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    (Original post by neal95)
    So this person I am speaking to is very nice and pleasant and I find their personality alluring etc etc. However I have never actually met this person and every time I try to establish a meet, an excuse is made/always comes up before I can get down........this person suffers from a myriad of problems including low self esteem/depression or whatever.......do you think there is any chance I will actually meet this person? Do you suffer from similar self esteem issues and if so does this affect you meeting new people? Hopefully someone experiencing similar can give me an insight into these issues thanks
    You need to be careful. You've said you've never skyped, nor do you have her number, fb, whatsapp, etc - how do you know this person you're speaking to is really a female? For all you know it could be a predator or a catfish.

    I don't mean to put a damper on you, but please, please be cautious with what you're doing and stay safe.
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    (Original post by neal95)
    nope, they are quite sheltered/innocent though so I doubt it
    Awh bless. Tell her it takes like 2 mins to download and it's really easy to use and a better platform for communication. Wait.. how do you guys communicate? You can ignore the last question if you want :lol: I'm thinking catfish as well...
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    You need to be careful. You've said you've never skyped, nor do you have her number, fb, whatsapp, etc - how do you know this person you're speaking to is really a female? For all you know it could be a predator or a catfish.

    I don't mean to put a damper on you, but please, please be cautious with what you're doing and stay safe.
    yeah ngl I have had my suspicions actually, but then there is some pretty personal **** and other stuff which I have managed to verify from google, plus the behaviour exhibited dosent seem to be that of a catfish i.e they are not obsessive or trying to get bank details etc....then again some people might have a personality disorder or do it just for kicks maybe?
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    Awh bless. Tell her it takes like 2 mins to download and it's really easy to use and a better platform for communication. Wait.. how do you guys communicate? You can ignore the last question if you want :lol: I'm thinking catfish as well...
    through tsr :L
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    so do you recommend me to keep perservering or not bother? shall I wait for her to chat to me or message her first?
    I think you should wait , and message her , just give her time and after that if that does not work you should just leave her maybe , I don't know what other way to say but if you get too close and she is just dragging you along you could get hurt in the end . Which I would not want to happen to you
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    I think you should wait , and message her , just give her time and after that if that does not work you should just leave her maybe , I don't know what other way to say but if you get too close and she is just dragging you along you could get hurt in the end . Which I would not want to happen to you
    that sounds like a plan tbh I am not one of those people to get hurt, I just need to know where I stand tbh cuz if there is no prospect then I'm happy to call it quits, just rather save time and effort if its gonna end unsuccessfuly anyway
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    (Original post by neal95)
    through tsr :L
    Oh I thought it was through a dating app.. was thinking why are they being so shy.But erm.. realisation. They could be reading this thread rn??
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    (Original post by neal95)
    that sounds like a plan tbh I am not one of those people to get hurt, I just need to know where I stand tbh cuz if there is no prospect then I'm happy to call it quits, just rather save time and effort if its gonna end unsuccessfuly anyway
    Yes it is and tbh it's very true why waste time on someone when you give everything up for them a bs they cannot even give a little bit of their own time for you . And I understand and that's good that you are like that because it just makes you less likely to get hurt ,
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    (Original post by Carrot_Cake_13)
    Oh I thought it was through a dating app.. was thinking why are they being so shy.But erm.. realisation. They could be reading this thread rn??
    maybe it will kick their ass in gear if they do read it

    (Original post by Ria25)
    Yes it is and tbh it's very true why waste time on someone when you give everything up for them a bs they cannot even give a little bit of their own time for you . And I understand and that's good that you are like that because it just makes you less likely to get hurt ,
    yep I am like a robot sometimes I try to eliminate emotions when making decision, maybe too much ha
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    (Original post by neal95)
    maybe it will kick their ass in gear if they do read it



    yep I am like a robot sometimes I try to eliminate emotions when making decision, maybe too much ha
    Looool best of luck to both you guys :'P
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    (Original post by neal95)
    that sounds like a plan tbh I am not one of those people to get hurt, I just need to know where I stand tbh cuz if there is no prospect then I'm happy to call it quits, just rather save time and effort if its gonna end unsuccessfuly anyway
    You have great talent in that and are skilled in doing that , but I wouldn't say your a robot .
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    (Original post by Ria25)
    You have great talent in that and are skilled in doing that , but I wouldn't say your a robot .
    I'm gonna take that as a compliment :P
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    (Original post by neal95)
    I'm gonna take that as a compliment :P
    I meant it as a compliment , sorry if you were offended by what I said ;(
 
 
 
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