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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    That's stupid. You shouldn't have sent him any money. Anyway - in situations like that you need to act AS IF YOU DON'T CARE. You should've just said whatever, send it to everyone, make me into a ****ing amateur pornstar if you want. He'd probably leave you alone then.
    It is a girl, but a different one. I know I should of but I bottled it

    (Original post by 999tigger)
    why on earth send them money? it will only encourage them to ask for more.
    I didn't send much. I know I probably shouldn't have but I made it clear I didn't have a job and didn't have any more money. I thought in the moment it was better to give them something so they considered it a success and move on but I know I probably shouldn't have.

    I know it was probably all a bluff but didn't want to take the risk
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It is a girl, but a different one. I know I should of but I bottled it



    I didn't send much. I know I probably shouldn't have but I made it clear I didn't have a job and didn't have any more money. I thought in the moment it was better to give them something so they considered it a success and move on but I know I probably shouldn't have.

    I know it was probably all a bluff but didn't want to take the risk
    Doubt it, they use female names for western union too, 99% sure it's one of those african male scammers.
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    Doubt it, they use female names for western union too, 99% sure it's one of those african male scammers.
    Reported for racism and sexism
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    (Original post by SA-1)
    Reported for racism and sexism
    Not even funny. But at least you tried! :giggle:
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    There's not much more you can do now. Other than bluff it out and wait. There is a lesson here though. I think we need to value ourselves a little more than we do nowadays. Sharing ourselves intimately with all and sundry in person and electronically can backfire badly. We all seem to want instant satisfaction from all areas in our lives.
    I'm not trying to judge anyone here. It may work for some but is catastrophic for others. Above all if we love and value ourselves a little more we can hopefully lessen these problems

    I'm really sorry for what you're going through. It must be awful. Hopefully it's over and they've moved on to the next. I hope that you are able to sort it. I wish you all the best
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There's not much more you can do now. Other than bluff it out and wait. There is a lesson here though. I think we need to value ourselves a little more than we do nowadays. Sharing ourselves intimately with all and sundry in person and electronically can backfire badly. We all seem to want instant satisfaction from all areas in our lives.
    I'm not trying to judge anyone here. It may work for some but is catastrophic for others. Above all if we love and value ourselves a little more we can hopefully lessen these problems

    I'm really sorry for what you're going through. It must be awful. Hopefully it's over and they've moved on to the next. I hope that you are able to sort it. I wish you all the best
    Thank you! I know, it was stupid. I would never usually do stuff like that. She kept calling and I just picked up and she was half nude already and it just went on from there.

    I'm pretty worried tbh. Just sitting around waiting for a notification to pop up on facebook I don't want to have to delete it either but as long as it's there the person can just come back and they know the names and accounts of my family as well

    Hopefully it's over as you said. Thanks for your words
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you! I know, it was stupid. I would never usually do stuff like that. She kept calling and I just picked up and she was half nude already and it just went on from there.

    I'm pretty worried tbh. Just sitting around waiting for a notification to pop up on facebook I don't want to have to delete it either but as long as it's there the person can just come back and they know the names and accounts of my family as well

    Hopefully it's over as you said. Thanks for your words
    Seriously, don't worry. It'd be so much worse if you were a girl. The slut shaming would be never ending.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you! I know, it was stupid. I would never usually do stuff like that. She kept calling and I just picked up and she was half nude already and it just went on from there.

    I'm pretty worried tbh. Just sitting around waiting for a notification to pop up on facebook I don't want to have to delete it either but as long as it's there the person can just come back and they know the names and accounts of my family as well

    Hopefully it's over as you said. Thanks for your words

    I'm pretty sure it will be. You've definitly been the victim of a scam in my opinion. However much that counts!!
    They took £50 from you. More than they expected I guess. You didn't say how long ago you sent the money. If it's a few days ago I would think that's it and they've long since moved on to the next victim.
    Have you talked to your mum? My lads are 23 and 21 and I would be livid with them if they did it but they know that my bark is worse than my bite and I only bark for thirty seconds!!! Then it would be "action stations" to help them sort it out. If you don't have that support you can PM if you need help. For now I would suggest you try your very hardest to put it behind you if you can. You won't believe me now but one day you will laugh about it.
    I'm here if you need me.
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    £50 - the cost of stupidity
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm pretty sure it will be. You've definitly been the victim of a scam in my opinion. However much that counts!!
    They took £50 from you. More than they expected I guess. You didn't say how long ago you sent the money. If it's a few days ago I would think that's it and they've long since moved on to the next victim.
    Have you talked to your mum? My lads are 23 and 21 and I would be livid with them if they did it but they know that my bark is worse than my bite and I only bark for thirty seconds!!! Then it would be "action stations" to help them sort it out. If you don't have that support you can PM if you need help. For now I would suggest you try your very hardest to put it behind you if you can. You won't believe me now but one day you will laugh about it.
    I'm here if you need me.
    All this was happening as I made the thread so about an hour ago. It's been about that long since I deleted and blocked them.

