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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    not really bothered about ethics to be honest
    Well, you should be, makes no sense to knowingly cause upset/misery

    its not like I'm forcing him. he wants me here, now im pretty sure that he'd be unhappy if i left
    For sure, but it's important/fair to arm him with knowledge

    Besides ive nowhere to go and im really comfortable at his place
    Ah ok, didn't realise there were logistical considerations. In that case you do have a fine line to tread and I can appreciate why you'd be reluctant to lay everything out on the line
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Well, you should be, makes no sense to knowingly cause upset/misery

    For sure, but it's important/fair to arm him with knowledge

    Ah ok, didn't realise there were logistical considerations. In that case you do have a fine line to tread and I can appreciate why you'd be reluctant to lay everything out on the line
    Knowingly? I'm not trying to though : ( Well, yes, that too. I've some sort of depression/anxiety and sedatives dependence issues so I impulsively quit my job some time ago. Still, despite everything id hate to break up with him
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    Having read your threads its clear that you suffer from a mirade of emotional issues and are a generally disloyal person.

    What's just as bad though is how weak your boyfriend is.

    For the good of both of you, you should break up.
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    sedatives dependence issues
    Are you sure these aren't denting your zeal? Perhaps discuss with your GP :holmes:

    despite everything id hate to break up with him
    So don't break up, but do put him in the picture (without overdoing it). Also hope you haven't misled him about how bothered you were about cheating/how likely it is to happen again :erm:
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    (Original post by Rakas21)
    Having read your threads its clear that you suffer from a mirade of emotional issues and are a generally disloyal person.

    What's just as bad though is how weak your boyfriend is.

    For the good of both of you, you should break up.
    I don't really consider myself a disloyal person. It's not like I'm a serial cheater.
    Hmm I don't think he's necessarily a weak a person (and he's no saint either he has his faults too). But he can be quite soft hearted and lenient with me i think its mostly cause he knows about my bad past experiences, he knows they msessed me up a little, thats probably why hes so forgiving. Or maybe hes just blinded by love or whatever, who knows

    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Are you sure these aren't denting your zeal? Perhaps discuss with your GP :holmes:

    So don't break up, but do put him in the picture (without overdoing it). Also hope you haven't misled him about how bothered you were about cheating/how likely it is to happen again :erm:
    My Gp doesn't even know. They'd never understand. But anyway theres no way i could ever quit i need this stuff to function. Hell, i still cant function 100% normally, as in cant imagine going back to work, or having to deal with sleeping problems and anxiety etc but they do help a lot.
    Misled him? What do you mean? Im not planning on doing it again
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    Your boyfriend is a cuck
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    I don't really consider myself a disloyal person. It's not like I'm a serial cheater.
    Hmm I don't think he's necessarily a weak a person (and he's no saint either he has his faults too). But he can be quite soft hearted and lenient with me i think its mostly cause he knows about my bad past experiences, he knows they msessed me up a little, thats probably why hes so forgiving. Or maybe hes just blinded by love or whatever, who knows

    My Gp doesn't even know. They'd never understand. But anyway theres no way i could ever quit i need this stuff to function. Hell, i still cant function 100% normally, as in cant imagine going back to work, or having to deal with sleeping problems and anxiety etc but they do help a lot.
    Misled him? What do you mean? Im not planning on doing it again
    In your other thread you seemed to indicate that you cheated with one of your friends men. In one swoop you committed an act of disloyalty against two people.
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    (Original post by PrinceOfOrange)
    Your boyfriend is a cuck
    What is with kids throwing that word left and right nowadays? Do you even know what its really supposed to mean?
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    (Original post by Rakas21)
    In your other thread you seemed to indicate that you cheated with one of your friends men. In one swoop you committed an act of disloyalty against two people.
    dont even remind me..... it was really stupid of me. Still, wouldnt do it again
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    dont even remind me..... it was really stupid of me. Still, wouldnt do it again
    The question is, why did you do it that time?
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    (Original post by Rakas21)
    The question is, why did you do it that time?
    because i was drunk, and my mood was totally out of control. occasionally i get these hyper crazy moods. but they are pretty rare. probably wont happen again anytime soon. If it does i will just chain myself to the radiator, or sedate myself properly
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    because i was drunk, and my mood was totally out of control. occasionally i get these hyper crazy moods. but they are pretty rare. probably wont happen again anytime soon. If it does i will just chain myself to the radiator, or sedate myself properly
    Being drunk implies the reason was weakness, i don't need to tell you that most men would consider such a trait undesirable in a prospective mate.

