Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free

Where to meet slightly older guys? watch

    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by post-grad-u-ate)
    Going to the gym, you would find a red-blooded male, who is body confident, etc. etc.
    I do frequently, and especially use the weights section, most are either european (not my type) or too young/very skinny. Very very rarely do I spot someone i find attractive.

    Hardly ever get approached regardless
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    Online dating. A lot of men there are usually 30+.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    Online dating. A lot of men there are usually 30+.
    Id rather not tbh, only people on there would most likely be unable to get women in real life and thus desperate/unattractive.

    And I'm not looking for 30+, merely upto late-ish twenties
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    only people on there would most likely be unable to get women in real life and thus desperate/unattractive.
    That's a pretty crappy attitude to have. Sometimes men and women are unlucky in love and need to broaden their horizons, ala online dating. Yeah granted there's a lot of creeps but there's also some good potential partners out there. Saddens me to read this because it's this sort of attitude that doesn't help me with getting a date online...

    Fair enough if you don't want to try it, but don't knock the people who do.

    Anyway, pursue your interests, work hard, and like-minded people will walk into your life. Maybe try volunteering?
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    Id rather not tbh, only people on there would most likely be unable to get women in real life and thus desperate/unattractive.

    And I'm not looking for 30+, merely upto late-ish twenties
    Darling, with that attitude good luck finding a proper man.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    That's a pretty crappy attitude to have. Sometimes men and women are unlucky in love and need to broaden their horizons, ala online dating. Yeah granted there's a lot of creeps but there's also some good potential partners out there. Saddens me to read this because it's this sort of attitude that doesn't help me with getting a date online...

    Fair enough if you don't want to try it, but don't knock the people who do.

    Anyway, pursue your interests, work hard, and like-minded people will walk into your life. Maybe try volunteering?
    sorry, didn't mean it to come across as harsh or insensitive, you are right of course people use to for different reasons. Im just very apprehensive about it personally
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    sorry, didn't mean it to come across as harsh or insensitive, you are right of course people use to for different reasons. Im just very apprehensive about it personally
    I understand, I wasn't judging you.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    bump
    Offline

    11
    ReputationRep:
    Old mandem's homes innit
    Offline

    14
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    Id rather not tbh, only people on there would most likely be unable to get women in real life and thus desperate/unattractive.

    And I'm not looking for 30+, merely upto late-ish twenties
    why would a successful and attractive mature man want a girl like you?
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Tabstercat)
    why would a successful and attractive mature man want a girl like you?
    'like you'... please pray tell what you are implying with this statement, you know nothing about what i have to offer a partner
    Offline

    14
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    'like you'... please pray tell what you are implying with this statement, you know nothing about what i have to offer a partner
    just saying if you want a top 10% man you're going to have to be top 10% yourself. And to be honest don't see much reason why a successful mature and settled man would want a girl who is still in uni.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    Girls from experience where do you meet guys who are in their mid-late twenties? I'm at uni and most people are 21/22 or younger but i prefer slightly older guys who are a bit more mature and settled.

    Guys feel free to chime in too if you have good ideas through experience from mates or such!
    Depends where you are and what you are looking for surely

    if you want a relationship try looking in areas you have shared interests or if fun try a pub or club

    or go older and get looked after
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Tabstercat)
    just saying if you want a top 10% man you're going to have to be top 10% yourself. And to be honest don't see much reason why a successful mature and settled man would want a girl who is still in uni.
    are you male or female?

    edit: male

    whats the issue with someone still being at uni?
    Offline

    14
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    are you male or female?

    edit: male

    whats the issue with someone still being at uni?
    if a guys "settled" (as you say you want), I don't understand why he would want someone who's life is far from settled? surely anyone decent would want someone in the same boat as him - settled, mature, already on the career ladder - not someone still in uni?
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Tabstercat)
    if a guys "settled" (as you say you want), I don't understand why he would want someone who's life is far from settled? surely anyone decent would want someone in the same boat as him - settled, mature, already on the career ladder - not someone still in uni?
    how old are you?

    This thread is only about suggestions on how to meet older guys, not debating whether or not we'd be a good match (your reasoning is questionable btw). The thing about compatible personalities come after actually meeting, i can handle that after.

    If you dont have any actual suggestions then bugger off.
    Offline

    14
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    how old are you?

    This thread is only about suggestions on how to meet older guys, not debating whether or not we'd be a good match (your reasoning is questionable btw). The thing about compatible personalities come after actually meeting, i can handle that after.

    If you dont have any actual suggestions then bugger off.
    it's not about being a good match or compatibility, I'm just stating the obvious - most people want partners who are at the same stage of their life as themselves. By being in uni and wanting a man who is already ahead on the career ladder you're going against that.
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by abcde3237)
    'like you'... please pray tell what you are implying with this statement, you know nothing about what i have to offer a partner
    "Like you" = Someone of your age, who's still at university

    You'd have thought a guy in his mid to late twenties with a decent job and a few years of experience who's looking to settle down soon would normally be able to get someone who's also been working for a couple of years and also ready to settle down.

    A professional guy is unlikely to be specifically looking for someone who's "still at uni" as one of their preferences in a partner, though I'm sure they'd be happy to go for a girl who's younger and still at uni if there was something particularly exceptional about her that they liked and differentiated her from every other university student. So it's just worth considering what that might be, in your case.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by tazarooni89)
    "Like you" = Someone of your age, who's still at university

    You'd have thought a guy in his mid to late twenties with a decent job and a few years of experience who's looking to settle down soon would normally be able to get someone who's also been working for a couple of years and also ready to settle down.

    "Still being at uni" wouldn't usually be on a professional guy's list of preferences in a partner, though I'm sure they'd be happy to go for a girl who's much younger and still at uni if there was something particularly exceptional about her. So it's just worth considering what that might be, in your case.
    fair enough, what if i said that my degree of choice was a longer one (almost double that of normal degrees) and almost guaranteed employment at the end ? Is there that much of a difference between say a 22 y/o in their last year of uni and a 23 y/o who's just graduated? What about a 21 y/o who has graduated, but a 22 y/o who is doing a second degree? The argument doesn't hold much water

    why couldn't someone at uni also be ready to settle down? being of uni going age and being mature/ready to settle down aren't mutually exclusive guys don't generally tend to look for 'career women' in particular, and prefer younger girls just because, no need for exceptions. Trying to understand where you're coming from but it's not making much sense to me
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    I've always been friends with older people so meet them through friends etc
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: July 15, 2016
Poll
Who is your favourite TV detective?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.