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    She told the police that she thinks I sent the emails but she said she doesn't have proof. What will happen next? I'm actually really worried. Never been in trouble with the police before :/
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    I don't understand why you think she deserved to be harassed. Two wrongs don't make a right. I don't suppose you have considered sending an apology for the hurt you have caused her. With a bit of skill you could word it so that it doesn't count as an admission.
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    You should be okay if you never do this again... But technically yeah, as someone has already said it can be classed as a criminal offence under harassment laws or the malicious communications act (only if you threatened her).
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    (Original post by Davide_online)
    I don't understand why you think she deserved to be harassed. Two wrongs don't make a right. I don't suppose you have considered sending an apology for the hurt you have caused her. With a bit of skill you could word it so that it doesn't count as an admission.
    I guess I felt hurt by her and I lashed out. I do regret it now as its not helped me in any way.

    What can I do exactly?
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    (Original post by Mhenleyson)
    You should be okay if you never do this again... But technically yeah, as someone has already said it can be classed as a criminal offence under harassment laws or the malicious communications act (only if you threatened her).
    Ok. I didn't threaten her. Just said I would expose her. I won't do it again. But I'm just worried about the police turning up. Anyway they can't do anything until they hear my side of the story too, right? She is biased anyway
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I sent emails to an ex (anonymously) saying bad stuff to her and then emailed her sister and revealed secrets about her. She has reported harassment to the police and I believe she has mentioned my name.

    Will I get into trouble? How can they prove it was me? If I hid my IP address, could they track me down?

    I'm so stupid for doing this. Has anyone ever done some stupid like this and then had the police involved etc?

    I feel worried now. I didn't think she would get the police involved.

    What should I do now? I haven't told anyone about this yet..
    All depends on what you have said. If you've just been ****ging her off then at most the police might nock on your door and say something like "stop it you naughty nasty man" then leave
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Yeah you are right. But she deserved it.
    What did she do that makes you feel as if she deserved it??
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok. I didn't threaten her. Just said I would expose her. I won't do it again. But I'm just worried about the police turning up. Anyway they can't do anything until they hear my side of the story too, right? She is biased anyway
    They're not going to do anything until they've heard your side of things. If they do come to see you, which i highly doubt because harassment is usually a 'continued campaign of unwanted attention' - not just one off like this - then they'll just ask you why you did it. At which point you say what you've said to us - you were feeling hurt and angry, so in a moment of unconsidered emotion you did something non-violent that you've regreted ever since.

    They'll make a few notes and leave. They won't even caution you. I'm like 95℅ sure of that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok. I didn't threaten her. Just said I would expose her. I won't do it again. But I'm just worried about the police turning up. Anyway they can't do anything until they hear my side of the story too, right? She is biased anyway
    Ofc they will listen to your side, but this isnt the playground. Presumably they have copies of the e-mails you sent and they would speak for themselves so whatever their content was would be relevant.
    You forgot the emails to her sister. They will probably give you a warning, tell you to stop harassing her and if you dont they will take it further.

    Do your parents know what youve been up to?

    I always thought harassment required repeated attempts, so it would depend how many e-mauks and what was in them.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She told the police that she thinks I sent the emails but she said she doesn't have proof. What will happen next? I'm actually really worried. Never been in trouble with the police before :/
    TRUST ME this happened to my dad when my parents had a nasty break up, my mum was being a ***** so he offloaded a load of **** to her via txt/email and she called the police claiming harassment. The police came round said "stop it!" and left... yeah you're going to be fine.
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    OP thought "ha, that will show her!" and now he's in a panic posting anon on a student forum about how he's scared of getting in trouble with the police, lmao

    And all this stuff about "she deserved it for what she put me through", you can tell what kind of guy the OP is, a passive-aggressive loser who can't move on from a girl and is now in a big bitter strop.
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    (Original post by MagicNMedicine)
    OP thought "ha, that will show her!" and now he's in a panic posting anon on a student forum about how he's scared of getting in trouble with the police, lmao

    And all this stuff about "she deserved it for what she put me through", you can tell what kind of guy the OP is, a passive-aggressive loser who can't move on from a girl and is now in a big bitter strop.
    How on earth could you ever reach that conclusion? Hmmmmmmmm
    Harassing women pr anyone like this is bang out of order and spineless.
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    Ofc they will listen to your side, but this isnt the playground. Presumably they have copies of the e-mails you sent and they would speak for themselves so whatever their content was would be relevant.
    You forgot the emails to her sister. They will probably give you a warning, tell you to stop harassing her and if you dont they will take it further.

