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    What is it about fat girls that puts guys off dating them? I see guys date really underweight girls. Also i always see people write in threads how they would make a runner if they met a girl via online dating and she turned out to be fat.
    Are fat girls really that bad? If so I don't understand why, surely it just means they have extra curves? Guys love curves?
    I don't know why they wouldn't want to. More cushion for the pushin'
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    You do not get my point. First I'll be honest and am not really attracted by too overweight girls, but at least I do not mock them for being fat like those guys do. If you do not like it, keep it to yourself or at least be subtle about it. If your date turns out to be 'fat' without your knowledge and you just run away, what the **** do you think how she would feel?

    And about your second point, I just mentioned that there were guys who really do not care about looks. They're rare, but they are there. Whether you want to believe me or not, it isn't going to change the truth.
    Mocked? Perhaps not. But looked down upon? Yes. It's an unhealthy way to live. Fat acceptance isn't just a silly idea to put forward, it's dangerous for those who are fat who could end up developing serious health complications because they believe weighing 26 stones is okay. Whilst running away on a date may be rude, if she didn't tell or show you beforehand that she was overweight then I think they're well within their rights to not want to go on the date. Politely telling them this, rather than running away, would probably be the more gentlemanly thing to do though.

    I am yet to find a guy who doesn't care about looks at all. Generally, and I am making a generalisation here, but generally those who don't really care about looks tend to be quite desperate. I'm sure if they had the choice between a model and someone less attractive, identical in every other way, they'd pick the model.
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    Some fat girls are beautiful and nice. So yeah, some fat girls are very dateable.
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    Its just all preferences I for one like girls woth bodies like Victoria Secret models
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    Mocked? Perhaps not. But looked down upon? Yes. It's an unhealthy way to live. Fat acceptance isn't just a silly idea to put forward, it's dangerous for those who are fat who could end up developing serious health complications because they believe weighing 26 stones is okay. Whilst running away on a date may be rude, if she didn't tell or show you beforehand that she was overweight then I think they're well within their rights to not want to go on the date. Politely telling them this, rather than running away, would probably be the more gentlemanly thing to do though.

    I am yet to find a guy who doesn't care about looks at all. Generally, and I am making a generalisation here, but generally those who don't really care about looks tend to be quite desperate. I'm sure if they had the choice between a model and someone less attractive, identical in every other way, they'd pick the model.
    I do agree on your first point however. Fatness shouldn't be accepted and people without a medical reason should try to get a healthier lifestyle instead of trying to be accepted.
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    For the same reasons girls don't want to date fat guys.


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What is it about fat girls that puts guys off dating them? I see guys date really underweight girls. Also i always see people write in threads how they would make a runner if they met a girl via online dating and she turned out to be fat.
    Are fat girls really that bad? If so I don't understand why, surely it just means they have extra curves? Guys love curves?
    First, I think it is important to never take into account single attributes alone. Looks really contribute to the overall "attractiveness" of a person but never soley define it. I've met large girls that are attractive either ignoring personallity completely or including it.

    Second, there are fat girls and obese girls. Generally speaking, obesity in the western world is seen as unattractive (I think) because it is an indication of poor diet, health and a lack of self control. Of course it could also be related to a medical problem such as hypothyroidism but generally speaking it is seen, perhaps subconciouslly, as an reflection of a particular charactyer trait.

    Third, it has been documented greatly in the media recently, but porn changes men's expectations of women. As most porn stars are super thin, guys find that more attractive.

    I am points (2) and (3) to try and help you understand why things are as they are. I do not think it is right to judge someone by looks alone and thin people who do are shallow. They are not worth it!

    However, I would suggest you avoid jerks who judge you by your weight and just wait until the right guy comes along who can see beyond your looks. People are so much more complex than a physical entity. Stay happy and love yourself for who you are.
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    Come on...

    I'm a girl and I wouldn't date a fat guy. I find that very unattractive.

    It's a sign of un healthiness, laziness and lack of personal hygiene and care. I like good looking guys. 'Fat' is not good looking. Good looking is the slim- normal sized look.


