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    (Original post by Platopus)
    Aww I'll invite you to one. We can have a nice party thread on TSR. All the fun of a party... Without all the bits I dislike: the going out, the dancing, the music, the alcohol, the drunk people, the social awkwardness...
    No offense, but that doesn't sound like a party
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    :\ you at uni?
    No... will be after the summer thoughI'll probably go to some at Uni, maybe I'll learn to enjoy them (stranger things have happened)
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    I love parties. I only go to parties where I know the people there so it's not awkward or anything. As for dancing, no one really focuses on other people - everyone's busy having fun.

    Also, alcohol-wise not all parties have alcohol and even if there is some, you don't need to be obliged to drink it. I have a friend who always refuses to drink anything with alcohol.

    I am incredibly shy meeting new people :lol: but I'm never shy for some reason in parties? Probably because I want to have a good time and some of my close friends are always nearby.

    Socialising's cool since you meet a lot of new people and learn things about them that you never expected it to be true.
    Parties aren't always everyone's cup of tea.
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    (Original post by Platopus)

    Ugh. Not looking forward to prom this year at all. We had a prom at the end of year 11 and my memories of it are not pleasant. And this time, I expect it to be much the same but with alcohol, which I hate. So, it's going to be my worst nightmare. But I have to go because my friends are dragging me.
    What year are you in? Yeah, peer pressure can be annoying. I only went because my friends forced me to and I hated it.
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    I went to a few parties, and universally hated them. So now I don't go to them - or I don't go to the late-night, loud music, heavy drinking variety anyway.
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    What year are you in? Yeah, peer pressure can be annoying. I only went because my friends forced me to and I hated it.
    I just left school but I was in year 13 until a few weeks ago! I worry that the same peer pressure will continue at unit resits, particularly because going to parties during freshens will be the way to make friends. What year are you in?
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    (Original post by Platopus)
    I just left school but I was in year 13 until a few weeks ago! I worry that the same peer pressure will continue at unit resits, particularly because going to parties during freshens will be the way to make friends. What year are you in?
    oh cool, have fun at your prom . And year 13 ... well I just left year 13
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    If you don't like loud parties then just don't go, OP? No point attending something you hate.
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    oh cool, have fun at your prom . And year 13 ... well I just left year 13
    I won't haha. But thanks for the thought. Your school not having a prom?

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    If you don't like loud parties then just don't go, OP? No point attending something you hate.
    I just don't want my friends to hate me
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    I've never been to a party that isn't just me and close friends doing our own thing because I just don't find them fun, and there's nothing wrong with that.

    I hate crowded rooms, loud (usually pretty *****y) music, people screaming over each other, the expectation to get bladdered or shagged or whatever, the whole thing mostly just an opportunity for people to take a gazillion pictures to post on Facebook the next day... no, not my thing.
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    (Original post by Platopus)
    I won't haha. But thanks for the thought. Your school not having a prom?


    I just don't want my friends to hate me
    If your friends care about you they won't hate you for having a different idea of fun. You can just explain to them what it is about parties you don't like eg noise, and say you just want to hang out at small group meet ups. Tell them you prefer small group meet ups cos that way you can hold a conversation with them, and you really like just chatting and chilling with them in a relaxed setting cos they're awesome company. Me and my friends all have different interests and ideas of fun but we're still friends. Some of my friends love partying and getting drunk and others hate that stuff, but we all appreciate that we're different and still enjoy spending time together just chatting about random stuff.
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    (Original post by Platopus)
    I won't haha. But thanks for the thought. Your school not having a prom?
    We had a year 13 prom, in may :/ it's just that most of my friends did't go so I wasn't forced and I heard it wasn't all that good anyway lol.
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    I'm okay with them, I'm quite a calm and reserved guy so it makes me a useful antidote for parties that have too many alpha males and extroverts who try and dominate and photobomb every picture and interrupt every conversation I prefer parties held in the day because they are often more relaxed (which suits me really well) whereas parties that precede a night out don't as much unless there's a room where you can sit and chat to people with limited disturbance.
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    Same, I don't like that type of "socialising" in which getting drunk appears to be an obligation

    Oh, and OP, if you're looking for freshers advice - I didn't attend any events, just went straight into studying. Got a first at the end. But then again I probably spent too much time studying or procrastinating, and never enough time planning for after I graduate, hence I didn't get a job for 7 months
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    I actually didn't turn up to my best mates 18th party because I was so scared about the whole prospect of drinking and people dancing as I'd never been to a ' party ' before so just bottled it ..
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    I personally enjoy them! Especially since going to uni! When you're around people you enjoy spending time with it can be fun socialising with them, dancing and just letting your hair down. I don't get so drunk I don't know what's happening but just enough so I'm more relaxed and I can talk more even with people I don't know that well as I lose a bit of my anxiety.
    I can understand how it might not be other people's idea of fun, especially when alcohol is involved and people may not drink.
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    (Original post by Gnat)
    If your friends care about you they won't hate you for having a different idea of fun. You can just explain to them what it is about parties you don't like eg noise, and say you just want to hang out at small group meet ups. Tell them you prefer small group meet ups cos that way you can hold a conversation with them, and you really like just chatting and chilling with them in a relaxed setting cos they're awesome company. Me and my friends all have different interests and ideas of fun but we're still friends. Some of my friends love partying and getting drunk and others hate that stuff, but we all appreciate that we're different and still enjoy spending time together just chatting about random stuff.
    I know you're right and they would understand. I'm probably being silly but I still feel it's a duty to them somehow, especially as most of the time when we meet up it isn't for house parties and things like that - it is just to chat, shop, go to a cafe etc.

    (Original post by loveleest)
    We had a year 13 prom, in may :/ it's just that most of my friends did't go so I wasn't forced and I heard it wasn't all that good anyway lol.
    Ah I wish that were the case for me too. We have an "after party" after prom too where everyone over 18 (which unfortunately includes me and all but one of my friends) go clubbing. So, I will have to endure two parties in one night.

    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    Same, I don't like that type of "socialising" in which getting drunk appears to be an obligation

    Oh, and OP, if you're looking for freshers advice - I didn't attend any events, just went straight into studying. Got a first at the end. But then again I probably spent too much time studying or procrastinating, and never enough time planning for after I graduate, hence I didn't get a job for 7 months
    Did you manage to make many friends during freshers anyway?
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    (Original post by fefssdf)
    I actually didn't turn up to my best mates 18th party because I was so scared about the whole prospect of drinking and people dancing as I'd never been to a ' party ' before so just bottled it ..
    It was one of my best friend's 18th birthday party last night and she was so excited about it I felt that I really had to go. I actually ended up leaving early I was having such a bad time.
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    (Original post by Platopus)
    Did you manage to make many friends during freshers anyway?
    I didn't make a friend until third year :lol: (and we drifted apart). Apart from that, I did talk to those that I was put in groups with for assignment purposes
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    I don't mind parties. I occasionally find myself at parties going mad on the dance floor.
    But sometimes I just prefer a nice glass of wine and good music at home with nothing but my own thoughts.
 
 
 
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