You are absolutely right! I think part of me is slightly scared that he will have moved on already and I will be putting all my feelings out there just to be completely crushed. I don't *think* he will have. I mean the very idea of me moving on at all at the minute makes me feel sickened. Your advice has honestly been the best I've heard. Everyone else is telling me just to live on but after 7 months, it just ain't that easy to be honest. I'm also worried my family have done damage beyond repair.(Original post by 999tigger)
You should have this approach in future, so its just as much about how you deal with a situation. Here you ahve the advantage of being more in control, but knowing you have given him every opportunity to make things right. that wills top you feeling guilty. Stick to your plan and dont compromise without good reason. theres a lot of flexibility in there.
What i would expect to happen is that the decision or his behaviour/ response will catch him out. that will make your choice obvious and that will give you the peace of mind to say hey I gave him every chance, but for xyz reasons he didnt meet his end of the bargain so I am free to leave soemthing I now realise I gave every chance but will not work. you then get on with your life. No guilt or doubt. Thats why you think it through. Thats the best outcome for you.
The worst is to waste another year of confusion, disappointment and unhappiness.
...Should I go back to school?