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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    what is wrong with him looking at attractive girls on the internet though? why is it such an issue?
    isn't it just the same as looking at a hot girl you see on the street?
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    (Original post by AbsolutelyHaram)
    It's weird that he's looking up girls in the area. Everyone jacks off to Lisa ann marie and ****.

    OP hasn't said if he's messaging or not.

    You sound like a guy doing a liberal arts degree. If you'd be happy with your gf doing this with other guys, you're a cuck.
    1. No, it really isn't at all. I genuinely don't know anyone who DOESN'T do it. Do you own instagram?

    2. That'd be the first thing OP mentioned if it were happening. I don't see why information like that would be randomly left out. If he was messaging then the thread would be titled "Why is my bf messaging people on instagram". Use your head mate. And OP has said earlier that he isn't messaging.

    3. As for your third line, you're clearly baiting. Looks like I was right after all.

    But to anyone else reading, I can understand why you'd be weirded out by it. All I was saying is it doesn't mean your partner is cheating. It's probably one of the least helpful indicators infact. Sometimes I get extremely bored and search for people I know. Or I browse the rest of their profile if they post a picture. Doesn't mean I want to bone everything.

    Personally, I'd be more concerned if he was only searching for a single girl over and over again. That's more suspicious. If it's just multiple pretty people in your area then I wouldn't care.
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    (Original post by Hamo2509)
    How do you know what his search history is, who he's messaging, etc?
    because on instagram his recent searches are there, and his text messages and Facebook messages don't include anything from girls.
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    (Original post by AbsolutelyHaram)
    Why does he look up girls that live in his city, unless he knows them

    Look up monkey branching

    Sounds like he will cheat on u. No its not normal from a decent guy. Looking maybe. Adding girls on social media bad
    That's absolute nonsense, someone who's in a relationship can't make a friend of the opposite sex?


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    because on instagram his recent searches are there, and his text messages and Facebook messages don't include anything from girls.
    You sound insecure and immature. You obviously have a lot of growing up to do and this relationship isn't helping you to mature at all.
    If you're already suspicious enough to be looking at his search history, etc. the relationship is as good as over.
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    (Original post by Lawliettt)
    1. No, it really isn't at all. I genuinely don't know anyone who DOESN'T do it. Do you own instagram?

    2. That'd be the first thing OP mentioned if it were happening. I don't see why information like that would be randomly left out. If he was messaging then the thread would be titled "Why is my bf messaging people on instagram". Use your head mate. And OP has said earlier that he isn't messaging.

    3. As for your third line, you're clearly baiting. Looks like I was right after all.

    But to anyone else reading, I can understand why you'd be weirded out by it. All I was saying is it doesn't mean your partner is cheating. It's probably one of the least helpful indicators infact. Sometimes I get extremely bored and search for people I know. Or I browse the rest of their profile if they post a picture. Doesn't mean I want to bone everything.

    Personally, I'd be more concerned if he was only searching for a single girl over and over again. That's more suspicious. If it's just loads of people in your area then I wouldn't care.
    thankyou for the advice. he doesn't search for a single girl over and over again but there was one girl in his recent searches i have seen before but she posts the most provocative pictures of all. so you really don;t think i need to be worried? i just thought he was looking because guys obviously like sexy girls. everyone's responses are making me worried because you all seem to think its a bigger deal than it seems to me.
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    You have to ask yourself too why you felt the need to check his history on Instagram. maybe it is not such a trusting relationship after all.
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    (Original post by Underscore__)
    That's absolute nonsense, someone who's in a relationship can't make a friend of the opposite sex?


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    Just LOL @ thinking that straight red blooded males look up hot women in their area and arent thinking with their dinks. OP knows somethings up, she isnt admitting or even gonna talk to her guy because women like to deny but she made the thread cuz she knows.It doesnt matter to her BF the girls have BFs. Lets be honest do you care if you see a hot girl.

