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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a Muslim guy and I lost my virginity to an escort.

    I'm just living with the guilt because I was really saving that for my wedding night.

    Anyway, would most Muslim girls be really angry if they found out that their husband has had sex with an escort before? What would they do as a result?
    This is something you should tell her before you get married, rather than marrying her and then telling her. If she has an issue, she won't marry you.
    If I married someone and they told me this after, I would most certainly want the marriage to end - not because they weren't a virgin, but because they were deceitful.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no b, but if ive kept my virginity I expect my husband to do the same. accident or no accident. got a problem x
    Good luck finding someone then, unlikely in this day and age. People make accidents, it's apart of life, and if your not willing to accept that, it's going to do more harm than good.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no b, but if ive kept my virginity I expect my husband to do the same. accident or no accident. got a problem x
    Additionally, don't call me b or say 'got a problem' you sound like a chav, on top of that your on 'anon'.
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    (Original post by amrin19944)
    If he tells me that before we get together then I wouldn't be with him. If He tells me after we get married I would just be a bit upset , besides I'm not a virgin myself and I'm a Muslim girl
    Why wouldn't you be with him if you have also lost your virginity before marriage?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    By not 'do it', I presume you mean not have sex. If so, the human race will survive if people choose to wait until marriage to have sex. I am not sure what you are referring to exactly in your second statement about there being 'nothing wrong' in regards to health. You are not being clear enough.

    I think the other anon was being extreme about the accident part, but obviously no decent person would blame or divorce someone for being raped.
    I never said that you can't wait until marriage to have sex; simply that it goes against human nature.
    There's nothing wrong with having sex before marriage in regards to your health.
    Yes of course there might be increased risks of STDs and STIs, but having sex before marriage doesn't necessitate that.
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    (Original post by emobambam)
    With HIV I don't understand why men still have sex with prostitutes. I wouldn't want to take a chance getting HIV.
    Well you'd be surprised, statistics show that only around 1% of escorts have HIV, and it is strongly linked to those of black-African ethnicity and those who participate in intravenous drug share. The vast majority of escorts use condoms, which is 99%+ effective of preventing the transmission of HIV when used properly.

    So in terms of probabilty, we're talking 0.01*0.01=0.0001% and even if the escort had HIV, they would probably be getting treatment for it, thus even further reducing the risk.

    'And I still don't know why people drive cars, you've got 0.0125% probabilty of dying in a car accident .'
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    Absolutey HARAM!

    no but lol wtf Man. Im not Muslim but could you not pull poonani without paying £££ :rofl:

    (Original post by UWS)
    Some might behead your penis so bad move
    ****ing dead

    Op it better not have been a male escort

    U been taking it up the Cadbury's canal
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well you'd be surprised, statistics show that only around 1% of escorts have HIV, and it is strongly linked to those of black-African ethnicity and those who participate in intravenous drug share. The vast majority of escorts use condoms, which is 99%+ effective of preventing the transmission of HIV when used properly.

    So in terms of probabilty, we're talking 0.01*0.01=0.0001% and even if the escort had HIV, they would probably be getting treatment for it, thus even further reducing the risk.

    'And I still don't know why people drive cars, you've got 0.0125% probabilty of dying in a car accident .'
    I'm sorry I wasn't trying to be judgmental
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    (Original post by emobambam)
    I'm sorry I wasn't trying to be judgmental
    Don't worry, I know you weren't. The media potrays STIs like the plague so I don't blame you.

    Even then, most STIs are curable, very easily too. As for HIV, it is not 'curable', and it would be an effort to have to take so many pills for the rest of your life. Getting it would be awfully sad, however I'm just stating the probabilty is extremely low when using protection.

    This thread is more about the social side of what happened.
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    (Original post by lulucoco98)
    Good luck finding someone then, unlikely in this day and age. People make accidents, it's apart of life, and if your not willing to accept that, it's going to do more harm than good.
    Yeah lets encourage fornication...I'm a virgin and I'm saving myself. I'm muslim and 21 and yes I'm a male. Its pretty hard for me to take my mind off sex because of my crazy sex drive I tend to go to the gym a lot and drive fast cars. If I can do it, why cant you? To add to the complications, I am a Macedonian so I look European and trust me at parties its ridiculously hard for me to stay true to myself but I do because I'm faithful to my religion.
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    I would be disappointed but I wouldnt love him any less. His past is his past.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a Muslim guy and I lost my virginity to an escort.

    I'm just living with the guilt because I was really saving that for my wedding night.

