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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    Who you surround yourself with is VERY important - they basically dictate your self confidence and esteem! Your insecurities initially start when other PEOPLE start commenting on your hair, your face, your personality, what you wear etc You'll see the difference in a child who has been told growing up they are beautiful and smart compared to a child who's always being put down. That why it makes me so sad when someone has so little confidence in themselves because I just KNOW that its because growing up they've been told things that make them feel that way.

    I know how hard it is trying to get rid of friends that make you feel low about yourself. I myself went through a rough patch because I was friends with someone who would always put me down, let me down, insult me etc and it took A LOT to finally realise that I don't deserve that and I don't need to associate myself with people who even think that low of me. I hope you realise how great and awesome you are and learn to finally surround yourself with people who also KNOW that and tell you everyday Its better to be lonely for a while and attract new people who will be there for a life time than to hang onto these people who make you feel so rubbish...
    but the thing is that they are not my friends :emo: my friends are nice
    its someone else
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    (Original post by fatima1998)
    but the thing is that they are not my friends :emo: my friends are nice
    its someone else
    Who is it?
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    (Original post by A-LJLB)
    Who is it?
    someone who is very close
    someone who stays with you
    hint - blood relationship :ninja:
    guess :mmm:
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    (Original post by fatima1998)
    someone who is very close
    someone who stays with you
    hint - blood relationship :ninja:
    guess :mmm:
    Ah, parents?
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    (Original post by A-LJLB)
    Ah, parents?
    well done :yep:
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    (Original post by fatima1998)
    well done :yep:
    Oh bub that's horrible
    Stay strong lovely :console:
    I truly hope your relationship with them improves and they realise how lucky they are to have you as a daughter
    Keep on doing you
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    LMAO I love you XD
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    get yourself the London attitude
    +11000 for great reference.
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    (Original post by toonervoustotalk)
    :heart: such a good nice thread
    :hugs:
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    (Original post by 0to100)
    How does this work?
    Tell me why you sometimes don't feel like you have a good self esteem or confidence and I will tell you if I've gone through that myself and how you can try to either change your perspective or handle it.


    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    This is a great thread!
    The first images are powerful! Very powerful!
    I'm in need of a lot of confidence, all mine has run away (well tbh it never really existed in the first place, but somehow it's now into negative confidence :cry2:)
    Hello!

    So I read through some of your threads and it seems some of your issues are OCD, having a history of being bullied and sometimes feeling down (if its depression let me know because I have a lot of experience with this one and can maybe offer some advice?)? Correct me if I'm wrong. I'll start off with explaining why I think you don't have a lot of confidence. Being bullied is something that is very emotionally scarring whether you want to believe it effected you or not. When people are constantly putting you down, of course your confidence is going to go from 100 to 0 because you start believe what they say and that's how insecurities and low self esteem issues are born. The MAIN way to try and kind of make up for all that is to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. You are actually a brilliant amazing person and you need people to recognise this so that you start believing it yourself. You need people who embrace how funny and kind you are and tell you! You need people who you can 100% talk to without being judged because they know that your issues are just issues and everyone goes through them. Where do I find those people you ask? First you have gotta realise your worth and KNOW that you deserve these types of people. You need to learn to socialise with a variety of people and join clubs that you find interesting because mutual interests is always a great starter conversation! Correct me if I've made any mistakes and if you have any other issues you'd like to talk about tell me
    (Original post by cbreef)
    bluemadhatter How do you know this stuff? Also, I went to a doctor today and was basically diagnosed as not mentally fit for work... so yeah things are really f*cking looking up!
    I read through some of your threads. Mental health disorders can be a pain in the arse trust me I know, especially when you are trying your best to just get on with things and follow your dreams and suddenly it just hits you like a tonne of bricks. LIKE WHY ME??!! But you have to remember that it is a process to become your normal self again and you have to be patient with yourself. You have to take everything one step at a time and eventually you will be at an even better place as to where you are right now. Believe in yourself.

