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    I literally experience that everyday and I wish I had a sister to talk to but nothing 😞 She hit me too and says I do everything wrong and she prays that I shouldn't get anywhere in life and that I should be homeless and I'm gonaa eat dog sh**. But 😢😔
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She was giving me driving lessons in her car and I couldn't reverse park into a bay even after trying 5 times and I started crying and acting moody towards her and she said she couldn't teach me anymore and good luck to any instructor who attempts to teach me and I said well maybe your just a rubbish teacher and drove home.
    Then i overhear her talking to my dad saying she is mad and crazy she's not mentally sane, I've been telling you this for so long she's not right in the head. Then starts calling me bitter and sadistic and mopey and kept going on about how I wasn't mentally right 'up there'. I can't help that I'm a sensitive person and cry easily
    Firstly this is clearly not going to work I think you should pay for an actual teacher.

    Family argue all the time like this but your mum has been pretty harsh in what she's said so set her straight. Tell her you know it was frustrating but maybe her stressing you out was one of the reasons you kept messing up and that it's in no way helpful to be talking about you like that no matter how much it might make her feel better :rolleyes:

    See what your dad makes of her talk too. If you can get his sympathy that'll go some way to softening her being unfairly harsh about it. If not then stay away from them for a bit do something you enjoy this evening like stick your headphones in and watch a good comedy you love then... Tomorrow on the assumption either you can afford to or someone else will pay, organise someone professional and reputable to teach you to drive.
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    (Original post by Zeus007)
    Why does someones age matter in a situation like this? Some people are more sensitive then others.

    Thank you, exactly I wish with everything I have that I was less sensitive but it's just how I am I've tried to change it but i can't

    (Original post by TercioOfParma)
    I feel like there is some context missing, what led to all this?
    She was giving me driving lessons in her car and I couldn't reverse park into a bay even after trying 5 times and I started crying and acting moody towards her and she said she couldn't teach me anymore and good luck to any instructor who attempts to teach me and I said well maybe your just a rubbish teacher and drove home. Then i overhear her talking to my dad saying she is mad and crazy she's not mentally sane, I've been telling you this for so long she's not right in the head. Then starts calling me bitter and sadistic and mopey and kept going on about how I wasn't mentally right 'up there'. I can't help that I'm a sensitive person and cry easily I have mild autism as well which I know isn't an excuse to be so upset about this but she knows this and CHOSE to make comments about me not being mentally right up there etc which were really hurtful
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    (Original post by Little Popcorns)
    Firstly this is clearly not going to work I think you should pay for an actual teacher.

    Family argue all the time like this but your mum has been pretty harsh in what she's said so set her straight. Tell her you know it was frustrating but maybe her stressing you out was one of the reasons you kept messing up and that it's in no way helpful to be talking about you like that no matter how much it might make her feel better :rolleyes:

    See what your dad makes of her talk too. If you can get his sympathy that'll go some way to softening her being unfairly harsh about it. If not then stay away from them for a bit do something you enjoy this evening like stick your headphones in and watch a good comedy you love then... Tomorrow on the assumption either you can afford to or someone else will pay, organise someone professional and reputable to teach you to drive.
    No no I have a teacher but he's away at the moment so I was having extra sessions to practice with her but I'm not going to have any more with her. yes you right I will just do my own thing from now on until I go back to uni. My dad is usually of no help, he'll listen to everything and not really give much input back but thank you for your nice words
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    because shes in uni and acting like this, she needs to grow a thicker skin, shes no longer a child
    Act like that? What just because I'm in uni I'm not allowed to be upset


    (Original post by Reachin4TheStars)
    I literally experience that everyday and I wish I had a sister to talk to but nothing 😞 She hit me too and says I do everything wrong and she prays that I shouldn't get anywhere in life and that I should be homeless and I'm gonaa eat dog sh**. But 😢😔
    Oh my gosh poor you I'm so sorry I wish I had a sister as well but then sometimes I don't because I know my mum would just talk about me behind my back to my sister and compare me to her. If she's hitting you though you need to report your mum!! You don't deserve that
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you you're very nice
    Awww don't worry about it. Message if you want to chat about it. There are many people here to talk to you if you're sad But don't let it get to you, she's your mummy bear and she loves you so much X
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    (Original post by Reachin4TheStars)
    I literally experience that everyday and I wish I had a sister to talk to but nothing 😞 She hit me too and says I do everything wrong and she prays that I shouldn't get anywhere in life and that I should be homeless and I'm gonaa eat dog sh**. But 😢😔
    Awww (((( I use to experience hate from my sister but it got better. And it will for you hopefully don't worry baby, we are all here if you need to talk. I do hope it gets better for you. Hate seeing people sad. Here's a tight hug Xx
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My mum made me cry today and said really mean things about me behind my back which I overheard and can't get over now she's trying to be nice to me but I hate her I hate her I hate her and not I'm crying again
    I can understand where you are coming from as I am quite a emotional person too I guess you could say. When I first left school I got an apprenticeship and was put with a man who was pretty nasty to me which made me pretty upset. Now though I have left and am doing my A-Levels and am very happy . Im sorry to hear about your situation and my advice would be to firstly, not listen to anyone who tells you to ignore it or grow up as this is rubbish, you cannot change the way you are and as its your mum its going to be upsetting. Try doing things to forget about it and look forward to university. Also everyone goes through bad and good points in there life. Maybe this is a bad one but eventually things will become great and you will wonder why you felt upset about it . I hope this helped if not sorry and hope you feel better soon
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    Some people need to be a lot more considerate and understanding, people may have had bad life experiences when they were younger which can cause them to be more sensitive and act the way they do.

