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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    But if she's made it obvious that she's uncomfortable wearing it why are you telling her to wear trousers anyway?
    Because if her parents are happy with her, the Mercy of Allaah will be bestowed upon her and she will do well in school. By the time she knows it, she's left the place. As a Muslim, 'fitting in' isn't the goal, there is a higher purpose. I say, get over it.
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    Because if her parents are happy with her, the Mercy of Allaah will be bestowed upon her and she will do well in school. By the time she knows it, she's left the place. As a Muslim, 'fitting in' isn't the goal, there is a higher purpose. I say, get over it.
    What a load of waffle
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    (Original post by yukiqueen)
    Because if her parents are happy with her, the Mercy of Allaah will be bestowed upon her and she will do well in school. By the time she knows it, she's left the place. As a Muslim, 'fitting in' isn't the goal, there is a higher purpose. I say, get over it.
    Erm no.God isn't going to magically change her grades to As and A*s just because she chose to wear trousers over skirts just to make her parents happy.
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    Erm no.God isn't going to magically change her grades to As and A*s just because she chose to wear trousers over skirts just to make her parents happy.
    Lol, way to take what I said out of context. In a nutshell, she has a duty to her parents and it's a command of Allaah. She posted a thread, asking for opinions. You've got mine, bye.
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    Erm no.God isn't going to magically change her grades to As and A*s just because she chose to wear trousers over skirts just to make her parents happy.
    I don't think you quite understand what a God is do you - I'd advise when talking to a religious person to speak to them on their page, not on yours.

    However to this girl - I vowed to myself when I was little to only ever wear trousers because the other children at my school used to severely bully me for wearing a skirt.
    In my final year of secondary school, I finally started wearing a skirt to school - mine went almost to my calves. Talk to you parents and ask if they'd be okay with wearing a calf length skirt with black opaque tights - the school should understand about the length if that is the problem since it can be a religious reason.
    I know its hard to talk to your parents (especially if you're Asian) but trust me - treasure the bonds with your family.
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    (Original post by CheckmateJoy)
    I don't think you quite understand what a God is do you - I'd advise when talking to a religious person to speak on their level, not on yours.

    However to this girl - I vowed to myself when I was little to only ever wear trousers because the other children at my school used to severely bully me for wearing a skirt.
    In my final year of secondary school, I finally started wearing a skirt to school - mine went almost to my calves. Talk to you parents and ask if they'd be okay with wearing a calf length skirt with black opaque tights - the school should understand about the length if that is the problem since it can be a religious reason.
    I know its hard to talk to your parents (especially if you're Asian) but trust me - treasure the bonds with your family.
    Stop tossing around these types of statements...
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    (Original post by Boss_Rhythm)
    Stop tossing around these types of statements...
    What do you mean by that? Is there something wrong with being considerate to people instead of antagonising them?
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    (Original post by CheckmateJoy)
    What do you mean by that? Is there something wrong with being considerate to people instead of antagonising them?
    It sounds like you are saying religious people are on a lower level...
    That's just wrong to say...
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    (Original post by Boss_Rhythm)
    It sounds like you are saying religious people are on a lower level...
    That's just wrong to say...
    Oh I see - I apologise for my misunderstanding.
    I can see how you interpreted that - I didn't mean that in the slightest - I'll go edit it to e page instead.
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    (Original post by Boss_Rhythm)
    It sounds like you are saying religious people are on a lower level...
    That's just wrong to say...
    He wasn't to be fair
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    (Original post by CheckmateJoy)
    Oh I see - I apologise for my misunderstanding.
    I can see how you interpreted that - I didn't mean that in the slightest - I'll go edit it to e page instead.
    Oh it's okay... I thought you meant it like that...

    Sorry about it
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    (Original post by Fatimah L.)
    Hi!

    Before I get to my problem I just want to say, PLEASE, do not stereotype me as another whiny girl with basic problems, thanks.

    So, growing up I've had really strict parents; I wasn't allowed to have friends the opposite sex(they moved me to a girls school) and only to wear trousers as uniform. I'm 14 and turning 15 as of December. My parents are Muslim and won't allow me to wear a normal knee length skirt, my father thinks it's just 'inappropriate' to wear a normal skirt. It's not that I want to show off my legs, even though I'd wear opaque tights underneath, it's that I feel EXTREMELY self conscious and I feel like i look weird with over-sized trousers(being tall and skinny).

    Thanks.
    Oh come on. I thought you were going to say you had to wear something weird like a skirt and trousers together.
    Sorry Get over yourself, wearing trousers is normal for thousands of girls.
    I'm sure there's lots of girls who are forced to wear scarves or maybe burqa to school
    Once I saw a girl with a blazer that was elongated to knee length
    So your situation isn't that bad
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    (Original post by Fatimah L.)
    Hi!

    Before I get to my problem I just want to say, PLEASE, do not stereotype me as another whiny girl with basic problems, thanks.

    So, growing up I've had really strict parents; I wasn't allowed to have friends the opposite sex(they moved me to a girls school) and only to wear trousers as uniform. I'm 14 and turning 15 as of December. My parents are Muslim and won't allow me to wear a normal knee length skirt, my father thinks it's just 'inappropriate' to wear a normal skirt. It's not that I want to show off my legs, even though I'd wear opaque tights underneath, it's that I feel EXTREMELY self conscious and I feel like i look weird with over-sized trousers(being tall and skinny).

    Thanks.
    Tbh my dad thinks it's inappropriate me wearing a skirt too. I feel your pain.
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    I am in a similar Boat 9though not the same) re;, my Converse Jumper if anyone can help please!!?

    thanks
 
 
 
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