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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    Spoken from a woman who knows best on this topic.
    You'd be surprised.
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    I'm a 23 year-old girl who's single, and there is a guy i've hooked up with a few times.

    Neither of us wanted a long-distance relationship, but we were attracted to each other, so we agreed to casually see each other a little.
    So you've both agreed. It's straight to the point. You're both attracted to each other. It's consensual. That's fantastic. No problems.

    We both wanted to do it, and both of us were single,
    Great. You're both single and you've both agreed. It's consensual.

    but when I told a couple of friends, they were a little judgmental.

    One of them said behind my back that she didn't know I was 'like that' and said I shouldn't 'give men whatever they want'. etc.
    Your 'friends' sound bitter and jealous. Who cares... just get on with it, it's your life. Not theirs to dictate.

    I have been with less than 5 guys, and 2 of them were long-term relationships.
    Irrelevant.

    We have used protection, have both been single and I don't think we are harming anybody.
    Awesome. You're both taking precautions, both single and to the best of your knowledge you're not harming anyone. Again, it's consensual.

    Is there anything wrong with what I'm doing? I feel like there is some kind of taboo attached to women admitting they want to have sex, and to doing it with someone they aren't in a relationship with.
    Nope nothing wrong with it. Welcome to 1st World Feminism - best to just ignore them. Enjoy!
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    Sex is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. It's normal and human to need to get yoself some.

    The obsession with female chastity, particularly in a religious context, is disturbing. Honey, you're not a piece of meat or some man's object. If you have sex a few times you aren't spoiled, devalued, "easy", whatever you want to say. If anything, it'll probably just make you a better partner when you eventually find The One.

    Anyone who insults you is either jealous because you've had sex with a couple of guys but not him (so he's below your standards and insulted), brainwashed with religion or if it's a girl then she ain't as pretty as you and can't get that guy you nailed.

    Never, ever feel bad for indulging yourself. You were safe, you had a good time, don't regret it because other people are sore about it. Enjoy your life
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a 23 year-old girl who's single, and there is a guy i've hooked up with a few times.

    Neither of us wanted a long-distance relationship, but we were attracted to each other, so we agreed to casually see each other a little.

    We both wanted to do it, and both of us were single, but when I told a couple of friends, they were a little judgmental.

    One of them said behind my back that she didn't know I was 'like that' and said I shouldn't 'give men whatever they want'. etc.

    I have been with less than 5 guys, and 2 of them were long-term relationships.

    We have used protection, have both been single and I don't think we are harming anybody.

    Is there anything wrong with what I'm doing? I feel like there is some kind of taboo attached to women admitting they want to have sex, and to doing it with someone they aren't in a relationship with.
    No, there's nothing wrong with it. Your friends opinions are influenced too much on stigma.


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    Your friends are either jealous or pathetically prude

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    (Original post by 13 1 20 8 42)
    Girls are often the worst 'slut shamers' it would seem
    it is true most guys just want in unless it's a betrayal against the bro code but women don't have the same reason so spite and jealousy are very often the most common emotions in this situation
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    There's nothing to be jealous about, I don't see why people are saying your friends are jealous.
    I think they were just a bit surprise. The fact that you usually have sex is when you're in a relationship, now you're suddenly just casually hooking up with a guy is a bit of a surprise.
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    Lol wtf you are an adult do whatever you want lol. Idk why your friends care.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a 23 year-old girl who's single, and there is a guy i've hooked up with a few times.

    Neither of us wanted a long-distance relationship, but we were attracted to each other, so we agreed to casually see each other a little.

    We both wanted to do it, and both of us were single, but when I told a couple of friends, they were a little judgmental.

    One of them said behind my back that she didn't know I was 'like that' and said I shouldn't 'give men whatever they want'. etc.

    I have been with less than 5 guys, and 2 of them were long-term relationships.

    We have used protection, have both been single and I don't think we are harming anybody.

    Is there anything wrong with what I'm doing? I feel like there is some kind of taboo attached to women admitting they want to have sex, and to doing it with someone they aren't in a relationship with.
    Typical women.

    Always want to be treated equal and all, but they are their own worst enemies, judge each other harsher than men, etc.

    No, you are not easy, and even if you were, so what? Most guys are "easy", what's wrong with easy?

    If they want to judge you and be *****y friends, well maybe you need different friends.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There's nothing to be jealous about, I don't see why people are saying your friends are jealous.
    I think they were just a bit surprise. The fact that you usually have sex is when you're in a relationship, now you're suddenly just casually hooking up with a guy is a bit of a surprise.
    What is the need to be anon here?
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    Are they really your friends if they're ****ging you off?? There's nothing wrong with doing what you want to do. Don't knock it til you've tried it👍🏼👍🏼
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    (Original post by uglyslut)
    yeah ur being an easy **** letting him use u he doesnt care about u he just wants sex
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    thanks so much for all of the replies ! xx
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    i used to have a friend or two who i had a strictly 'friends with benefits' relationship
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    If that's easy, I'm ****ing beginner mode. Your friends sound like judgemental ********s
 
 
 
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