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    Honestly? There’s no such thing as a “normal” vagina. There’s normal for you, but there is no set standard for how a vagina “should” look. Any guy worth your time will not care what your vagina looks like-certainly not to the point where it would diminish his attraction to you. And if it did? Well, guess what? He wouldn’t be worth your time. You could get the surgery, but there’s no guarantee that it will make you happy or feel confident about yourself and about having sex. In fact, there’s a good chance that having the surgery will damage your nerve endings in your vagina which could make sex itself a painful or at the least, not at all pleasurable experience for you. I think everyone goes through these insecurities. Does it look normal? Is it attractive? It’s not neat and tidy and pink like they are in the porn films….so am I repulsive? All thoughts I’ve had at one point or another-it’s never prevented a man having sex with me or going down on me at all. Why? Because I’ve taken those insecurities and tossed them aside like the worthless trash they are. You can’t let your insecurities prevent you from living your life. Our perceptions of ourselves are often wildly different from other people’s perceptions of us. I think you just have to get over it. Put it to the side, and don’t let it prevent you from doing what you want to do.
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    Honestly I know how you feel. Mine is the same exact way and I find mine disgusting. I absolutely hate it :/ I’m pretty sure my hubby finds it unattractive too, no doubt about it. If labiaplasty will make you feel better I say do it. When I save up money I’m definitely going to get it because I can’t stand living with the thought of “oh my vaginas ugly” It’s gotten to the point where I have to have the lights off when me and my hubby make love/have sex because of my insecurities. I don’t even want him looking at it or putting his face near there or anything that’s how bad it is. I get nervous I don’t even know how to explain it, considering the fact we’ve been together for almost 3 years now and lived together for 2. For everyone saying to get over it and every vagina is different, it’s actually really hard to take in that advice, especially if you’re the one who has it (me.) The sad thing about it is I’ve only been with one person and my vagina looks used and abused LOL. I don’t think it was like that until I turned 16. My hubby made a joke one time saying something like “you’ve been with multiple people, your vagina says so.” It was a joke because I was messing around with him too and I don’t think he meant it like that but I definitely almost cried after that.
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    Find the guy who loves you not your vagina
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    Buy an escort.
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    You got a stinky vagina and that’s the real reason don’t deny it you whore
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    I am a mature man and can say that men absolutely love large inner labia. In fact the thought of it turns me on at this moment and I would love to deflower you.

    be proud of what you have.
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    Hello girl, well I'll tell you from my little experience as my boyfriend and I have recently started sex after 7 months if being together. I was also afraid to start because if the whole vaginal insecurity. Yeah my vagina can be weird, but so can his oenis, frankly, and when you love someone it's those little details that matter but only to make your connection stronger. It wasn't till one day when he spontaneously went down on me that he said he thought it was beautiful, and I was shocked. But truth is that I know he loves me and cares for me, and just the fact I'd trust him to have sex is a big deal and he makes sure I know he loves all about me and my body. And that's how I know he's a keeper, other wise, if a guy is dissmissive and makes you feel more insecure let him go.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My labia minora are extremely enlarged and discoloured. I'm 21 and still a virgin for the sole fact that I am terrified of other people seeing my vagina.
    I've dated people, and whenever it's got to the point that we're about to have sex I get scared and lie to get out of it by saying things like I'm on my period. The one time I did let someone go down on me, he never spoke to me again (could possibly be for other reasons, but it's not exactly helped my confidence).

    I know you will say "all vaginas are beautiful" and things like "look at photos of vaginas online and you'll see they're all different" but honestly none of that makes me feel better - I feel disgusted by how my vagina looks and I genuinely don't think I'll ever be able to bring myself to let others see my vagina until I can afford a labiaplasty.

    I also know that people will say "if a guy leaves you for how your vagina looks then he's not worth your time" but I know I'll always be thinking about it in the back of my head, even if he says there's nothing wrong with it. I will feel like he's lying in order to make me feel better.

    I haven't even been to the doctor about it because I'm expecting them to tell me all of the above and I don't think they'll allow me to get a labiaplasty on the NHS. It's not like I don't want sex - I actually want it so badly - but this is the only thing holding me back. I just don't know what to do any more. If I wait until I've saved up enough money it'll be when I'm well over the age of 26 because I'm doing a 6 year degree and frankly I'm dreading having to wait that long until I'm comfortable having sex.

    I just don't know what to do. Can anyone give advice please?
    Something tells me that you are worrying and obsessing about this way too much. For all you know, you are perfectly fine and will be just fine.
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    I'm closing this thread cos it's old and that gets confusing. If anybody wants to talk about a similar issue please feel free to make a new thread.
 
 
 
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