    Do your parents know what youve been up to?

    I always thought harassment required repeated attempts, so it would depend how many e-mauks and what was in them.
    Oh yes I forgot about the sister one. It was around 3-4 emails in the space of 2 weeks.

    I informed my parents as I've never been in trouble with the police before so I thought they ought to know if something were to happen.

    And now I've heard that she is saying things about me to mutual friends and stuff.
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    Oh yes I forgot about the sister one. It was around 3-4 emails in the space of 2 weeks.

    I informed my parents as I've never been in trouble with the police before so I thought they ought to know if something were to happen.

    And now I've heard that she is saying things about me to mutual friends and stuff.
    You will probably just get a warning, but if you carry on harassing someone then they will take it further.

    Its hardly surprising she is telling mutual friends about your behaviour. What did you think would happen?

    Well at least your parents know, so they will be in less shock if you get a visit (assuming you are at home) .
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    You could potentially get in trouble over cyber bullying/harassment. I'm assuming there are no photos that could come under the "revenge porn" law.

    I can't comment on how likely it is that you will get more than a warning, but if you weren't prepared to deal with the consequences then you shouldn't have done it in the first place.

    Incidentally, her telling her friends that you're a git isn't an excuse, go tell your friends she is a git rather than making anonymous accounts and harassing her and her family.
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    I guess I felt hurt by her and I lashed out. I do regret it now as its not helped me in any way.

    What can I do exactly?
    Don't 'fight fire with fire'.

    Wait this out and hope it blows over.

    Whatever the circumstances were between you two you may want to learn from them so that you don't get into this situation again.
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    You will probably just get a warning, but if you carry on harassing someone then they will take it further.

    Its hardly surprising she is telling mutual friends about your behaviour. What did you think would happen?

    Well at least your parents know, so they will be in less shock if you get a visit (assuming you are at home) .
    Yes I have stopped. She is actually telling them to block me, which is funny. The last time we talked she said she will get everyone to hate me. That's what she is trying to do now.

    Yes indeed. Hey I made a mistake in the heat of the moment, but honestly in a way she deserved it. She said some horrible things to me too and was very immature.
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    Don't 'fight fire with fire'.

    Wait this out and hope it blows over.

    Whatever the circumstances were between you two you may want to learn from them so that you don't get into this situation again.
    Yes I will do that. Hopefully.
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    Communications Act 2003, Section 127:

    Improper use of public electronic communications network


    (1)A person is guilty of an offence if he—

    (a)sends by means of a public electronic communications network a message or other matter that is grossly offensive or of an indecent, obscene or menacing character; or

    (b)causes any such message or matter to be so sent.

    (2)A person is guilty of an offence if, for the purpose of causing annoyance, inconvenience or needless anxiety to another, he

    (a)sends by means of a public electronic communications network, a message that he knows to be false,

    (b)causes such a message to be sent; or

    (c)persistently makes use of a public electronic communications network.

    (3)A person guilty of an offence under this section shall be liable, on summary conviction, to imprisonment for a term not exceeding six months or to a fine not exceeding level 5 on the standard scale, or to both.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes I have stopped. She is actually telling them to block me, which is funny. The last time we talked she said she will get everyone to hate me. That's what she is trying to do now.

    Yes indeed. Hey I made a mistake in the heat of the moment, but honestly in a way she deserved it. She said some horrible things to me too and was very immature.
    I think its going over your head completely how much trouble you cna get yourself into with this sort of behaviour. You keep going on about how she deserved it and how immature she was, yet your acts have been potentially criminal and getting a conviction can cause you a lot of grief.

    Just move on. or next time things could be a lot more serious.

    Your true friends wont be bothered, but some of them will think you were out of order in what you did.
 
 
 
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