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    (Original post by sherlockfan)
    I don't think so. She works and I have life of my own.
    Then I suppose the only way you're going to know is if you sit down and talk to her again. Maybe you could put her worries to rest, whatever they are. We can only help so much without knowing the people involved. hopefully you'll work something out, I don't think you'll be living with you dad forever, you'll manage something.
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    (Original post by Profesh)
    Then live by yourself.
    Just because I'm independent doesn't mean I want to live with no company. I'd do it as a last resort but it's a pretty grim option.
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    (Original post by Xellah)
    Then I suppose the only way you're going to know is if you sit down and talk to her again. Maybe you could put her worries to rest, whatever they are. We can only help so much without knowing the people involved. hopefully you'll work something out, I don't think you'll be living with you dad forever, you'll manage something.
    I'm reluctant to raise the issue again as I'd feel as though I was pushing it.
    This is why I don't like having friends. You can never tell what's on their minds.
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    Also can someone please explain to me why so many properties say 'No housing benefits tenants'? What's that about? :mad:
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    (Original post by sherlockfan)
    Also can someone please explain to me why so many properties say 'No housing benefits tenants'? What's that about? :mad:
    Because landlords and letting agencies are prejudiced ********s.
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    (Original post by sherlockfan)
    Also can someone please explain to me why so many properties say 'No housing benefits tenants'? What's that about? :mad:
    Because they believe the better tenants are those in full time employment.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Because they believe the better tenants are those in full time employment.
    That's disgusting discrimination.
    Apparently though it's not illegal to not disclose that you're on housing benefit. So I guess I'd just not tell them where the money's from.
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    (Original post by SmallTownGirl)
    Because landlords and letting agencies are prejudiced ********s.
    It should be ilegal to openly discriminate like that. I wouldn't tell them I'm on housing benefit. As long as I pay what business is it of theirs? Its complete ******** and I can't believe it's legitimate.
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    (Original post by sherlockfan)
    That's disgusting discrimination.
    Apparently though it's not illegal to not disclose that you're on housing benefit. So I guess I'd just not tell them where the money's from.
    They will ask you if you are in employment and request a reference.
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    i hang out with my bestfriend like 24/7 at school but when we had to be together for the French exchange trip, for 5 days we kind of felt sick of each other lol, living together is much different than you think
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    They will ask you if you are in employment and request a reference.
    I am in employment, I'm just not earning enough to afford the astronomical renting prices on my own. Why is that a crime?
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    (Original post by sherlockfan)
    I am in employment, I'm just not earning enough to afford the astronomical renting prices on my own. Why is that a crime?
    They just wnat to make sure you cna afford the rent. Its completely at their discretion who they choose to rent to.
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    (Original post by ihatePE)
    i hang out with my bestfriend like 24/7 at school but when we had to be together for the French exchange trip, for 5 days we kind of felt sick of each other lol, living together is much different than you think
    The difference being that we're both adults...
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    (Original post by sherlockfan)
    I understand your point but I couldnt live with someone who doesn't know me as well as my friend does, and she's the only friend I have.
    Yes you can. Living alone is better than living with people who only make your MH worse. Living with total strangers in a house share, is also better than living with people who only make your MH worse - but alone is better.

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    Also can someone please explain to me why so many properties say 'No housing benefits tenants'? What's that about? :mad:

    I've lived with housing benefit tenants before. Consistently rude to both me, the landlord and the estate agent. Too dumb to figure out how the central heating works, and constantly blamed me for "turning it off". When they took the key for the meter, they would leave the house for 3 hours and pretend to top it up, but I always returned to an empty meter. Broke rules about smoking on the premesis. Broke rules about using an electric heater. Claim to be a single tenant, then cramp 2 extra people into a single bedroom. Most housing benefit tenants are dumb **** who aren't worth the money they pay, and wreck the property when they leave. A few bad eggs tarnish the landlord's impression on the rest of the good ones unfortunately!
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    They just wnat to make sure you cna afford the rent. Its completely at their discretion who they choose to rent to.
    It discriminates against a lot of people who are trying to become independent but would struggle to pay on their own. Renting isn't just a business, people's lives depend on it.
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    (Original post by sherlockfan)
    It discriminates against a lot of people who are trying to become independent but would struggle to pay on their own. Renting isn't just a business, people's lives depend on it.
    For landlords it is a business. They are just interested in getting paid.
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    Yes you can. Living alone is better than living with people who only make your MH worse. Living with total strangers in a house share, is also better than living with people who only make your MH worse - but alone is better.




    I've lived with housing benefit tenants before. Consistently rude to both me, the landlord and the estate agent. Too dumb to figure out how the central heating works, and constantly blamed me for "turning it off". When they took the key for the meter, they would leave the house for 3 hours and pretend to top it up, but I always returned to an empty meter. Broke rules about smoking on the premesis. Broke rules about using an electric heater. Claim to be a single tenant, then cramp 2 extra people into a single bedroom. Most housing benefit tenants are dumb **** who aren't worth the money they pay, and wreck the property when they leave. A few bad eggs tarnish the landlord's impression on the rest of the good ones unfortunately!
    We are NOT dumb. You have had a bad experience with some tenants. Don't tar us all with the same brush.
    How can you advise me to live on my own but then make such an openly discriminatory statement like that which just makes life harder for people like me? You're ridiculous.
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    (Original post by sherlockfan)
    I haven't cried in more than a year. If I'm having a bad day I hardly let it show. Mental illness isn't always obvious.
    you're being extremely defensive and argumentative with every response you get on here... perhaps you'd get further with your friend if you worked on that, I wouldn't wanna live with someone who'd respond defensively any time I reminded them to pay a bill or vacuum...

    I'm perfectly aware people with mental health vary a lot, just throwing ideas out there
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    you're being extremely defensive and argumentative with every response you get on here... perhaps you'd get further with your friend if you worked on that, I wouldn't wanna live with someone who'd respond defensively any time I reminded them to pay a bill or vacuum...

    I'm perfectly aware people with mental health vary a lot, just throwing ideas out there
    How am I being defensive? I'm just stating facts to counter people's assumptions about me and about people with mental illnesses.
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    Get a studio, it's better for your peace of mind.
 
 
 
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