    Thing is while even married people jack off to porn and ****, alarm bells should be going off if your partner's doing it with actual people they know. Because theres a chance of cheating. My GF is never gonna smash Johnny Sins so I dont give a **** if she looks at 1000 videos of him. However, if she was looking up Chads in her area she hardly knows and liking their pics? Gonna put her in line.

    Good luck with your getting cucked goals of 2016.
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    Flat out ask him. If you say you have a trusting and close relationship then there is absolutely no harm in getting the answers yourself. Don't jump to conclusions until you have got them, even though it must be hard as I know how I'd feel if my boyfriend was doing the same. However, if you feel as though his actions are unacceptable and downright sleazy then you have every right to just dump him...relationships don't always last forever. You could find someone better.
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    (Original post by Hamo2509)
    You sound insecure and immature. You obviously have a lot of growing up to do and this relationship isn't helping you to mature at all.
    If you're already suspicious enough to be looking at his search history, etc. the relationship is as good as over.
    sure, i can be insecure. but i am not immature. i've stated before why i was on his instagram, i said don't snoop and it's not like i look through his phone like a jealous girlfriend. do you think his behaviour is normal then? thats what i wanted to be answered originally, i didn't want to get insulted haha.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    what is wrong with him looking at attractive girls on the internet though? why is it such an issue?
    not committed to you that's the problem. See if he did that with your pics fine(bit weird tho since he could just see u).
    But other people? No commitment, not trustworthy, probably looking to dump you for someone else, all implications though since it could be false
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    (Original post by timebent)
    not committed to you that's the problem. See if he did that with your pics fine(bit weird tho since he could just see u).
    But other people? No commitment, not trustworthy, probably looking to dump you for someone else, all implications though since it could be false
    Yeah I don't think it's unusual to look at girls and stuff.. we all have celebrity crushes and that's totally fine in a relationship.

    But to be looking up girls in his area that he potentially already knows... sounds like he's exploring his options while keeping you on the back burner.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    sure, i can be insecure. but i am not immature. i've stated before why i was on his instagram, i said don't snoop and it's not like i look through his phone like a jealous girlfriend. do you think his behaviour is normal then? thats what i wanted to be answered originally, i didn't want to get insulted haha.
    I think you're insecure about being seen as insecure.

    You're denying your gut instinct, which is telling you somethings wrong.

    Maybe there is a chance he was just looking not wanting to cheat or doing actions that lead to cheating. But its dodgy as. Which is why you should talk to him and clear the air. Nobody on TSR can read your BFs mind.
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    (Original post by Hamo2509)
    Yeah I don't think it's unusual to look at girls and stuff.. we all have celebrity crushes and that's totally fine in a relationship.

    But to be looking up girls in his area that he potentially already knows... sounds like he's exploring his options while keeping you on the back burner.
    Yea this was what i was trying to say, just keeping you on his back pocket
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    (Original post by Underscore__)
    That's absolute nonsense, someone who's in a relationship can't make a friend of the opposite sex?


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    I'm pretty sure he's trolling. Don't bother. Now he's gone off saying watching porn while married means you probably cheating too

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    thankyou for the advice. he doesn't search for a single girl over and over again but there was one girl in his recent searches i have seen before but she posts the most provocative pictures of all. so you really don;t think i need to be worried? i just thought he was looking because guys obviously like sexy girls. everyone's responses are making me worried because you all seem to think its a bigger deal than it seems to me.
    If it's not a single girl then it's fine. Although someone else made a good point. Why were you initially paranoid and checking his Instagram? Maybe he was doing something before that which made you insecure? I don't know much about your relationship with him before the ordeal so I was just wondering.

    Anyway, looking purely at the browsing Instagram thing in a vacuum, it's such an insignificant thing to concern yourself about. Seriously just go on Instagram to the tab where you can see the activity of the people you follow to see how common it is. I'm sure quite a few of the girls/guys will be in relationships. You don't think every one of them is cheating too do you? I wouldn't even care about the girl with provocative pictures. It's not like he's talking to her.

