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    (Original post by Kattah96)
    PREACH!!!!!

    When uni really hits your friends aren't going to check whether you are okay. They some aim to attend every party to drink themselves blind, some are crying about the stress and can't cope (me) and the others are in the library trying to get their act together for the 23:55 deadline on turnitin!
    When you leave uni its not your friends name on the sheet...ITS YOURS.

    Keep a fine balance of social and academic but DON'T FORGET WHY YOU WENT!!!

    friends will come when you least expect it. not by force
    lol you must not have any friends if you have that kind of attitude sorry. The only way you'll make friends [read: people you socialise with and share experiences with] is by, who would have thought, socialising and being a likeable person. No one is going to approach you in the library to be your friend, sorry to break it to you.

    Studying is obviously the number one priority but with no social support system you're setting yourself up for failure.
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    (Original post by Kattah96)
    PREACH!!!!!

    When uni really hits your friends aren't going to check whether you are okay. They some aim to attend every party to drink themselves blind, some are crying about the stress and can't cope (me) and the others are in the library trying to get their act together for the 23:55 deadline on turnitin!
    When you leave uni its not your friends name on the sheet...ITS YOURS.

    Keep a fine balance of social and academic but DON'T FORGET WHY YOU WENT!!!

    friends will come when you least expect it. not by force
    friends are there for you when you're wanting to party and have fun and then when it gets hard they're there to support you like you are for them. i would say that although obviously you're paying 9 grand a year for your education, friends are hugely important for most people at uni to get them through that HAPPILY.

    why do you think there are so many posts on TSR "How do I make friends" or "I'm so lonely with no friends" rather than "I have too many friends, help" or "My friends are too good to me how do I make them ignore me"


    i am forever grateful for the friends I made at uni and even if we aren't friends 10 years down the line I wouldn't change having spent time with them instead of studying 24/7 (lol) for anything
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    (Original post by Bezoar)
    wow i go on tsr to complain about my friends cos im just too cool and hipster for everyone woah im just that self important that i get butthurt from anonymous trolls on the internet wow
    lmao I remembered why I stopped using this site in the first place, way too many kids here get a kick out of making a cool kid persona and let the fame get to their heads. Gosh I can't wait to be back at Uni where the likes of you are in the corner of the library snivelling in a tissue or something. You'll learn eventually.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    lmao I remembered why I stopped using this site in the first place, way too many kids here get a kick out of making a cool kid persona and let the fame get to their heads. Gosh I can't wait to be back at Uni where the likes of you are in the corner of the library snivelling in a tissue or something. You'll learn eventually.
    i agree so many people on here speak so rudely but if it was real life they wouldn't even be able to say the word "hello"... it's why i stopped using it
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    lol you must not have any friends if you have that kind of attitude sorry. The only way you'll make friends [read: people you socialise with and share experiences with] is by, who would have thought, socialising and being a likeable person. No one is going to approach you in the library to be your friend, sorry to break it to you.

    Studying is obviously the number one priority but with no social support system you're setting yourself up for failure.
    Right, I never said not to make friends, the only thing is to focus because once you pre-occupy yourself the fact you are alone, its hard to get out.

    I said keep a balance, don't cut and snip the things you read because it wasn't mean spirited. Unfortunately the world is very cut-throat and I have seen many occasions where people who thought they had friends to support them were left out to dry!

    You never know where you will find your friends especially at uni. Yes there are people in the course, societies and sports clubs but for some people it doesn't work out that way!
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    Right, I never said not to make friends, the only thing is to focus because once you pre-occupy yourself the fact you are alone, its hard to get out.

    I said keep a balance, don't cut and snip the things you read because it wasn't mean spirited. Unfortunately the world is very cut-throat and I have seen many occasions where people who thought they had friends to support them were left out to dry!

    You never know where you will find your friends especially at uni. Yes there are people in the course, societies and sports clubs but for some people it doesn't work out that way!
    Sorry if I misunderstood, totally get where you're coming from.
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    (Original post by Moura)
    friends are there for you when you're wanting to party and have fun and then when it gets hard they're there to support you like you are for them. i would say that although obviously you're paying 9 grand a year for your education, friends are hugely important for most people at uni to get them through that HAPPILY.

    why do you think there are so many posts on TSR "How do I make friends" or "I'm so lonely with no friends" rather than "I have too many friends, help" or "My friends are too good to me how do I make them ignore me"


    i am forever grateful for the friends I made at uni and even if we aren't friends 10 years down the line I wouldn't change having spent time with them instead of studying 24/7 (lol) for anything
    I said previously, this is not mean spirited and to keep a balance between both. Not everyone has the same experience where they meet great friends who will do the most for them. Of course you need happiness but remember that some friends who you respected want to watch you fall!

    Societies and sports clubs make it easier but it doesn't work out for everyone! People still feel out of place even when they try to escape their comfort zone. I am sure you know not everyone likes to party, of course have fun but its each to their own. Some people really do the most to be accepted.

    All I mean is too remember why you are there and focus...doesn't mean being a book worm in the library and sniffling. University you have to work hard...its £9000! and yes its for the whole experience but You never know when your friends will appear!
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    [QUOTE=Anonymous;67545940]Either you're trolling or you're a real sad case. Stop with this nonsense before it's too late, i'm not sure what your parents have drilled into your head but human interaction is something very valuable in society, your soucial skills often dictate your success in the workplace, grades will mean **** all I can tell you now. There will be hundreds of individuals with the exact same grades as you, no one will voluntarily employee an embittered, socially awkward, loner in their workplace[/QUOTE

    I am not trolling and I am not a "sad case".
    This is what I think.
    There is this myth that we need "friends" to be happy. I just think it's total BS.
    What matters is to succeed academically, not friends.
    It's the grades that will get you ahead in life, not friends.
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    Lmao ikr, hypocritical narcissist who can't even take a joke and just chill. OP maybe if you weren't so eager and trigger happy with your 'intellectual' statements, your expections of this 'let's go uni and rave and complain cuz no one wanna join me' is childish, yet..ironic.
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    Most people find their crowd after first hear. I did. This is because in first year, if most of your friends are from halls, many will be friends out of convenience. Just like the ones you had at school. In second hear once you all live apart you'll realise who, of them, were your friends and who were just good acquaintances.

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