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    Awwwww bless you - you sound so adorable :hugs:

    Hey, if people are finding you clever and funny, then you ARE clever and funny. Why believe something that is contrary to the evidence? - and the best evidence of what you're like is perhaps how people find you.

    Well, stop yourself "grading" yourself! Not everything you say must be "clever" or "witty" - it could be constructive, it could be serious, it could be just a comment, an expression of your own opinion. You're not a living clown - you don't need to feel the need to be constantly entertaining people, and you don't need to make people laugh at all times, nor must you appear to be clever to everyone to make you clever. If you're clever and witty, whether you express that or not, you are still clever and witty! It's like me with Art - just cus I'm not drawing at this moment, and I make mistakes and not every one of my pictures/paintings are excellent, does not mean I'm not good at Art. Same principle.

    Just be happy with who you are. You're not a show host - it's ok to be quiet once in a while, it's ok to be not the one making all the jokes, it's ok not being the cleverest in the group - in the end your friends appreciate you for who you are, not how much you can make them laugh and not how clever you seem. They appreciate your friendship and that's more important than intelligence or wittiness.
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    (Original post by Persephone*)
    From the style in which you wrote your message you honestly don't sound like a dull person at all.
    that ^
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    i'm actually addicted to a pc game (frozenbubble) but i won't say i'm 'dull' as i have lots of other things to do. i think you're just lazy and abit bored:p: there's loads of 'i'm bored' threads around and some of the ideas in them are pretty good.
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    A friend of mine once told me that he thought I was "boring and mundane". It was one of the most hard-hitting things anyone's ever said to me in my life. I would recommend getting into a new crowd, diversifying.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Seriously, I'm dull. I tend not to do anything interesting, I only play video games until my eyes go square, sit in my room and watch TV. Starting to get sick of it now. I've a good range of friends and used to go out quite a bit but I feel like a dirty dull shoe next to their polished selfs. They seem to think I'm funny and interesting.... errr... dunno where they got that idea, but apparantly I had a Golden Era a few years back where I was a jolly Santa Claus esque person 'who took things as they came'. It's strange I even have as many friends as I do now... but somehow I managed... tho back in Primary school I was as lonely as Jesus in the Desert, not by choice...

    Help me shed the shackles of dullness! Is it possible to shine after being dull for so long? I know maybe I can do it because truly dull people are those who don't know any better and don't really want to change. I'm not a stupid guy, every IQ test I've ever taken puts me up at 122 and I do pretty good academically, I did a few to get the average... sadddddd I know. I'm not blowing my trumpet because IMO I don't have one. I have a **** poor memory and concentration so I reckon my IQ is going to waste... and I'm sadly a dull witted asshat. Wish I was more imaginative and creative also, sometimes I get these periods where I'm 'me x5' and I feel more capable and funny, with a better memory but they tend to go after a week or two and I sink into miserableness...

    So I reckon I have it in me. It just feels like I'm trying to draw blood from a stone most of the time, I'm just stuck for conversation... it doesn't help that I can't really work up an interest in most things saying as I'm looking inward and trying to work out the mudpit that is my mind... but when I feel 'x5' I tend to get interested but it's hard keeping it up when the inevitable ****ty mood comes by to piss me off even more. I have like an eternal invigilator in my mind that puts a grade on anything I say, and if it aint witty or clever enough then it puts me down a peg lower in terms of happiness.

    I'm applying for jobs now to do away with the holiday boredom, but I'm worried I'll have the other staff bringing pillows into work saying as I'm usually a conversational dud.
    :love:

    You're Mr Metaphor.

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    First, I loved your post. It's well written, amusing and heart-warming. In order to be "more interesting", I think you need to do more. Engage in more activities, learn new skills, read good magazines (they often provide excellent light talking points). As you engage with the world in more ways, you gain several more perspectives from which to share it with other people. I think you're possibly also too self-conscious. Often people who think they're dull are just repressed. They won't speak because, as you suggest, they don't suppose they have much worth saying. While on that point, I think part of your difficulty is that you see social intercourse as a performance, with you playing a character perhaps. That attitude makes it difficult to engage with people beyond a superficial level, forever judging their response, and speaking for effect, rather than simply enjoying the process of interaction. Talk about things as they grab your attention, rather than scripting it out. You should loosen up, and you'll start to grow into your own social persona, and find your niche, and thence build up a natural confidence in conversation and social interaction. Now go forth and do these things.
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    Ah your being so silly lol.

    I found your OP really funny, especially the word "asshat" that amused me on the most childish level, its probably going to be in my daily vocabulary.

    But back on topic, if you want stuff to talk about TSR is CHOCK full of conversation ammunition. If you want to say something funny then read more funny books, trust me it rubs off.

    If you cant think of anything your passoinate about (a problem I have had) then get a hobby, I intend to buy a bass guitar when I have enough money (even though im 19 and probably "too old" or whatever :rolleyes: ) Im also an obbsessive compulsive Skinny Puppy fan and try to assimilate people I know into liking them too, if that doesnt give me stuff to talk about it at least makes me amicably crazy i geuss.

    Alternatively find out what your freinds are talking about (e.g. my mate is a Ford Escort lover/nutter) which lead me to read the entire Wikipedia blurb on Zetec engines just so that I could have something more in common with him, and it turned out to be more interesting than I previously thought it would be.

    As for "jolly santa clause type person" I dont know, so long as you havent become the anti-santa or "grinch" if you will then its not a problem.

    I used to be a videogames obsessive too but I havent played one since Half life2, there ARE other things out there to do :-)
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    may have been disclosed but i'm lazy. is the original poster male or female?
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    Like most other people have said, you actually sound dead interesting, witty and intelligent from the manner you have written your post.
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    (Original post by krisss)
    Like most other people have said, you actually sound dead interesting, witty and intelligent from the manner you have written your post.
    But life isn't a forum post!

    SIGH
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    (Original post by HearTheThunder)
    But life isn't a forum post!

    SIGH
    yea. people like me in real life.

    how fortunate.
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    There are two types of advice, good and helpful advice is one of them. Amusing and bad advice is the other. Hopefully I will try and get a good balance this time

    Organised crime is one option, you'd meet all sorts of interesting and lethal people.

    What about the Légion étrangère? They'd take anyone, even someone as dull as you lol j/k

    Political activism - either ultra-right or ultra left. For the right, I'd recommend Combat 18 or the Prussian Blue fan club, depending on how racist or violent you want to be. For the left, the Anarchist Federation or the EZLN, or the Nepalese Maoists. Small language barrier, but I'm sure someone as dull as you has plenty of time on their hands.

    Now that I've finished crushing your self esteem, it's time for some good advice.

    Take up a bizzare hobby, something you would never see yourself doing. I'm into dressing up like a Waffen-SS Panzergrenadier from 1943-45, and I never thought I'd end up with a set of sieg runes on my neck!

    Host a party perhaps? Throw out some drinks and food and watch the good times roll.
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    (Original post by Chezua)
    i'm actually addicted to a pc game (frozenbubble) but i won't say i'm 'dull' as i have lots of other things to do. i think you're just lazy and abit bored:p: there's loads of 'i'm bored' threads around and some of the ideas in them are pretty good.
    Did you always have this habit of repeating things people said?
 
 
 
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