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    I'm worried because I'm going this summer, in 3 days actually, and I didn't disclose on the form that I self harmed and had an eating disorder because I got a diagnosis after I applied. I also didn't let them know I was vegan and I feel like it's too late to call up and tell them, plus I'm not the best for phone calls. I'm nervous because if it's really hot I will look odd wearing a jumper/hoodie and trousers when everyone else is wearing short sleeved shirts and shorts. On top of that, I'm extremely scared about the food aspect of things and eating in front of strangers. Sorry for this long post, it probably doesn't make the most sense but I'm panicky haha.
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    I'm going next week and I have anxiety and dissacociation and I tend to stay up all night and sleep late and I'm terrified for the people and I have food allergies as well and not knowing what is in my
    food makes me panic and my parents think it's going to be good for me but also i'm terrified i'm going to have a breakdown and have to leave my best friend alone
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm worried because I'm going this summer, in 3 days actually, and I didn't disclose on the form that I self harmed and had an eating disorder because I got a diagnosis after I applied. I also didn't let them know I was vegan and I feel like it's too late to call up and tell them, plus I'm not the best for phone calls. I'm nervous because if it's really hot I will look odd wearing a jumper/hoodie and trousers when everyone else is wearing short sleeved shirts and shorts. On top of that, I'm extremely scared about the food aspect of things and eating in front of strangers. Sorry for this long post, it probably doesn't make the most sense but I'm panicky haha.
    I have literally identical issues (they know about food but not mental illness and i feel like I cant just be like yo severe social anxiety)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm worried because I'm going this summer, in 3 days actually, and I didn't disclose on the form that I self harmed and had an eating disorder because I got a diagnosis after I applied. I also didn't let them know I was vegan and I feel like it's too late to call up and tell them, plus I'm not the best for phone calls. I'm nervous because if it's really hot I will look odd wearing a jumper/hoodie and trousers when everyone else is wearing short sleeved shirts and shorts. On top of that, I'm extremely scared about the food aspect of things and eating in front of strangers. Sorry for this long post, it probably doesn't make the most sense but I'm panicky haha.
    I suggest that as soon as you arrive you ask your team leader for the area manager or whoever the senior NCS person is on site. Tell her/him theres somethings you didnt disclose on your medical form they need to know about. You can then tell her you're vegan and you struggle with self harm, or if you're uncomfortable saying it ask for some paper so you can write it all down and give it her. I was apparently supposed to disclose I had anxiety, but as I was diagnosed 4 days before I set off for week 1 I didn't have chance to. They're meant to give you support or something so you feel comfortable, like maybe let you get your food at different times to the majority of people.

    (Original post by 1olah)
    I'm going next week and I have anxiety and dissacociation and I tend to stay up all night and sleep late and I'm terrified for the people and I have food allergies as well and not knowing what is in my
    food makes me panic and my parents think it's going to be good for me but also i'm terrified i'm going to have a breakdown and have to leave my best friend alone
    My best friend signed up with me and even though I'm not with her, she's doing fine. She finds it much easier than me to talk to people than and she's met loads of new friends. But to be fair, she knew loads of people going with us whilst I didn't know anyone except her, so really she didn't need me. I think your friend will be fine, and if she hates it you can always ring her in the evenings so she has someone to talk to.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I suggest that as soon as you arrive you ask your team leader for the area manager or whoever the senior NCS person is on site. Tell her/him theres somethings you didnt disclose on your medical form they need to know about. You can then tell her you're vegan and you struggle with self harm, or if you're uncomfortable saying it ask for some paper so you can write it all down and give it her. I was apparently supposed to disclose I had anxiety, but as I was diagnosed 4 days before I set off for week 1 I didn't have chance to. They're meant to give you support or something so you feel comfortable, like maybe let you get your food at different times to the majority of people.


    My best friend signed up with me and even though I'm not with her, she's doing fine. She finds it much easier than me to talk to people than and she's met loads of new friends. But to be fair, she knew loads of people going with us whilst I didn't know anyone except her, so really she didn't need me. I think your friend will be fine, and if she hates it you can always ring her in the evenings so she has someone to talk to.
    my dad has now decided I have to go. well ****.
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    NCS means? Sorry, bit lost here


