That's understandable if your circumstances change. Thank you We re off venue hunting tomorrow so it won't be till next autumn but shall share a photo when the day comes.(Original post by SpiritSharD)
Definitely. I was actually ready for marriage but, well, circumstances changed. As long as people go into it with the right mentality then younger is fine, in my opinion.
Good luck with your wedding. Make sure you share the photos!
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- 19-08-2016 19:20
- 19-08-2016 19:21
Open yourself but do not settle on any particular outcome.
- 19-08-2016 21:05
Not encouraging you to get into a relationship by any means but life is full of so many uncertainties. Lots and lots and lots of them. It just seems like you're the type of person who overthinks things and may be have a tendency to link irrelevant milestones to each other through random ifs and thens.
And from what I've read in books about various personality types this pattern of thinking generally makes people miss out on great opportunities in life including their careers.
- 20-08-2016 12:31
From the other side of things, I met who I thought was the love of my life at university. We had a wonderful relationship. At first, everything was fine, but then I started to get a lot of anxiety about the future. I need to learn to live with uncertainty, because it caused me a ton of worries in my relationship.
Like you, I don't really want to live in London in the future (although I would have for him) but he loved it. We ended up breaking up because he planned to move countries. I was willing to follow him because I still have no idea what I want to do career wise and like to travel, but he wouldn't let me because he felt I was sacrificing too much.
I appreciate the experience of being in a relationship and have some amazing memories with him, but this has messed me up. I wanted to marry him. Now I'm unsure if I'm going to find someone who I'll feel that way for again. So this is just another perspective.
That said, everyone and every situation is different. If the person you're with is willing to make sacrifices and also let you make some sacrifices for them, then location should not matter. As long as you're both not sacrificing too much, I say it is worth it to go ahead with these things
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- 20-08-2016 15:31
I should just find a relationship which may only last a few years, rather than pressure myself into finding 'the one'