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Why do some guys act hot and cold towards a girl Watch

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    (Original post by PHD2027)
    That could be a possibility, but to be honest, I dont think any guy would just give any girl a ride home just to be nice. but I see how that would be out of your comfort zone. also how old is this guy? He may be more into you than the other girls he is going out with that may be the reason why he is more composed around you.
    Thanks for your insight. He's about 22 years old, he said he would drop me off on his way and his friends where going to be there too. Thinking about it he might possibly like me but he should just be himself and feel relaxed because I don't bite
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    (Original post by Lemon Haze)
    Have you actually spoken to him or do you two just wave at each other?
    Yeah we've spoke a few times.. But he mainly waves at me.
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    (Original post by HelpusPleasus)
    Heat is Work and Work is Heat. Heat cannot of itself go from a colder to a hotter, you can try but it just won't want a.

    I have no idea what your talking about.

    How can someone act as a temperature?

    I guess a "hot" person could move really fast and shake rapidly- the "cold" person could move really slowly and hardly shake at all.
    This is the relationships forum not the physics one
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    Men are generally told not to show too much investment into a girl, therefore hot and cold is there way of balancing that.
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    Men are generally told not to show too much investment into a girl, therefore hot and cold is there way of balancing that.
    told by who? Please don't say 'society'..
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    (Original post by hezzlington)
    told by who?Please don't say 'society'..
    Pretty common advice given on internet forums that if you show too much interest in a girl you appear needy and as if you have no value. Putting your eggs into one basket.

    I hate game playing when it comes to dating, but some men's attempt at not investing too much in a girl is to play hot and cold. Clearly it works, because it has invoked a response by the OP trying to find out what's going on.
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    Pretty common advice given on internet forums that if you show too much interest in a girl you appear needy and as if you have no value. Putting your eggs into one basket.

    I hate game playing when it comes to dating, but some men's attempt at not investing too much in a girl is to play hot and cold. Clearly it works, because it has invoked a response by the OP trying to find out what's going on.
    Oh really? Hmm I think it's nice to show interest but then again, it depends what form that takes. And I agree, no need for games.
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    (Original post by AngryRedhead)
    This is the relationships forum not the physics one
    I suppose so, it didn't make much sense to me so I related it to what I knew.
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    You're trying to ask a public forum something that ultimately only he knows.
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    In general, alphas tend to act like that when they like a girl.
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    (Original post by Protoxylic)
    You're trying to ask a public forum something that ultimately only he knows.
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    Protoxylic is wise. Listen to Protoxylic
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    (Original post by HelpusPleasus)
    I suppose so, it didn't make much sense to me so I related it to what I knew.
    In this instance

    Hot means that he would be acting kindly and friendly towards her
    Cold means that he would be shunning and ignoring her, even acting unkindly

    So the fluctuation between the two is confusing and contradictory
 
 
 
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