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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    You find it 'off-putting' that a girl slept with that many people.

    1) That wasn't the question she asked
    2) You probably think that a guy sleeping with the same amount of girls is A-Okay
    3) Again, nobody cares

    To be honest - this is a very presumptuous reply, and rather unnecessary too.. she was asking for an opinion.. that was an open and non-harsh opinion and there is nothing to say that he would think it's okay for guys - in fact, many guys who haven't slept with that many girls (which, also, isn't a bad thing), tend to think that, and that's fair really - each to their own.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I'm a 23 year old girl. I lost my virginity at 16, and have since slept with 20 guys. 12 of these were from 16-18.

    I'm not asking if I deserve any judgement or such for this, as I know this is not the case, but I'm asking how this compares to the average? Would it be considered a high number?
    Im a man and Ive had more sexual partners than you.

    Personally i dont consider it to be a high number, its your body its your choice.
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    (Original post by dock-leaf)
    To be honest - this is a very presumptuous reply, and rather unnecessary too.. she was asking for an opinion.. that was an open and non-harsh opinion and there is nothing to say that he would think it's okay for guys - in fact, many guys who haven't slept with that many girls (which, also, isn't a bad thing), tend to think that, and that's fair really - each to their own.
    She asked 'Would you consider this to be a lot?' She didn't need that. And, if it was his answer, it wasn't exactly 'open' and 'non-harsh'. And, also not really fair, just shows the double standards of the people-in regards to your last point.
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    Whether it is a lot or not I don't think it matters.
    What matters though is that you are safe whilst doing so and being aware of your sexual health.
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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    She asked 'Would you consider this to be a lot?' She didn't need that. And, if it was his answer, it wasn't exactly 'open' and 'non-harsh'. And, also not really fair, just shows the double standards of the people-in regards to your last point.
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    You are what you we all think you are. Including yourself.

    nothing wrong with that though.
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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    She asked 'Would you consider this to be a lot?' She didn't need that. And, if it was his answer, it wasn't exactly 'open' and 'non-harsh'.
    It was a very fair and and 'non-harsh' response, indeed. It is clearly the opinion which you don't like - it was not framed badly... Whether people would 'consider this to be a lot' stems from such opinions.. the whole concept that their 'is' or 'isn't' a certain number which 'is' or 'isn't' okay, is a social construct formed on opinions such as those expressed. And if a guy is not being hypocritical, and has not slept with many girls, then that's a just opinion; it could be based on insecurities about a girl having more sexual partners, or simply that it conflicts personal principles which they also hold themselves to... and there is really no problem with that.. you should have really replied, simply : 'sorry, I don't like your opinion, shut up'. As that's the clear message. lol.
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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    Lol, nobody cares for your blatant sexism.
    Delete your account. That is not sexist in any way.
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    Delete your account. That is not sexist in anyway.
    Lol, no. Get over yourself.
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    (Original post by dock-leaf)
    It was a very fair and and 'non-harsh' response, indeed. It is clearly the opinion which you don't like - it was not framed badly... Whether people would 'consider this to be a lot' stems from such opinions.. the whole concept that their 'is' or 'isn't' a certain number which 'is' or 'isn't' okay, is a social construct formed on opinions such as those expressed. And if a guy is not being hypocritical, and has not slept with many girls, then that's a just opinion; it could be based on insecurities about a girl having more sexual partners, or simply that it conflicts personal principles which they also hold themselves to... and there is really no problem with that.. you should have really replied, simply : 'sorry, I don't like your opinion, shut up'. As that's the clear message. lol.
    You are paying too much time and investing too much of your effort on this girl
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    (Original post by dock-leaf)
    It was a very fair and and 'non-harsh' response, indeed. It is clearly the opinion which you don't like - it was not framed badly... Whether people would 'consider this to be a lot' stems from such opinions.. the whole concept that their 'is' or 'isn't' a certain number which 'is' or 'isn't' okay, is a social construct formed on opinions such as those expressed. And if a guy is not being hypocritical, and has not slept with many girls, then that's a just opinion; it could be based on insecurities about a girl having more sexual partners, or simply that it conflicts personal principles which they also hold themselves to... and there is really no problem with that.. you should have really replied, simply : 'sorry, I don't like your opinion, shut up'. As that's the clear message. lol.
    You're presuming just as much about me.
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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    Lol, no. Get over yourself.
    Poisonous example of the Feminist-SJW stench
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    (Original post by RelucBeam)
    You are paying too much time and investing too much of your effort on this girl
    No, not really. I'm just simply replying.
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    Poisonous example of the Feminist-SJW stench
    Lol, sure.
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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    No, not really. I'm just simply replying.
    Well okay, this is a waste of my time.. it just annoys me that people respond to something, totally fair and reasonable, in such an unnecessary manner because they don't like another's opinion on a topic which is nothing but opinion.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I'm a 23 year old girl. I lost my virginity at 16, and have since slept with 20 guys. 12 of these were from 16-18.

    I'm not asking if I deserve any judgement or such for this, as I know this is not the case, but I'm asking how this compares to the average? Would it be considered a high number?
    It is considered a high number, statistically.

    I think I remember reading that the average adult has 4, but I can't remember the specific age range.

    In theory, one could argue that those that refrain from sex are degenerate human beings as doing this could be disastrous for any other species,(particulary those with short lives)other than humans(due to the increased potential for extinction).

    On the other side of the coin, some might say "I ain't a hoe" Though they discard the possibility of the heavy amounts of sex their ancestors had, typically due to being religious.

    Interestingly enough, wealth is proportional to number of sexual partners(for males anyway).
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    (Original post by dock-leaf)
    Well okay, this is a waste of my time.. it just annoys me that people respond to something, totally fair and reasonable, in such an unnecessary manner because they don't like another's opinion on a topic which is nothing but opinion.
    It annoys you, does it.
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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    It's fine. People who slut shame anyone need to get over themselves.
    The morality of it wasn't the question though. The question was is it high. In which case, the answer would be yes. Significantly higher than average too. And it's colossal compared to what average would be on TSR,
 
 
 
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