    My best advice would be to try and talk to your friends and socialise to get your mind off of it, trust me it will get better, we all go through things like this.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Awww don't worry about it. Message if you want to chat about it. There are many people here to talk to you if you're sad But don't let it get to you, she's your mummy bear and she loves you so much X
    She clearly doesn't love me that much if she knows I have autism and still makes degrading remarks about my mind and mental health behind my back saying 'I'm not right up there' and I'm crazy etc. now she's being fake nice to me and when I look at her now all I see is a phony
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    And She knows I've been diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum which is why her words were even more hurtful
    I feel the pain right there . Parents just don't get it.

    Perhaps move out tbh
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    You have to remember that sometimes people say things in the heat of the moment and don't really mean it. Things can just come out without us thinking. It happens everyone.

    I'm an only child in a single parent home so it's just me and my mum. Quite a few times in arguments she's said stuff that was really hurtful. For instance she told me to go drown myself in the bath not long after a friend of mine had jumped off a bridge into the river and killed himself. When I pointed out how insensitive that comment was she told me I was over emotional and got upset too easily. However, a day later when we'd both cooled off she apologised. I've heard her say some pretty awful things about me to family that are over exaggerated or just not true. But she never really means it. It's just anger in the heat of the moment.

    My point is that you need to remember that your mum is only human and has emotions too. She probably just exploded and didn't think through what she was saying in the hear of the moment. She probably didn't mean any of it.

    Let things cool down and then ask politely of you can have a conversation with her and just tell her about what you heard and how it made you feel. I'm sure she'll be willing to listen. Just make sure you have fully calmed down first so as your emotions don't take over.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You have to remember that sometimes people say things in the heat of the moment and don't really mean it. Things can just come out without us thinking. It happens everyone.

    I'm an only child in a single parent home so it's just me and my mum. Quite a few times in arguments she's said stuff that was really hurtful. For instance she told me to go drown myself in the bath not long after a friend of mine had jumped off a bridge into the river and killed himself. When I pointed out how insensitive that comment was she told me I was over emotional and got upset too easily. However, a day later when we'd both cooled off she apologised. I've heard her say some pretty awful things about me to family that are over exaggerated or just not true. But she never really means it. It's just anger in the heat of the moment.

    My point is that you need to remember that your mum is only human and has emotions too. She probably just exploded and didn't think through what she was saying in the hear of the moment. She probably didn't mean any of it.

    Let things cool down and then ask politely of you can have a conversation with her and just tell her about what you heard and how it made you feel. I'm sure she'll be willing to listen. Just make sure you have fully calmed down first so as your emotions don't take over.
    Well I'm sorry but people shouldn't become mum's if they're going to say hurtful things to their children. We didn't ask to be born they chose to have us
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well I'm sorry but people shouldn't become mum's if they're going to say hurtful things to their children. We didn't ask to be born they chose to have us
    But she's only human and she gets angry too. Everyone does its human nature. My mum is so loving and I wouldn't change her for the world but as I've as she's said hurtful things. Just because she's a mum doesn't mean she doesn't get frustrated and angry and just because she gets frustrated and angry and says things in the heat of the moment doesn't mean she's a bad mum.

    I'm sure you've said things to her in the heat of the moment at times and hurt her too. I know I have to my mum.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My mum made me cry today and said really mean things about me behind my back which I overheard and can't get over now she's trying to be nice to me but I hate her I hate her I hate her and not I'm crying again
    Sweetheart it's all going to blow over and be okay

    A couple of nights ago my mum also made me feel this way and I cried for the first time in ages. I cried so ****ing much, but ranting it out on this made me feel much better. The next morning I was scared to even see her and I cried in the bathroom before going downstairs because I was dreading the day, but she was nice that day and must've sense that she had hurt me perhaps..

    Let it be known to your mum that she has really hurt you. Like..don't even argue back or give your energy. Show her that you are upset and that it is emotionally draining you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Sweetheart it's all going to blow over and be okay

    A couple of nights ago my mum also made me feel this way and I cried for the first time in ages. I cried so ****ing much, but ranting it out on this made me feel much better. The next morning I was scared to even see her and I cried in the bathroom before going downstairs because I was dreading the day, but she was nice that day and must've sense that she had hurt me perhaps..

    Let it be known to your mum that she has really hurt you. Like..don't even argue back or give your energy. Show her that you are upset and that it is emotionally draining you.
    What did your mum do?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She clearly doesn't love me that much if she knows I have autism and still makes degrading remarks about my mind and mental health behind my back saying 'I'm not right up there' and I'm crazy etc. now she's being fake nice to me and when I look at her now all I see is a phony
    Oh no that's absolutely awful you deserve only the best x. Remember youre the best of the best and whatever your mum says doesn't change anything about you, trust me. x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What did your mum do?
    I came downstairs 10 mins after she called me and she started insulting me and telling me I do nothing all day and made me feel worthless when I do EVERYTHING she asks of me.
    She just treats me like a slave and not her daughter and says the most hurtful things. And the tone in her voice.. she has so much hatred built up inside her and she takes it out on me all the time!!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Oh no that's absolutely awful you deserve only the best x. Remember youre the best of the best and whatever your mum says doesn't change anything about you, trust me. x
    you are so cute who are you pls come and talk to me that way x
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    I don't mean to sound rude here but it seems like you've only came here to hear people tell you how awful your mum is rather than listen to constructive advice that people are trying to give you
 
 
 
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