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    (Original post by Sempiternitas)
    It's up to you - if the idea of the date makes you truly uncomfortable don't go. But it shouldn't be hard to turn him down after the date. I have heard of, as well as experienced, plenty of first dates that never led to a second!
    I'm surprised you're saying she should go/you'd go when he could potentially be very dangerous :no:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    (I'm a girl btw, 20 years old, he is about 25 I don't know officially)

    *So I work in retail and this guy saw me from just outside the door where I apparently caught his attention. He came in with his friend and started chatting to me and flirting with me (complimenting me and asking if I was single). I flirted with him too because he was quite attractive.

    He sounded foreign and he told me he was from Albania. He asked for my number and i said no and told him to come in next time, buy something and then I might give my number.*

    Anyway he came back the other day and wouldn't leave until I have my number. He wasn't overly pushy but he did ask me to just write it down, so I did.

    This was yesterday and since then we have been texted pretty much constantly. He is so flirty and asked me to send a photo which I did. His English isn't brilliant but I can understand most of what he writes. He asked me this morning if I could meet up with him on Saturday evening (this coming Saturday) and I said yes because I was interested in actually meeting him outside of work.

    Anyway just now I looked him up on Facebook using his first name only (it's quite unusual) and from looking at his profile (although as I am not friends on Facebook I didn't have full access but could see quite a number of photos etc) I am not sure I want to meet him.

    There were several photos of guns some fully formed and some with all the parts taken out. They looked like real guns with bullets but I'm not sure.

    There were a lot of sexual posts, not of him but of girls giving oral and guys eating a girl out.

    There were lots of girls in their underwear posing around a motorbike.

    He posted a photo of some text and it said something like "I'm crazy but I don't give a f***" and I'm not that kind of person I swear obviously but it's vulgar putting photos like that on your profile.*

    There are just so many cover photos of women in their underwear and I feel like he probably sleeps with so many people (I'm a Virgin btw) and I don't really want to be with someone like that.*
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    *Most of his cover photos were of scenery like beaches etc and his profile picture is so hot it's of him in the sea and my God is he ripped. (You can tell he works out, he told me and there are videos on his profile). So it's not all bad..

    But there are a lot of inappropriate posts that none of my Facebook friends would dare have on their profiles. I don't know wheather it's because he is from a completely different country and that is considered normal or what.. There is one photo combining oral sex with use of guns.*

    Furthermore on his details it says "professional skills: pornography" I know that's a joke but still.
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    *I don't want to come across as a prude or anything but I don't really feel comfortable going out with someone who is like this. *

    Do you think I am over reacting?

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    also, you're not over reacting. there are so many red flags about this guy and you should be worried. inappropriate posts like his shouldn't be considered normal regardless of the country. it's a reflection of his personality. you've already said that you don't want to be with someone like that. more importantly, you don't want to be taken advantaged of and this guy is one big time bomb waiting to go off. turn him down, be careful, and move on. your safety is more important.
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    (Original post by 0to100)
    People come over here and act nice look normal obviously and then drug you and traffic you to Hungary. It's not even a joke. You don't know him from Adam.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    yeah I would love to see his reaction but other than for that the date will be a waste of my time. He is the exact opposite of what I want. Hmm why is it so hard to find decent guys..!
    Send me his Facebook profile in private message (I won't reveal your identity) and I'll tell you what I think of him.
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    (Original post by EnemyofState)
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    lol didn't see but is that what happened in it? I can't watch **** like that.
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    (Original post by 0to100)
    lol didn't see but is that what happened in it? I can't watch **** like that.
    Yeah these two girls get kidnapped when they go on a tour in France. They meet some French charming guy when leaving the airport and he says there's a party near and they stupidly say where they are staying and who they are with (themselves) and basically they get kidnapped and put into sex trafficking.
    Lol spoiler alert


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    (Original post by EnemyofState)
    Yeah these two girls get kidnapped when they go on a tour in France. They meet some French charming guy when leaving the airport and he says there's a party near and they stupidly say where they are staying and who they are with (themselves) and basically they get kidnapped and put into sex trafficking.
    Lol spoiler alert


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    Right saw "spoiler alert" so not gonna read. Gonna order and watch with my mates this weekend though :yy:
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    For me, I think he's going to take advantage of you, all he cares about seems sex. However, you can talk to him about the stuff you saw on FB before the date and see how it goes but like guys like that especially the pushy ones, never change!

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    Avoid avoid avoid please. That's downright disturbing
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    On the one hand you have already said yes and you should just learn from experience. You sound quite naive and he has five years on you. Maybe read your own post back to yourself.
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    I'd say it's safe as for 1, guns are everywhere in eastern Europe (i went there with an ex I was offered an AK47 and 1000 rounds for £1,000)
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    Magnificent.

    For any male who complains of being a virgin or doesn't know how to get girls, read everything OP has said. Build a picture of the guy's character. Take into consideration she is a virgin and would have turned down a wealth of nice, ideal guys like you. Remember she said he's not her type at all.

