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    A cancer patient said "Don't sweat the small stuff'. The small obstacles we face in life. You may think you'll stay like this forever but you won't.
    This is really motivating
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    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    Arguing huh... If you're arguing day in day out with the same people then something is wrong. I wouldn't like to blame anyone but maybe you could be the bigger person and try some different tactics. Like maybe you could try to never raise your voice. Sorry, I'm kinda useless at advice about arguing. The way I solve arguing is actually talking about it, and thinking about the TRUE PROBLEM and thinking very carefully about all the different possibilities and talk positively.
    the person i argue with has a very stubborn personality. we can never agree on anything. i don't raise my voice, but i can say hurtful things idk. i'm not exactly the warmest person around

    there's no leeway with them either. it's their word or nothing. take it or leave it
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    same. i can't wait for mondays. i wish i could just stay in school or some ****.

    i can't do anything to change it...i just have to put up with everything. maybe it will change soon? idk. this morning i woke up hoping it was monday lol, then i was like bahhhhhhhhhh no. -_-
    there seems to be something missing from your life, like a void. right now i want a part time job to stay active as much as possible. i hate weekends. i hate living with parents. i woke up today, spent one freaking hour on the phone reading some random crap on quora, then i realised what was the point in that. i like waking up with a purpose. :cry:
    dont know when things will get better but im not alone!!! youre in the same crap!
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    (Original post by Actually_Felix)
    I was 17 last year when I started uni. I lived in a self-catered studio in private accommodation, so I totally understand you. Uni can be extremely overwhelming, jumping from the comfort of support from high school to being totally alone is a difficult step for all of us. Here's a few milestones you should set for yourself.

    Nutrition
    What I suggest you do is make sure you get your nutrition sorted out first. YES, nutrition. An empty stomach induces emptiness in your feels more than anything. It is also one of the more difficult things to get sorted out.

    Planners
    Who the f*** uses planners?? Smart people. Get a daily planner from your guild or stationary shop, they cost maybe a quid or two. I cannot emphasise this enough, but planners greatly helped me sort my priorities. Draw a line across your daily planner and make one side your academic obligations, and the other your extra-curricular commitments. you will be fine.

    Leisure Management
    Find something that you like to do in your free time that is NOT browsing the web. Comic books, fiction, pool, whatever you're into.

    Whatever you do, just know that you DO NOT NEED anyone else other than yourself. You are an adult now, get your sh!t sorted brother!
    nutrition- pretty useful actually, lately i've lost my appetite, dont know why. i struggle to eat a lot.

    i've got a planner so...

    i try and concentrate on my music. composing and playing. it's certainly a stress reliever but only for a while.
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    (Original post by ihatePE)
    there seems to be something missing from your life, like a void. right now i want a part time job to stay active as much as possible. i hate weekends. i hate living with parents. i woke up today, spent one freaking hour on the phone reading some random crap on quora, then i realised what was the point in that. i like waking up with a purpose. :cry:
    dont know when things will get better but im not alone!!! youre in the same crap!
    there is.
    i'm not allowed out unfortunately. so i'm pretty much housebound against my will xD.
    trust man i want a job sooooo much.
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    the person i argue with has a very stubborn personality. we can never agree on anything. i don't raise my voice, but i can say hurtful things idk. i'm not exactly the warmest person around

    there's no leeway with them either. it's their word or nothing. take it or leave it
    The Russians and US cannot keep arguing forever about Syria and wish that peace will remain. There needs to be a compromise imo.

    Instead of take it or leave it, why not split pot? Have you thought of any compromises you could make? And if that person is being completely unreasonable, talk to some professionals.
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    (Original post by saraxh)
    A cancer patient said "Don't sweat the small stuff'. The small obstacles we face in life. You may think you'll stay like this forever but you won't.
    This is really motivating
    thanks. i know it won't be like this forever. but idk, anyday could be my last.
    bleak i know...
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    there is.
    i'm not allowed out unfortunately. so i'm pretty much housebound against my will xD.
    trust man i want a job sooooo much.
    #FightForFreedom
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    there is.
    i'm not allowed out unfortunately. so i'm pretty much housebound against my will xD.
    trust man i want a job sooooo much.
    you're grounded? what happenedddd
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    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    The Russians and US cannot keep arguing forever about Syria and wish that peace will remain. There needs to be a compromise imo.

