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    I'd leave him to sort his own problems out.
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    They're a bad idea.
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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    They're a bad idea.
    I agree, doesn't seem to be working either
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    (Original post by STARRS)
    I'd leave him to sort his own problems out.
    Harsh 😂
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    Accept that she doesnt want him and move on, if you keep thinking about some old relationship it will kill you mentally, pick your bags up (metaphorically) and move on, plenty of fish in the sea
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Harsh 😂
    It might seem harsh but you can't solve people's problems for them. Don't get me wrong, your concern is really great. It's good to care for others and want to stop them from making mistakes and hurting themselves and others but often people need to learn these things for themselves. You can tell someone something over and over and over but they will never truly learn it until they get hurt in the process - that is life sometimes. It's cruel, especially for the people like the girls who he is dating that haven't done anything wrong, but he will not change if he's not willing to see that he needs to and he won't change unless he WANTS to. That's just how people are.

    You be the change you want to see, lead by example and be a comfort to those who get hurt as they learn. He may eventually see that how he's going about things isn't a good way, maybe he won't. He isn't your responsibility to take care of, you will just cause yourself worry and hurt if you take on the problems of others - believe me.
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    (Original post by ikhan94)
    Accept that she doesnt want him and move on, if you keep thinking about some old relationship it will kill you mentally, pick your bags up (metaphorically) and move on, plenty of fish in the sea
    That's true, it's been over 2 years since they broke up and he still wants her back. I guess the grass isn't greener and the fact he keeps having rebound relationship doesn't help the situation.
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    (Original post by PandaCalavera)
    It might seem harsh but you can't solve people's problems for them. Don't get me wrong, your concern is really great. It's good to care for others and want to stop them from making mistakes and hurting themselves and others but often people need to learn these things for themselves. You can tell someone something over and over and over but they will never truly learn it until they get hurt in the process - that is life sometimes. It's cruel, especially for the people like the girls who he is dating that haven't done anything wrong, but he will not change if he's not willing to see that he needs to and he won't change unless he WANTS to. That's just how people are.

    You be the change you want to see, lead by example and be a comfort to those who get hurt as they learn. He may eventually see that how he's going about things isn't a good way, maybe he won't. He isn't your responsibility to take care of, you will just cause yourself worry and hurt if you take on the problems of others - believe me.
    That's true! This is the first time I've intervened because they've been broken up for a long time and he wanted to reconcile a year ago (didn't work out). Yet, he's still stuck on her. That should have been the signal for him to move on. Ah well, nothing I can do like you said :/
 
 
 
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