    He dosen't seem ready to introduce you to his family or friends i would question how serious he is about you.

    Also you having to pay each time for the hotel room is not on he should be paying too.

    It's easy for him to type 'i love you' but its just words they mean nothing unless he shows he loves you and by hiding you away like a dirty secret with no valid reason just shows he might not think of a future with you.

    You need to have a chat with him and tell him its not on.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Nope couldn't even tell you one of his friends names.
    alarm bells right there!
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    How do you know he isnt married or has a gf? I agree wiith the other poster that you seem to be in denial and unable to stick up for yourself.
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    He has another girlfriend? I'd cut and run now before spending another penny. How do you spend weeks at a time in a hotel in his area if you work full time too?!
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    (Original post by dhr90)
    He has another girlfriend? I'd cut and run now before spending another penny. How do you spend weeks at a time in a hotel in his area if you work full time too?!
    She said she is a nurse so she probably works 3 long days and he god knows what he does.
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    If it was serious he would at least offer to pay some of the time. Anyone can text i love you,
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    Can you meet me half wayyyyy

    Right at the borderline

    That's where I'm gonna wait for youuu

    I'll be lookin out, night and dayyyy

    Took my heart to the limit and this is where I'll stayyyyyy
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    Thanks for all the responses.

    I'll see what happens when he messages me i'll ask him about his friends and see if i get anywhere.
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    Has he told you his wife's name? His children's?

    Definitely dump and move on.
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    I asked him what the problem was and he said he is Gay.

    :/
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    (Original post by undercxver)
    Can you meet me half wayyyyy

    Right at the borderline

    That's where I'm gonna wait for youuu

    I'll be lookin out, night and dayyyy

    Took my heart to the limit and this is where I'll stayyyyyy
    Tuneee
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I love this guy HUGELY, and he messages me first in the morning and last at night and just looking through our Facebook chats and we we have had over 193,000 messages.

    I get ''I love you so much'' several times throughout the day argh please help!

    Am i wasting my money? , he doesn't earn anything like i do but when i do visit he pays for some meals for me etc.
    The difference between sugar daddies and their girls versus sugar mamas and their boys is that the former understand the arrangement.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I asked him what the problem was and he said he is Gay.

    :/
    is he being serious?! You sleep with this guy right?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I asked him what the problem was and he said he is Gay.

    :/
    Ok.....I think you should break up with him he must be bisexual if he is sleeping with you.
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    is he being serious?! You sleep with this guy right?
    Yes we've slept together and i told him it's over.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes we've slept together and i told him it's over.
    I think that is the best decision for you and your self respect! Plenty of boys out there who will show you off to their friends

    Well done for making the choice I understand it will be hard
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    (Original post by cshstudent)
    is he being serious?! You sleep with this guy right?
    Lol she books a hotel for them both doubt they book it to have cosy chats under the covers.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes we've slept together and i told him it's over.
    You sure it's not an excuse he is giving you?
 
 
 
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