    Instead of take it or leave it, why not split pot? Have you thought of any compromises you could make? And if that person is being completely unreasonable, talk to some professionals.
    we've made compromises. not good ones...but better than nothing i guess.

    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    #FightForFreedom
    tried+failed
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    (Original post by ihatePE)
    you're grounded? what happenedddd
    nothing.

    my parents just won't let me go out. they said something like "you should be revising not going out. this is the most important time of your life, don't **** it up"
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    tried+failed
    Are you telling me that you've spoken to professionals and helpline people?
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    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    Are you telling me that you've spoken to professionals and helpline people?
    no...but i don't really want to. i just don't trust that kind of stuff
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    Life sucks. Go sit in the garden for half an hour get some fresh air. You are 17, things change, put one foot in front of the other
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    first off. i know, i'm 17. why should i be a mess? wait till i get to x years old or x part of my life, then i'll really be in deep ****. also, why should i be so ungrateful? i have clean water, three meals a day, clothes, a house, education? i have the perfect life. so i should stop whining and get on with it.

    i know all of this. but at the same time, i just can't

    idek where this has come from. i just...idk. so much has happened. good and bad. well not really bad but i have opened my eyes and realized what's happening.

    the good is really good, but when i think about the good, it reminds me of the bad and i feel ****. obviously people care about me, i know that like 5 people genuinely care about my well being, but they can't be around all the time you know? it's just i sit here, at 11:41 and feel miserable. and i'm like look homeland, man up stop feeling sorry for yourself but idk.

    this doesnt even make sense. i just want to do something. meh. none of this made sense, why am i even posting this. i know the responses will be like "awww don't worry everything will be ok " it wont. i appreciate the sentiment but it wont.

    erm. yeah vent over i guess? was this even a vent? probably not. i also burnt my tongue while drinking my coffee so that's annoying.

    i'm not really expecting much in terms of replies so dw? idk i hope you all have a nice day

    also when something says allegro i expect it to be allegro, not andante just putting that out there
    its never too late to make a change. If you're feeling like a mess then dont sit there and moan, get up and be productive because you will feel so much better. it's never too late. I mean col. sanders (KFC owner) had his entire life play against him to the extent that he was going to commit suicide. However, one small change in his mindset led him from wanting to commit suicide to becoming a millionaire.
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    thanks. i know it won't be like this forever. but idk, anyday could be my last.
    bleak i know...
    What do you mean by this? :console:
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    no...but i don't really want to. i just don't trust that kind of stuff
    I understand why you might not trust them. But I just want to say that they're there for you if you need them.

    And saying it could be your last day - that's kinda scary lol.

    Why are you grounded or whatever? If you are, then do you think it's justified?
    Yeah nutrition is good advice. And Sleep.
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    (Original post by Betelgeuse-)
    Life sucks. Go sit in the garden for half an hour get some fresh air. You are 17, things change, put one foot in front of the other
    I actually appreciate your bluntness. Thanks. I know things change, but I just wish they'd change now :lol: But yeah, just keep going I guess.
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    (Original post by Deyesy)
    What do you mean by this? :console:
    i don't mean suicide. I'm not a coward or anything. I love people around me and I can't lose them and I don't want them to lose me.

    i mean, what if I got hit by a bus or idk. idk what's going to happen lol
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    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    I understand why you might not trust them. But I just want to say that they're there for you if you need them.

    And saying it could be your last day - that's kinda scary lol.

    Why are you grounded or whatever? If you are, then do you think it's justified?
    Yeah nutrition is good advice. And Sleep.
    yeah maybe.

    again i don't mean suicide. it's just life's a *****

    like i said earlier, i'm not grounded, i didn't do anything wrong, i'm just forced to stay at home
 
 
 
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