    Regardless, it's no use worrying on TSR. If you're still worried then ask him about it. But do it the next time you meet up instead of via text. Careful of your tone/wording though. If you imply that you think he has cheated on you then he'll get offended if he isn't. I know I'd certainly be offended
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    Does it bother you personally? I think it's normal for most guys to look at attractive women, but I believe that there is a line, and if it makes you feel insecure or puts you down then you should tell him because otherwise your concerns may turn into assumptions which may not necessarily be true. That being said, it can also be disrespectful for your boyfriend to be actively searching for the same person if he's supposed to be with you and truly in love with you.

    Call me an old-fashioned romantic but I take these things quite seriously and I think that it's important for you to at least get to the bottom of why he is doing this, because you deserve to know now rather than later. I'm not saying that your boyfriend is a bad person or cheating etc. but I'd hate to think that he was taking you for granted in some way. In all honesty, I think that social media is nothing but trouble when it comes to relationships and it really shouldn't have to be that way.
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    (Original post by Hamo2509)
    Yeah I don't think it's unusual to look at girls and stuff.. we all have celebrity crushes and that's totally fine in a relationship.

    But to be looking up girls in his area that he potentially already knows... sounds like he's exploring his options while keeping you on the back burner.
    these girls already have boyfriends most of them, and i don't mean to be rude but the girls are way out of his league. i don't think he's even spoken to some of them before or is even friends with them. if he was keeping me in the 'back burner' surely he wouldn't make the effort to come and see me and spend money to see me and buy me things, and he wouldn't keep a girl who lives 2 hours away and is much more effort as his gf if he didn't actually value the relationship. i don't get why everyone is making this such a huge deal, like would you not look at hot guys or girls that you know?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    these girls already have boyfriends most of them, and i don't mean to be rude but the girls are way out of his league. i don't think he's even spoken to some of them before or is even friends with them. if he was keeping me in the 'back burner' surely he wouldn't make the effort to come and see me and spend money to see me and buy me things, and he wouldn't keep a girl who lives 2 hours away and is much more effort as his gf if he didn't actually value the relationship. i don't get why everyone is making this such a huge deal, like would you not look at hot guys or girls that you know?
    You're excusing what he's done and defending. Obviously you think this behaviour is fine.
    Don't worry about it if it's not a big deal to you.
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    (Original post by Lawliettt)
    I'm pretty sure he's trolling. Don't bother. Now he's gone off saying watching porn while married means you probably cheating too



    If it's not a single girl then it's fine. Although someone else made a good point. Why were you initially paranoid and checking his Instagram? Maybe he was doing something before that which made you insecure? I don't know much about your relationship with him before the ordeal so I was just wondering.

    Anyway, looking purely at the browsing Instagram thing in a vacuum, it's such an insignificant thing to concern yourself about. Seriously just go on Instagram to the tab where you can see the activity of the people you follow to see how common it is. I'm sure quite a few of the girls/guys will be in relationships. You don't think every one of them is cheating too do you? I wouldn't even care about the girl with provocative pictures. It's not like he's talking to her.
    if I'm 100% honest, this is my first relationship and i can be quite insecure and i need reassurance. i do admit i sometimes will just look at his search history when he lets me on his phone, he has never done anything to make me think he would cheat. he really isn't like that, i don't know why i look i just do. please don't give me hate for looking at his search history sometimes, I'm just quite curious and insecure okay. i know he isn't talking to girls or cheating on me, i am 57893% sure. i just am worried now because of everyones responses. why is everyone saying this is so bad??
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    (Original post by Lawliettt)
    I'm pretty sure he's trolling. Don't bother. Now he's gone off saying watching porn while married means you probably cheating too
    Can you read?

    Thing is while even married people jack off to porn and ****, alarm bells should be going off if your partner's doing it with actual people they know. Because theres a chance of cheating.
 
 
 
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