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    It works both ways. Fat is just not attractive. It also tells a lot about the person.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What is it about fat girls that puts guys off dating them? I see guys date really underweight girls. Also i always see people write in threads how they would make a runner if they met a girl via online dating and she turned out to be fat.
    Are fat girls really that bad? If so I don't understand why, surely it just means they have extra curves? Guys love curves?
    Would you date a fat guy?
    That's not meant to sound hostile or anything, I just wondered it you had considered it xx
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What is it about fat girls that puts guys off dating them? I see guys date really underweight girls. Also i always see people write in threads how they would make a runner if they met a girl via online dating and she turned out to be fat.
    Are fat girls really that bad? If so I don't understand why, surely it just means they have extra curves? Guys love curves?

    fat bodies are not attractive. underweight is nicer than fat. there are very few men on this Earth that find fat attractive but some people lie, just to be nice. most of us favour appearance more than personality, if they are not to the standards that we like then we would find it unattractive. Take this idea out of your heads that we like busty and very curvy because that is really really unattractive, some would like that but those people are very old fashioned. We like curves to some extent, if it gets too curvy then it is unattractive. In conclusion, we are very complex to your gender but to us this is very simple, we just don't find fatty people attractive. I'm not even trying to be offensive.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What is it about fat girls that puts guys off dating them? I see guys date really underweight girls. Also i always see people write in threads how they would make a runner if they met a girl via online dating and she turned out to be fat.
    Are fat girls really that bad? If so I don't understand why, surely it just means they have extra curves? Guys love curves?
    For the same reasons girls don't really like dating fat guys... Unattractive, smelly etc
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    For the same reasons girls don't want to date fat guys.


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    Would you date a fat guy?
    That's not meant to sound hostile or anything, I just wondered it you had considered it xx
    James cordon married his wife when he was overweight
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Its just all preferences I for one like girls woth bodies like Victoria Secret models
    I think you need to prepare for disappointment
    Even Victoria Secret models don't look like victory secret models - they are all air brushed and photoshopped and about 90% of them have there boobs made bigger during editing.
    Skinny girls = less fat = smaller boobs
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    James cordon married his wife when he was overweight
    They married in 2012.... long after he became famous.

    Despite claims otherwise, wealth and fame are the main things that attract, attractive women.
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    Honestly a girl (or anyone) being overweight shows major character flaws i.e a lack of self-discipline and respect. That's what I find most unattractive about fat people and why I personally wouldn't date one.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What is it about fat girls that puts guys off dating them? I see guys date really underweight girls. Also i always see people write in threads how they would make a runner if they met a girl via online dating and she turned out to be fat.
    Are fat girls really that bad? If so I don't understand why, surely it just means they have extra curves? Guys love curves?
    I don't mind dating girls that have a tiny bit more weight than average, more cushion for the ....... :laugh:

    Honestly, as on long as the girl is willing to improve her health whether she is overweight/underweight be it exercise/diet I'm willing to date her. However, if she is not willing to do anything then I'm not going to simply date her
    since I'd want the beauty to match the beast. :dumbells:

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    Being obese/very fat is not ok. Slightly overweight I can understand, but above that isn't even remotely attractive.
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    Don't mean to generalize but fat girls usually have the nastiest personalities in my experience.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What is it about fat girls that puts guys off dating them? I see guys date really underweight girls. Also i always see people write in threads how they would make a runner if they met a girl via online dating and she turned out to be fat.
    Are fat girls really that bad? If so I don't understand why, surely it just means they have extra curves? Guys love curves?
    Many moons ago, I was in a relationship and the guy ended up splitting up with me by text and the reason (because he would never deny it as a reason), was due to my weight gain. We met at uni and he split up with me in the summer holidays. So instead of moping around I lost 3 stone in 2 months, with hardcore exercise and a strict diet. I didn't tell a soul and went back to uni with a new wardrobe, everyone was so shocked including him.
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    How I long to have that fitness again , now my exercise consists of me running for the ice cream man.


    So yeah, unfortunately in my experience your weight is a huge thing for guys.
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