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    national citizen service. It's a programme that they heckle young people to go on every year when they get to year 11. I also have a mental disorder and knew straight away that I would hate it, so i refused to go despite being almost forced to go by a phone operator that would not stop ringing me or my parents. Would not recommend.
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    I've just finished Week 1 of NCS, and to be perfectly honest, I hated it. I knew beforehand I would suffer in a dorm that was any bigger than 4 people. I was placed into a room with 5 others, which then became a group of 8 people. I went and told my leader about this and she told me that it'll be alright and she said I was allowed to go out for walks away when I wanted (which wouldn't work really, as I'm fine in the day, it's the nights I struggle with). Come night 1 I had a anxiety attack, which was my first major one I've ever had, and had to run out the dorm to calm down with a staff member. When I woke up I felt completely out of control - which is the point where I just cannot handle it anymore. I felt my mental state collapse. I wanted to stay in bed and sleep and be alone instead of going out and doing activities. I felt a need to hurt myself, and considered the possibility that my lack of control was because I was doing something wrong. I was back and forth on the phone with my mum asking her to come and get me. When activities started I was made to come and join in with the rest of the team and I felt distant for the first half hour or so. It got better as I relaxed through the day, because I don't have any physical fears of extreme activities, so I just got on with everything. I ended up going home after lunch on the third day. Thing is, the worse part of it is when the others got home I rung up my best friend who went on the program with me and she said she didn't get why I was being 'selfish' enough to get everyone to stop talking at 11pm. But I wasn't being selfish was I? The early night sleep was my method of grasping a control over the situation, and as everyone kept me up it made me worse. I made sure everyone in the dorm knew this, but yet they didn't seem to respect it. Whereas if I knew someone with a mental illness that needed to go to sleep early to be happy the next day, I would want to let them have as much sleep as they wanted. As well as this, she also basically told me that the teams become a big group of close friends and they all think it's gonna be awkward next week because I wasn't involved in these social situations because I went home early. Thing is, I didn't get involved socially with anyone because of my anxiety, but what she's said has made me feel terrible af. She was my best friend. I thought she'd be there to help me get into these social situations but she didn't. She began talking about things that on a one to one basis with me, she frowned upon, but with these people she made them seem to be fun. I felt betrayed and isolated. None of the other girls knew what to say to me because I had a attack. When I went to talk to her she either snapped at me or blanked me out. Me and her are okay now, but I feel partly like my recent diagnosis of anxiety has made her want to push me out her life, because for many years I was the stable, untouchable backbone. It's 13 years of friendship on the line. But anyway, I'm thinking of dropping out seeing as everyone has basically made it clear that I'm not wanted on that program. What are all your experiences of NCS if you suffer from anxiety or another mental disorder? I know the program likes to advertise itself as being amazing, but is it amazing if you suffer from a mental illness? Thanks guys and sorry for not paragraphing this, the new post tool makes it hard to paragraph.
    Well i was meant to go but i knew right away that i would hate it because i told them about my depression and they were like oh don't worry you'll forget about it as soon as you start doing things. like, no. thats not how it works. and they told me not to bring my medication with me because "i wouldn't need them". utter BS.
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    (Original post by hazellawrence)
    Well i was meant to go but i knew right away that i would hate it because i told them about my depression and they were like oh don't worry you'll forget about it as soon as you start doing things. like, no. thats not how it works. and they told me not to bring my medication with me because "i wouldn't need them". utter BS.
    That's horrible. Just like telling someone with heart problems not to bring theirs like, you just wouldn't do it. I know that the admin is disorganised and it appears that most of the funding goes into advertising, as I have minor dietary requirements and they were completely overlooked. But people who are lactose intolerant and are vegan get catered for. It seems that they make arrangements for only extreme of cases, such as physical illnesses and the dietary types mentioned before.

    If anyone else here suffers from a mental disorder this is the last bit of advice I can really muster: it can be a beneficial program for phobias of height, being socially awkward etc. But please do not sign up if you think you'll be able to get better control of your problems, because you are likely not to. The program is a giant step up for anyone because unlike school, you don't know anyone and the staff don't know you enough to properly support you.

    If you want to make a real change to your community, or you want to push yourself out your comfort zone volunteering once a week is a great step. Find something you like to do, whether that's animals or children and its likely that you will greatly enjoy yourself. DofE is also another fantastic solution. I did Bronze level and that really did change my life unlike this government scheme. It was done in small amounts and it incorporates any current hobbies you do. And the expedition is led up to, so you wouldn't get thrown into having to stay with loads of people you don't know. I know I sound like I'm advertising, but I really did enjoy it. Only annoying part is the walking.

    The fact that on the NCS website a story about a girl who suffers from anxiety is on there annoys me. She was saying how it increased the amount of time she had before she had an anxiety attack. Its almost like saying anyone with any mental disorder can go and enjoy it. Like no, everyone with anxiety suffers from different things.
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    i have social anxiety and i hated ncs too. i was in a tent with some of my good friends but i wasn't able to hang out with them during the day or at lunch because they were in a different group to me. i really hated the group i was in for the four weeks because they were all very extroverted and all had such a 'lad' mentality, i felt very much alone. i kept on going to the mentors, several times in tears, telling them i'd like to change groups because i wasn't getting on. they didn't listen. worst four weeks of my life tbh.
 
 
 
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