    Anyway, would most Muslim girls be really angry if they found out that their husband has had sex with an escort before? What would they do as a result?
    In my opinion muslim girls are just as bad if not worse as muslim boys. Just do the decent thing and don't try to deceive a virgin. It quite clearly says in the book that pure are for pure and impure and for impure. Just don't do it! You'll be robbing her of her right. Just tell her outright before you marry her, after all you're going to spend the rest of your life with her..so don't start it on a lie especially one which could hurt someone you supposedly "love".
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah lets encourage fornication...I'm a virgin and I'm saving myself. I'm muslim and 21 and yes I'm a male. Its pretty hard for me to take my mind off sex because of my crazy sex drive I tend to go to the gym a lot and drive fast cars. If I can do it, why cant you? To add to the complications, I am a Macedonian so I look European and trust me at parties its ridiculously hard for me to stay true to myself but I do because I'm faithful to my religion.
    That's your choice and I respect it, but don't go meddling in other people's lives and belittling there's because you think, you are living yours purely. Additionally, chill out
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    I'm honestly not sure what I would do in this situation but i definitely wont be happy about it. If its the perfect marriage then I would maybe stick with it and ask my dad for advice, if its not and theres already too many problems then i would just say bye. Honestly i would be more understanding if it was with a long term gf or fiance but a prostitute?? One of if not the most exploited professions on earth I would really be disgusted. Also lots of people keep calling it a mistake but honestly lets get real you have to go out of your way to hire a damn prostitute link up and have sex etc its not an easy 'mistake' to make it is deliberate, so yeah it would really skew my view of my husband. Also if i stayed a virgin till marriage i would expect someone as clean as me no doubt not a used person sorry. But i do understand that in Islam your past is your past and you should keep your sins hidden and women have no obligation to reveal their pasts (nor are men allowed to ask) so i think that may apply to men as well (not sure) but i think human nature is not as clear cut, it would definitely cause problems in the marriage for me. sorry
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    What you have done there my Muslim brother is called "Zina". One of the biggest sins in Islam. If my spouse (wife) did that I would have to be cautious when I'm around her. At the end of he day if the almighty and forgiving ALLAH can forgive from Dua'a and prayer, then why can't any other human. Just make sure you lower your gaze as stated in the Qur'an and only turn to your spouse for satisfaction and she will turn to you. Seek to do good deeds, read Namaaz, seek charity work, help the poor and inshallah, Allah the almighty will guide you.
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    (Original post by kittien9)
    I'm honestly not sure what I would do in this situation but i definitely wont be happy about it. If its the perfect marriage then I would maybe stick with it and ask my dad for advice, if its not and theres already too many problems then i would just say bye. Honestly i would be more understanding if it was with a long term gf or fiance but a prostitute?? One of if not the most exploited professions on earth I would really be disgusted. Also lots of people keep calling it a mistake but honestly lets get real you have to go out of your way to hire a damn prostitute link up and have sex etc its not an easy 'mistake' to make it is deliberate, so yeah it would really skew my view of my husband. Also if i stayed a virgin till marriage i would expect someone as clean as me no doubt not a used person sorry. But i do understand that in Islam your past is your past and you should keep your sins hidden and women have no obligation to reveal their pasts (nor are men allowed to ask) so i think that may apply to men as well (not sure) but i think human nature is not as clear cut, it would definitely cause problems in the marriage for me. sorry
    I agree with that, but as stated above if the almighty can forgive then why can't we?
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    (Original post by HX_AZAAN_786)
    I agree with that, but as stated above if the almighty can forgive then why can't we?
    Because we are not the Almighty, we are human beings and we don't have His capacity for forgiveness and mercy, His forgiveness means the transgressor wont be punished on the day of judgement, it doesnt erase the fact that it happened in this world and has very real effects on the others around which we would have to cope with
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    (Original post by kittien9)
    Because we are not the Almighty, we are human beings and we don't have His capacity for forgiveness and mercy, His forgiveness means the transgressor wont be punished on the day of judgement, it doesnt erase the fact that it happened in this world and has very real effects on the others around which we would have to cope with
    I do see where you're coming from. It would be very, very difficult to forgive someone who has stepped out line that much and that too with an escort. It's up there with the biggest sins a person can do.
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    If they truly feel guilty about it, regret what they did and repented then it would be okay. Everyone messes up at some point in their life, and imo it wouldn't be fair to leave my husband for something he already repented for and knows is very wrong. However, everyone reacts differently to something like this. If you're planning on getting married to someone, make sure she knows about this first.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why wouldn't you be with him if you have also lost your virginity before marriage?

    O k that's kind of true
 
 
 
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