    You also can't really blame your emotional episodes since plenty of people with mental health issues manage to keep their thong on.

    I get the impression that your the type who does not believe in individual responsibility to a significant degree.
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    (Original post by Rakas21)
    Being drunk implies the reason was weakness, i don't need to tell you that most men would consider such a trait undesirable in a prospective mate.

    You also can't really blame your emotional episodes since plenty of people with mental health issues manage to keep their thong on.

    I get the impression that your the type who does not believe in individual responsibility to a significant degree.
    I don't really like the term 'mental health issues',this is my personality now, its not an 'issue' that can be 'fixed'.
    hmm do i believe in individual responsibility... of course i do. However, i dont feel 100% responsible for what happened. i mostly blame the fact that my personality became flawed after a certain someone messed me up and and i was perfectly fine before, in my early teens, so i refuse to get over it because i never got ****ing justice and never will, and its unfixable. There i said it. I've a good reason not to feel fully responsible
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    You usee the word depression way to lightly. You're whiney *****, the other day you wanted him to forgive you so bad, now that he has you don't care...
    #1

    I was in a really depressed because I just did not care and was so apathetic. Obviously now I am in a better place after getting help. Give yourself a break and get some help/
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    (Original post by xobeauty)
    You usee the word depression way to lightly. You're whiney *****, the other day you wanted him to forgive you so bad, now that he has you don't care...
    What are you, 10? you dont know me at all, silly.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    well, the 'getting help' part is a massive problem for me.. sorry to hear about your bad experience
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    no way i could ever quit i need this stuff to function
    Sorry to hear that :console:

    deal with sleeping problems and anxiety etc
    I encourage you to consider carefully the relevant sub-section of my wellness guide, and the possible impact of electromagnetic fields/radiation in particular (known to interfere with melatonin, and wrecked my sleep and made me feel on edge)

    Misled him? What do you mean?
    Like given him the impression you care more than you do about doing what you did/the effect it had on him

    I'm not planning on doing it again
    This is a crafty was of avoiding saying 'it will never happen again' (which is what a partner really ought to hear/know, in such circumstances, hopefully you'll agree)
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Sorry to hear that :console:

    I encourage you to consider carefully the relevant sub-section of my wellness guide, and the possible impact of electromagnetic fields/radiation in particular (known to interfere with melatonin, and wrecked my sleep and made me feel on edge)

    Like given him the impression you care more than you do about doing what you did/the effect it had on him

    This is a crafty was of avoiding saying 'it will never happen again' (which is what a partner really ought to hear/know, in such circumstances, hopefully you'll agree)
    yeah i know what you mean. but theres no way to know for sure is there.. when my mood is really hyper, all the logic just goes right out the window and it feelslike no matter what i do,everything will turn out ok, more than ok. ohi mightve done that. accidental mislead.....
    thank you for the link will check it out. not sure if its going to help in my case ethough but who knows. its been years and things are getting qworse arent the y supposed to get better with time but no..
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    all i can see is a plain simple selfish personality idk what are you fishing about but you are just **** aint nothing anyone can really do about it
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    when my mood is really hyper, all the logic just goes right out the window and it feels like no matter what i do,everything will turn out ok, more than ok
    Mania ftw :indiff:

    thank you for the link will check it out. not sure if its going to help in my case ethough but who knows
    I've no doubt that some elements will be in some way beneficial, so definitely give it a good go!
 
 
 
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