    (Original post by FrenchUnicorn)
    :cry2: :cry2: can't handle the cuteness :cry2: I suddenly feel very emotional because what you said is just.. So cute :cry2: and I know you mean it and that's why I feel that way. Besides lately I've been feeling so much better because SO MANY people told me things like that, you're not the only one, and step by step I'm starting to believe them all.But I decide right now you're the last step : I believe you. I believe them all. I really do now ! Omg I believe you :cry2: thank you so much, you seem to be such a nice person, I've not interacted with you that much but I've seen all your "journey" from when you wanted to drop school etc, from now.Look at how fabulous you became :penguinhug: . I knew it all along Tysm for your nice words, I really wish you could understand how much that means to me <3
    I'm absolutely so pleased to hear that Frenchie :hugs: You should believe them and you should believe me and most importantly you should believe in yourself. You are capable of so much Thank you that means a lot <3
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    (Original post by A-LJLB)
    Oh bub that's horrible
    Stay strong lovely :console:
    I truly hope your relationship with them improves and they realise how lucky they are to have you as a daughter
    Keep on doing you
    aha i am trying 100% from my side :yep:
    i hope so too :emo: but can't see any improvements but i love them as well :lol:
    thanks hun :hugs: xx
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    (Original post by fatima1998)
    aha i am trying 100% from my side :yep:
    i hope so too :emo: but can't see any improvements but i love them as well :lol:
    thanks hun :hugs: xx
    Trust me my family isn't perfect, but they're family so I love them nonetheless. Good luck to you!
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    (Original post by A-LJLB)
    Trust me my family isn't perfect, but they're family so I love them nonetheless. Good luck to you!
    aha good luck to you tooo :cute: x
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    I know a lot of people have low self esteem and low self confidence including me sometimes but sometimes you just need look in the mirror and realise how freaking awesome you are!! So I'm making this thread to help give people some confidence and boost their self esteem a bit. The following things are things that make me go yaaaaaas biatch;

    When you don't feel pretty:
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    When you're thinking about your ex:
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    When you're too good for anyone because you're the best:
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    I don't know if these memes made anyone feel better but they always boost my confidence so I'm glad I've put them all into this neat little thread.

    Also I'm giving out free compliments and hugs on this thread for anyone who needs it :hugs:

    I also think this is a good article http://zenhabits.net/25-killer-actio...lf-confidence/ and also this one https://www.themuse.com/advice/25-re...-than-you-know
    aww you are so lovely
    top quality memes btw :yy: :mmm:
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    YOU know whats beautiful? Read the first word again.
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    I'm really confident when my I get complimented . I remember when I came to school, I received so many compliments. It made me feel hella confident. :teehee:
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    bluemadhatter
    But the thing is,
    A) I don't have a dream job that I could realistically achieve.
    B) I have to do something, like now. There's a lot of pressure on me at the moment from parents.
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    (Original post by fatima1998)
    well done :yep:
    I 100% understand the struggle of having parents who are not there for you every step of the way and putting you down all the time. It took me years to finally realise that it really was not my fault that they were treating me like that and once I realised that my self confidence started to improve more and more. I know that both of my parents have a lot of issues amongst themselves especially my mother who is mentally unwell and was abused as a child and anything that comes out their mouth they don't REALLY mean and sometimes its more they hate themselves than us. Once you realise WHY they are that way and that its NOT your fault, you gain this sort of closure and your confidence begins to climb again. Its sad because you can't really help them but you've just got to focus on yourself!! Just look forward to the time that you get to move out and be your own person and have your own family and you KNOW you wont make the same mistakes that your parents did.
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    I'm absolutely so pleased to hear that Frenchie :hugs: You should believe them and you should believe me and most importantly you should believe in yourself. You are capable of so much Thank you that means a lot <3
    Ty again :jumphug:

    And yw, love you chérie :penguinhug:
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    (Original post by saraxh)
    YOU know whats beautiful? Read the first word again.
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    I'm really confident when my I get complimented . I remember when I came to school, I received so many compliments. It made me feel hella confident. :teehee:
    Well if that's you in the picture I am not surprised. You have been blessed with good looks. Others aren't so lucky
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    Aw, this is sweet. :hugs:
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    (Original post by saraxh)
    YOU know whats beautiful? Read the first word again.
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    I'm really confident when my I get complimented . I remember when I came to school, I received so many compliments. It made me feel hella confident. :teehee:
    Hehe :hugs: Yes you go giirlll!!! Compliments just give you this different type of power than just makes you feel you can take over the world :lol:

    (Original post by cbreef)
    bluemadhatter
    But the thing is,
    A) I don't have a dream job that I could realistically achieve.
    B) I have to do something, like now. There's a lot of pressure on me at the moment from parents.
    You don't have to have a dream job? LOADS of people don't know what they want to do or don't have a dream job, its all about finding something you are good at or enjoy.

    You are 18 years old. Its up to YOU what you want to do and if you don't know yet that is PERFECTLY okay. Get a job right now in retail or something and work for a year part time or full time, earn some money and do some volunteering work or some work experience in things that interest you. And also if you are not mentally allowed to work then explain that to your parents and just try and volunteer somewhere. You'll eventually find out what you want to do but it shouldn't be a pressured decision. Sit down with your parents and explain to them situation and what you are going to do next.
 
 
 
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