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    (Original post by Allie4)
    what do you think I should do? I've been waiting all day for a birthday message but nothing which is really starting to anger me. their birthdays were only a couple of months ago, and despite all the workload i was under, i never forget to send them a birthday message as soon as i woke up. its been a tradition of ours, whether we meet up and celebrate or don't, at least a text or phone call to wish them happy returns was a must. but i get nothing and this is not the first time either that they haven't demanded a big deal for their birthdays but don't bother much with mine.

    i know you're probably thinking 'big deal, its just a birthday' well its a big deal to me because this is a landmark year for us, i made an extra big deal for each of them - message, phone call to make them feel better about getting old then dressing up and dragging myself out for a night on the town to celebrate their big day and give them the expensive gifts i saved up and took weeks to find and buy. and what do i get for my day - not even an effing text!

    i want to send a bitter message to them but i don't know what to say - any ideas? or is that just a bad idea? this is the second time they've done this to me and i'm beginning to feel as if i'm not as important to them as they are to me...
    Happy birthday
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    (Original post by Wordnerd2)
    Honestly if I were you I'd be really annoyed too, you made the effort and they haven't at all. I'd probably slide in a comment about how it is your birthday but just focus on you now. HAPPY BIRTHDAY THOUGH !Posted from TSR Mobile
    thank you wordned!


    (Original post by CaitlinN15)
    I had this last year for my 17th, I'm the youngest out of all my friends by 7 months, I said happy birthday to all of them with a cringey paragraph etc explaining how much I've appreciated their support through my extremely difficult times etc and I got nothing when it was my birthday.I couldn't exactly beg them to say happy birthday to me, so I just left it waiting for them to say it but they never did and 4 days later they said 'they were too busy' but yet they could post snapchat stories etc etc. I was really annoyed because I spend money on them for their presents too, I got nothing in return. My mum said to me, if they were true friends they would at least acknowledge the fact it's your birthday and would attempt to celebrate wih you... even if they're busy that day, rearrange for a different day..but it never happened..whenever I organised something they also pulled out excuses.. since then they've been really self centred about things 'I'm older blah blah'...turned out they admitted they didn't care about me and left.. and said 'at least we're happy and you're stuck crying every day, get lost'...I know how you feel and it is difficult to accept that it's happened, but it's either you move on and carry on or you talk to them about it. Happy Birthday Btw xPosted from TSR Mobile
    wow that truly sucks, what a bunch of b*****s. very true what your mum said, a true friend wouldn't forget but then they never were true friends especially if they spoke to you that way. sickens me how some people use each other. sorry about that but thanks for your wishes too CaitlinN15


    (Original post by Zeealex)
    Sure your friends didn't say happy birthday, i can understand why people would be angry at that, especially if it's something you look forward to. however, you have a choice here, you can sit there being angry about it, or you can go out and enjoy yourself on your own.pardon my french, but F*** em! go to the cinema and get yourself and extra large pizza all to yourself.My grandmother gave my sister £500 on her 18th birthday, on my 18th, i got £20... and on my 19th my sister made it all about her, I was sat there in the city center while her boyfriend signed up for a credit card and we went into all the shops SHE wanted to go to. then she got drunk despite me saying i didn't want anyone to get drunk (I get serious anxiety around drunk people) and she then spiked my drink because she wanted me to 'loosen up a bit'. you can imagine how fun that was. I think the one thing i'm bitter about there is my grandmother, because she always favored my sister over me and not just monetarily.At the end of the day, people aren't you, you might go above and beyond to say happy birthday, but you really don't know their present circumstances, we're only human, sometimes we do forget.as I said, you have a choice, sit there and be angry about it therefore in retrospect the only person ruining your birthday is you, OR you can go out and have some fun and forget about it all. the choice is yours, you get what you're given, it's all how you use it.
    oh don't worry i still had a good day. got nice presents, went for a meal with my parents and siblings and then spent 4 hours with my adorable three-year old nieces, both of whom gave me one of their teddies as a present bless them so i'm still happy. just annoyed given these were supposed to be my friends and i went to great lengths for them on their birthdays but... you're right, i'm not going to let them spoil my day!


    (Original post by cpaige21)
    My friends all forgot my birthday this year as well. It wasn't until I put a picture up on snapchat that they then sent me a message saying happy Birthday. Worst of all my we have a group chat for my family and they all forgot as well. My sister had to post in the group chat before anybody else realised. So basically the only people who remembered were my mum dad and sister. It's just what happens when you get older.Posted from TSR Mobile
    so much to look forward to


    (Original post by a_d_e)
    they may be planning a surprisewe did that for my brothers birthdayeveryone outside our immediate family didn't say anything no texts or fb posts then he had his surprise party
    If only, it would be nice but i know them too well. they don't do stuff like surprise parties. anything that involves planning is something they avoid...


    (Original post by Abclkj)
    I'm sorry Happy birthday
    thank you abclkj!



    (Original post by CorpusLuteum)
    My friends would forget my birthday too if i didn't remind them so often
    aww...



    (Original post by john2054)
    Happy birthday
    thank you john2045!
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    To be honest, Facebook is the only reason I remember birthdays. Still, I would message them personally a happy birthday and a nice message.
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    (Original post by Allie4)
    what do you think I should do? I've been waiting all day for a birthday message but nothing which is really starting to anger me. their birthdays were only a couple of months ago, and despite all the workload i was under, i never forget to send them a birthday message as soon as i woke up. its been a tradition of ours, whether we meet up and celebrate or don't, at least a text or phone call to wish them happy returns was a must. but i get nothing and this is not the first time either that they haven't demanded a big deal for their birthdays but don't bother much with mine.

    i know you're probably thinking 'big deal, its just a birthday' well its a big deal to me because this is a landmark year for us, i made an extra big deal for each of them - message, phone call to make them feel better about getting old then dressing up and dragging myself out for a night on the town to celebrate their big day and give them the expensive gifts i saved up and took weeks to find and buy. and what do i get for my day - not even an effing text!

    i want to send a bitter message to them but i don't know what to say - any ideas? or is that just a bad idea? this is the second time they've done this to me and i'm beginning to feel as if i'm not as important to them as they are to me...
    Oh, I'm sorry! That's really horrible. Perhaps they don't realise it is your birthday. Is your birthday public on Facebook? If not, they won't have had a notif telling them it's today.
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    Next time have a party, serve alcohol and no one will forget to turn up and say happy birthday
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    Happy birthday

    I understand how that must've felt, I've had that happen to me before but don't hold it against them. Keep your chin held high and try to enjoy the rest of your birthday

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    Happy bornday! :party2:

    That's why I don't expect much to happen on my birthdays anymore. I just make a plan to enjoy myself when my birthday comes.
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    I think I speak for most of us, but without Facebook we wouldn't remember most of our friends' birthdays.
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    If they're your ' friends ' then they would remember your birthday. Perhaps try talking to them and maybe they'll clock on
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    You should have posted a 'it's my birthdayyyyy!!' or 'omg can't believe I'm ...' snap on your snapchat story, if they saw it and didn't wish happy birthday I'd be upset, but it might be that they genuinely forgot your birthday.
 
 
 
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