    Now you'll realise he is the opposite to you.

    Now you can see where your problem is and how to fix it
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    yeah I would love to see his reaction but other than for that the date will be a waste of my time. He is the exact opposite of what I want. Hmm why is it so hard to find decent guys..!
    "He is the exact opposite" Yeah right. You will go on a date with him.

    We know exactly what is going to happen next.

    We also know exactly what type of sorrowful 'post-shenanigan' thread you're going to create on here after.
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    You need to be a bit more grown up in your decision making.

    Just stay away from him at all costs. You've clearly been shown the warning signs of this guy so now if anything happens, you absolutely only have yourself to blame. Im a guy and if I saw a female's FB like that Im staying the hell away from her.

    Btw I cringed when reading what his FB was like. Typical alpha male wannabe and btw he doesn't sleep with anyone. Very rarely does but he really wants to which is why hes out looking for someone like you and texting you all the time. Literally has no better motive than trying to get it in.

    Good luck lol
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    (Original post by mmb10)
    You need to be a bit more grown up in your decision making.

    Just stay away from him at all costs. You've clearly been shown the warning signs of this guy so now if anything happens, you absolutely only have yourself to blame. Im a guy and if I saw a female's FB like that Im staying the hell away from her.

    Btw I cringed when reading what his FB was like. Typical alpha male wannabe and btw he doesn't sleep with anyone. Very rarely does but he really wants to which is why hes out looking for someone like you and texting you all the time. Literally has no better motive than trying to get it in.

    Good luck lol
    I see your points but he definitely does get lots of girls. Take into consideration some factors. 1. He probably approached 10 other girls that day. 2. Not all of them are going to post on a forum to seek advice. 3. OP is still going to meet him. 4. He is aggressive and ripped.
    He does not give a monkeys about OP. She is just another girl lol. If you think he's desperate then you've got some learning to do
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    (Original post by TruthBeTold')
    I see your points but he definitely does get lots of girls. Take into consideration some factors. 1. He probably approached 10 other girls that day. 2. Not all of them are going to post on a forum to seek advice. 3. OP is still going to meet him. 4. He is aggressive and ripped.
    He does not give a monkeys about OP. She is just another girl lol. If you think he's desperate then you've got some learning to do
    1 Approaching 100 girls can be done in a day in London it doesnt mean anything. Just means you're a desperate loser with no shame.

    2 Maybe not the forum but their common sense or friends should help them.

    3 OP is an idiot if she does but thats up to her. Shes spoken to him very briefly and if his statuses and pictures are what his personality are like then it probably wont get further than the 1st date.

    4 Aggresive = violence = no thanks. Ripped? Very easy to be if youre skinny, if you workout then well done but he probably doesnt train legs and im sure OP's ass is more impressive as he wouldn't have approached her.
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    (Original post by mmb10)
    1 Approaching 100 girls can be done in a day in London it doesnt mean anything. Just means you're a desperate loser with no shame.

    2 Maybe not the forum but their common sense or friends should help them.

    3 OP is an idiot if she does but thats up to her. Shes spoken to him very briefly and if his statuses and pictures are what his personality are like then it probably wont get further than the 1st date.

    4 Aggresive = violence = no thanks. Ripped? Very easy to be if youre skinny, if you workout then well done but he probably doesnt train legs and im sure OP's ass is more impressive as he wouldn't have approached her.
    1. No it doesn't but of course, that's your opinion.

    2. Is it not clear to you that common sense doesn't exist - especially in situations like this and especially with certain genders. Common sense and emotions have different balances in male and females.

    3. She's not an idiot. It's not her fault. She's not doing it on purpose.

    4. Read what you said again and tell me if it's worthy of a response
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    yeah I would love to see his reaction but other than for that the date will be a waste of my time. He is the exact opposite of what I want. Hmm why is it so hard to find decent guys..!
    The old saying if in doubt, don't do it (applies to anything)

    He seems like a player, and all these sexual posts, and gun photos, you don't want to be associated with that do you, you clearly say that. Worst thing, he could be a human sex trafficing, call me an exaggerater but some do especially countries like Albania, Bosnia etc etc, or associated to gangs, mafia. Be careful.

    I'd make my excuses and say something like I can't meet (if already arranged) because of (insert excuse)



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    I personally wouldn't date someone who isn't British (harsh, I know), it's because they always try to appear nice and decent etc. Until, you have a look on Facebook like you did. I could go on, but I think this is enough for now.

    They only want you for your British citizenship, then he/she will do a runner.
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    Thank you for the replies!! He texted me this morning saying "good morning beautiful girl" "looking at your photo first thing in the morning is amazing" he puts loads of smileys etc.*

    However I'm not going to pursue this I'm going to send him a message explaining what I found and the block him.

    I hope he doesn't come into the shop again. *
 
 
 
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