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    Well I really hope things look up soon. :hugs: It sounds like you've had a horrible week. If there is anyone who you are comfortable talking to, try and contact them. It really works for me. But if not, then I am always there at the end of a PM. :hugs:
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    Samaritans really helped me for a while.
    And it is true, you can only rely on friends so much though i tend to rely on my friends too much and it's bad for them! But try samaritans or radio1 onelife is really good as well. With both of those you can either phone them or email them, in case you're too nervous to actually talk.
    I understand something just triggering it. You can feel really down and then something happens and suddenly everything is so much worse in your mind.
    But just don't keep it to yourself, there are so many helpful people on here who will do their best to help, they always do.
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    Thanks for all the advice. I normally call the local crisis number which I have been given by my gp and when in hospital, and they are good as they are local and if you need to talk there and then, you can actually go and see them - as they have what you would call a safe house in the area.

    Last time I called them they took all my painkillers off me when I was in an impulsive mood, so that is a good thing I suppose. I do stress out when I am about to call them though, but after the first few intial minutes it is fine, I suppose it it just getting throught the beginning of the call.
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    Ringing helplines is really hard but it can help so always do it when you feel your mood tipping dramatically, even if you feel silly for ringing them. How you are feeling now? It's good that they have a safe house in your area, go to it when you feel bad.
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    (Original post by Hollz)
    Thanks for all the advice. I normally call the local crisis number which I have been given by my gp and when in hospital, and they are good as they are local and if you need to talk there and then, you can actually go and see them - as they have what you would call a safe house in the area.

    Last time I called them they took all my painkillers off me when I was in an impulsive mood, so that is a good thing I suppose. I do stress out when I am about to call them though, but after the first few intial minutes it is fine, I suppose it it just getting throught the beginning of the call.
    I agree. Saying the first word can be a real struggle. This is why I go for emailing the Samaritans instead because I can say everything at my own pace and it's even more anonymous than calling - they can't hear my voice, you see.

    How are you feeling now? I find that the aftermath is weird. I often feel numb and like I've blown everything way out of proportion. The truth is, I can't help feeling like I want to disappear sometimes. Feeling like I've overblown it is a type of self-sabotage; it becomes me undermining my own feelings. If that's the case, how are the doctors supposed to help? Is it any wonder that the doctors undermine me if I undemine myself? Anyway, I'm not using this as a cheap opportunity to wail on about myself; I thought that you may be experiencing the same thing at the moment.


    Anyway Hollz, it's quite clear that you need some proper treatment. The doctors have tried you on five different types of anti-depressants and you've spoken to at least one counsellor. It seems that you need to speak to a psychiatrist or a psychologist - basically, someone whose specialism is dealing in people's past, motivations, and so on. There's someting that has stayed with you all this time that medication and talking isn't not helping.

    Are you getting any of these treatments? Can you request them?

    Keep in touch
    xxx
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    Ok, not tryin to offend, mock or push u over the edge here, so here it goes:
    Try at least coping without; alcahol, self harm, drugs or even student forums like this one. isolate urself and keep one thing in mind; "No body, not even me, is gonna **** up my life. I'm gonna make the most of it, cus there are plenty years ahead of teenage life. I don't need anybody or anything else to help me through this." Exercise some strength and stand up for uself.
    Hope that helped. Bit harsh sounding i know, but u gotta break eggshells to get to people sumtimes
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    (Original post by Jonas13)
    Ok, not tryin to offend, mock or push u over the edge here, so here it goes:
    Try at least coping without; alcahol, self harm, drugs or even student forums like this one. isolate urself and keep one thing in mind; "No body, not even me, is gonna **** up my life. I'm gonna make the most of it, cus there are plenty years ahead of teenage life. I don't need anybody or anything else to help me through this." Exercise some strength and stand up for uself.
    Hope that helped. Bit harsh sounding i know, but u gotta break eggshells to get to people sumtimes
    I don't agree with the 'isolate ur self' bit.

    Why don't you join a sports society or take up a new hobby? Something that would keep you occupied and motivated (and which is also a great way to make new friends btw!!) I would serioulsy recommend kayaking :banana: look it up on google.

    I know it's a cliché, but talking to someone can seriously lift some of pressure off ur shoulders. I would also recommend that you get in touch with the Samaritans. You don't have to speak to them on the phone if you don’t want to, as they provide text and email counselling too. give it a go.

    p.s. get off the jungle jucie. you won't find any answers at the bottom of beer bottles.
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    (Original post by Da Hool)
    I don't agree with the 'isolate ur self' bit.

    Why don't you join a sports society or take up a new hobby? Something that would keep you occupied and motivated (and which is also a great way to make new friends btw!!) I would serioulsy recommend kayaking :banana: look it up on google.

    I know it's a cliché, but talking to someone can seriously lift some of pressure off ur shoulders. I would also recommend that you get in touch with the Samaritans. You don't have to speak to them on the phone if you don’t want to, as they provide text and email counselling too. give it a go.

    p.s. get off the jungle jucie. you won't find any answers at the bottom of beer bottles.
    I agree. It doesn't help if you completely isolate yourself from society. I also agree that getting a hobby is a good idea because it is a great way to be distracted from everything else and also a good way to make new friends.
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    (Original post by Da Hool)
    I don't agree with the 'isolate ur self' bit.

    Why don't you join a sports society or take up a new hobby? Something that would keep you occupied and motivated (and which is also a great way to make new friends btw!!) I would serioulsy recommend kayaking :banana: look it up on google.
    I agree. Isolation can often act as a trigger.
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    ok then, dont isolate urself, just grind through the badtimes.
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    (Original post by Jonas13)
    ok then, dont isolate urself, just grind through the badtimes.
    Don't get haughty because your idea didn't suit. Isolation really can act as a trigger. Do you know what hours on one's own can do to a depressed person? I suppose you've been that person and it has done some good, but it's more likely to do harm other people's cases.
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    you're right, this person seems like isolation wudnt be a gud idea. maybe best to get involved again.
    girls get haughty, guys get pissed off. not that i was lol
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    (Original post by Hollz)
    Who do I look to then, I am not asking a lot from them even just to pick up the phone if I need to talk.
    it depends on the friends - if you have had these problems and discussed it with for five years, i dont mean to be harsh but it gets wearisome and ive been on both sides of it both depressed and as a friend, not to mention the worry, your friends will be on suicide watch for the rest of thier lives where your concerned if you do something drastic. It just becomes tiring as a friend dealing with one crisis after another.

    Not everyone can be your rock all the time. Its hard for you and your friends. Try something new, a sprt or something like that, locking yourslef away isnt the answer but at some point you will have to work your hardest to fix yourslef without relying on other people to pick you up. Keep yourself social maybe join a club where people dont know you and you can make new friends, the more people around you the better.

    Giving up is not an answer (and i know that from experiance as well), life is hard but there is so much in there to enjoy if you just look for it

    Pm me if you feel the need to scream
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    Not sure if this helps at all but a while ago I was just sitting in my room and for one reason or another I felt lower than I ever felt in my life. It seriously scared me because I could see no way out, and I felt that I had no one to talk to about how I felt...I really didn't want to be alone because I felt there was a risk that I might cause harm to myself. I rang the Samaritans and spoke to this lady for ages, I went though everything and it helped so much. I'd just been letting everything build up and eventually it just got too much. I've also emailed them a few times to put my feelings down 'on paper', if you will, and it really helps to have someone respond to you rather than what you've written being totally private. Anonymity helps a lot too.

    Anyway I just though that might help - from one Scot to another.

    Best wishes.
 
 
 
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