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    He sounds boring and lethargic.
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    (Original post by The Sexathlete)
    He sounds boring and lethargic.
    Pretty much. Think he's at that age where he's reflecting on his life. He mentioned wanting to settle down etc, think it's partially to do with the fact he is in his mid thirties.
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    Whatever you chose to do (and I would advise moving on and finding someone else based on all you have said) do not play immature games. The silent treatment and the cold shoulder and all that ******** is not how we have grown up relationships. Grown up relationships depend on communication. Even if that communication is "**** you and your ********" as you move onto the next one.
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    Whatever you chose to do (and I would advise moving on and finding someone else based on all you have said) do not play immature games. The silent treatment and the cold shoulder and all that ******** is not how we have grown up relationships. Grown up relationships depend on communication. Even if that communication is "**** you and your ********" as you move onto the next one.
    I agree
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I will when the opportunity arises. Its been a little hard to keep my distance. Yesterday i ran into him and i attempted to just walk on by and he said '' aren't you going to say hello?", so i did and continued walking. Later on I needed something in his department and he was the only one working there at the time. Instead of asking him to do it like i usually do, I went over and did it myself thinking he would be too busy to notice me. He came over to me and asked what was up and i said nothing. As i left he made a little joke..

    For the first time ever my manager decided to work in my area to cover my break, so again I had to converse with him. After my break was over i went back and he came over to where I was to talk with me and my colleague - i thanked him for covering my break (it would be rude not to and if he hasn't i wouldn't have been able to take a break).

    A bit later he came up to me to ask a favour and i was so close to asking someone else to do it. But anyway ignoring him was super hard. We are rarely ever in the same place at the same time like this.

    Now I'm hearing some of my work friends have invited him out with us this weekend - great
    You're doing fine.
    You can be polite, chat to him etc. But don't worry about anything. Don't over think what you're saying. Don't worry about not talking to other guys if he is there. Don't worry about what you look like etc. Treat him like he was anyone in the work place. He doesn't need to have special treatment.

    So, after the work do, if he texts you. Delay replying. Maybe for the fullweekend , then keep it short and say "sorry for the delay, yeah it was good to see you too" . Leave it as that.

    I know it's hard.. but honestly at the moment, it seems like you need to regain some control. He needs to know that whilst he is looking for the person on the "same page " as him, he can't just be using you as a middle girl who can entertain him for a few months.

    Guys like this are the typical typical heart breakers, because they have treated you very special, but have also given you no promises about anything (and even, in your case, has said that it's not going to work), so when it doesn't work, they like to play the surprised "well... I did tell you from day 1 that this wasn't the real deal..." It's awful. The sooner you deal with it , the better.
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