    Not told anyone about it, just told my aunt, uncle and sister who were listed on fb to block the person if they appear but didn't give the real reason for it.

    Don't want to have to tell anyone about it.

    I think it will be fine. If they come back again I'll just say no and tell them I've already told my family what happened.

    Thanks for your help!
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    go to the police she can get into SERIOUS trouble. If you dont she will do it to someone else, and the consequences can be deadly. People have committed suicide because of this.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    All this was happening as I made the thread so about an hour ago. It's been about that long since I deleted and blocked them.

    Not told anyone about it, just told my aunt, uncle and sister who were listed on fb to block the person if they appear but didn't give the real reason for it.

    Don't want to have to tell anyone about it.

    I think it will be fine. If they come back again I'll just say no and tell them I've already told my family what happened.

    Thanks for your help!
    Ok. Fingers crossed. I've just noticed that my posts are anon No idea why but I am a bit of a dinosaur. My username is now listed. PM if you need help
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    (Original post by Emilycunningham)
    go to the police she can get into SERIOUS trouble. If you dont she will do it to someone else, and the consequences can be deadly. People have committed suicide because of this.
    There's absolutely nothing a local town police station can do about someone in Ivory Coast though?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There's absolutely nothing a local town police station can do about someone in Ivory Coast though?
    It doesnt matter where the person is, go to the police and they will carry out an investigation. If someone is doing something illegal, then of course no matter where they are the police wouldnt just say 'oh thats to far away.'

    Whatever you do, dont pay her- report her man seriously
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    (Original post by SA-1)
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    Zayn is Bae advice pls
    Is this person also a prince who'll give you £10m if you drop £10k in their bank account??
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    (Original post by Emilycunningham)
    It doesnt matter where the person is, go to the police and they will carry out an investigation. If someone is doing something illegal, then of course no matter where they are the police wouldnt just say 'oh thats to far away.'

    Whatever you do, dont pay her- report her man seriously
    That does happen an awful lot, you do realise the police have serious constraints in terms of jurisdiction and cost/benefit analysis.
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    (Original post by SA-1)
    Reported for racism and sexism
    It's actually 100% true. That's not racist and sexist.
    It is an African male scammer. A similar situation happened to me as well
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    To summarise:

    -there is no way British police can catch the perpetrator. Ivory Coast is too far and too unorganised for them to have any power

    -the 'girl' you watched was a prerecorded video. A man played it to you and watched you fiddle with yourself. He probably doesn't care what he saw, but maybe he secretly enjoyed it?

    -if your face or other identifying features weren't in the video, you should have just deleted your account and not paid

    -if it did have identifying features, probably would have been best to just pay like £10 and say that's all you have. It'll go a long way in the Ivory Coast and they'll be satisfied!

    I know lots of people say you shouldn't have paid, but I think paying a smaller amount and blocking would have been best.
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    (Original post by TelAviv)
    To summarise:

    -there is no way British police can catch the perpetrator. Ivory Coast is too far and too unorganised for them to have any power

    -the 'girl' you watched was a prerecorded video. A man played it to you and watched you fiddle with yourself. He probably doesn't care what he saw, but maybe he secretly enjoyed it?

    -if your face or other identifying features weren't in the video, you should have just deleted your account and not paid

    -if it did have identifying features, probably would have been best to just pay like £10 and say that's all you have. It'll go a long way in the Ivory Coast and they'll be satisfied!

    I know lots of people say you shouldn't have paid, but I think paying a smaller amount and blocking would have been best.
    I agree with all this. There is a danger that the perpetrator will take the money and ask for more, so pay them but explain that you are going to block them and leave FB so they don't have a way to contact you again.


    Then just chalk it up as a lesson to learn.
 
 
 
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