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    (Original post by Epistemolog y)
    Sorry. Just take a gap year then and get a part-time job travel and find an interest. Are you hapy with your grades and univeristy maybe retake some modules?
    Don't worry about it thats what I was thinking of doing just not about how to get around my parents :/ I'm thinling of going back next year to get a degree to teach English as a foreign language
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    (Original post by megmrsh)
    Hey
    I've been in uni studying history for about 3 and a half weeks now, and I've realised that I'm not on the right course. I've tried to talk to my uni but theey wont let me change course, and I'm really miserable and depressed. I've decided I want to drop out of uni, but my parents are totally against it even though they know I'm depressed (and I have anxiety). I want to take a gap year to work and maybe travel, and then sign up for a different course next year. Has anyone here been in a similar situtuation? Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with my parents and convince them it wont ruin my life?
    Thanks xxx
    I'm in the same position too. I just feel like I'm pushing above my brain. I'm in an even worse position than you I have to uni this year or my mum will send me to Nigeria or kick me out of the house. And I'll be homeless. Or I'll have to find a job. People are saying that I'll have live with these mistakes I make in life. It's just really shameful to be forgetting things at a young age in life. My sister is using me is what I've seen from this and she was jealous of my school experience. I'm just set on going back to school again but I can't because my parents will kick me out of the house. I do have money but I'll have to look for a job. And my dad says if I take a gap year I'll be stuck at Mac Donald's fact and just wasting another year of my life.
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    (Original post by VictoriaCoolio)
    I'm in the same position too. I just feel like I'm pushing above my brain. I'm in an even worse position than you I have to uni this year or my mum will send me to Nigeria or kick me out of the house. And I'll be homeless. Or I'll have to find a job. People are saying that I'll have live with these mistakes I make in life. It's just really shameful to be forgetting things at a young age in life. My sister is using me is what I've seen from this and she was jealous of my school experience. I'm just set on going back to school again but I can't because my parents will kick me out of the house. I do have money but I'll have to look for a job. And my dad says if I take a gap year I'll be stuck at Mac Donald's fact and just wasting another year of my life.
    Hi, I'm sorry to hear that you're in such a bad position and that your parents aren't being supportive of your decisions :/ people are also telling me that I'm making a mistake and that I'm going to regret it but I guess its not up to them to decide that so are you going to drop out and look for a job? I've done a lot of thinking, and I think that I'm going to look for a part time job and do an online course TEFL course to get a certificate to teach English as a foreign language, mostly because it will look good on my CV and it's something I've thought about doing in the past. Then I will go back to uni to study English. Since I've told my parents about this they have started to accept the idea. Maybe if you come up with a plan your parents will be more supportive too.
    Good luck!
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    (Original post by megmrsh)
    Hi, I'm sorry to hear that you're in such a bad position and that your parents aren't being supportive of your decisions :/ people are also telling me that I'm making a mistake and that I'm going to regret it but I guess its not up to them to decide that so are you going to drop out and look for a job? I've done a lot of thinking, and I think that I'm going to look for a part time job and do an online course TEFL course to get a certificate to teach English as a foreign language, mostly because it will look good on my CV and it's something I've thought about doing in the past. Then I will go back to uni to study English. Since I've told my parents about this they have started to accept the idea. Maybe if you come up with a plan your parents will be more supportive too.
    Good luck!
    I'll probably drop out and find a job and go back to school and try to get professional help
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    (Original post by VictoriaCoolio)
    I'll probably drop out and find a job and go back to school and try to get professional help
    Oh ok, I hope everything works out for you
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    (Original post by megmrsh)
    Oh ok, I hope everything works out for you
    I've also been told by people that if I drop out whilst here I can stay in accommodation and find a job to pay for things.
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    (Original post by VictoriaCoolio)
    I've also been told by people that if I drop out whilst here I can stay in accommodation and find a job to pay for things.
    Oh that's great, at least that would allow to take the time you need to work things out
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    Is to possible to defer your entry and stay in the halls at the same time.
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    I'm really not up for this course or this year. You don't want to be entering university feeling like this and looking like this.
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    (Original post by megmrsh)
    Hey
    I've been in uni studying history for about 3 and a half weeks now, and I've realised that I'm not on the right course. I've tried to talk to my uni but theey wont let me change course, and I'm really miserable and depressed. I've decided I want to drop out of uni, but my parents are totally against it even though they know I'm depressed (and I have anxiety). I want to take a gap year to work and maybe travel, and then sign up for a different course next year. Has anyone here been in a similar situtuation? Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with my parents and convince them it wont ruin my life?
    Thanks xxx
    Hello, I'm a 4th year student at uni and I felt the same way, and completely regret not dropping out back in year 1. ( my course is 5 years long)

    I will highly advise you to drop out if you are feeling like it is the wrong course for you, because the depression and anxiety will only get much worse. The decision is yours to make.
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    (Original post by Its Just That Dude)
    Hello, I'm a 4th year student at uni and I felt the same way, and completely regret not dropping out back in year 1. ( my course is 5 years long)

    I will highly advise you to drop out if you are feeling like it is the wrong course for you, because the depression and anxiety will only get much worse. The decision is yours to make.
    Hi, I'm sorry you feel that way at least you have't got that much longer to go yes I feel like I need to, I don't to feel worse than I already do. Thank you for your input and advice xxx
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    (Original post by Its Just That Dude)
    Hello, I'm a 4th year student at uni and I felt the same way, and completely regret not dropping out back in year 1. ( my course is 5 years long)

    I will highly advise you to drop out if you are feeling like it is the wrong course for you, because the depression and anxiety will only get much worse. The decision is yours to make.
    Okay I see. I'll take this into account
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    (Original post by VictoriaCoolio)
    Is to possible to defer your entry and stay in the halls at the same time.
    I honestly don't know maybe, it probably depends on where you are
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    My student finance money has already come through ao it's too late now. I'm screwed.
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    (Original post by VictoriaCoolio)
    My student finance money has already come through ao it's too late now. I'm screwed.
    Oh no I'm so sorry :'( isn't there anyone you can talk to to try and get around it? Maybe if you can explain your situation to someone they might be able to sort something out?
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    (Original post by megmrsh)
    Oh no I'm so sorry :'( isn't there anyone you can talk to to try and get around it? Maybe if you can explain your situation to someone they might be able to sort something out?
    I think I'll try and talk to the night services. I think they should be able to sort something out for me.
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    Drop out, seriously. I couldn't tell you how much I wish I could go back and tell my 18 year old self not to stress so much over the decision. I wound up waiting until the end of my first year as I couldn't bring myself to tell anybody, which was dumb.

    Going to university later than 18 might feel like a disaster scenario now whilst other people you know are off starting their courses, but you've got time on your side believe me, so take some of it. Finding work or travelling during your year out would no doubt help.

    A gap year can be invaluable for some people. It can be difficult to develop real interests, or aspirations, with the constant pressures of school or college and lack of time to contend with. The time out could help you more than you'd expect.
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    Drop out, seriously. I couldn't tell you how much I wish I could go back and tell my 18 year old self not to stress so much over the decision. I wound up waiting until the end of my first year as I couldn't bring myself to tell anybody, which was dumb.

    Going to university later than 18 might feel like a disaster scenario now whilst other people you know are off starting their courses, but you've got time on your side believe me, so take some of it. Finding work or travelling during your year out would no doubt help.

    A gap year can be invaluable for some people. It can be difficult to develop real interests, or aspirations, with the constant pressures of school or college and lack of time to contend with. The time out could help you more than you'd expect.
    Sorry for the late reply, but thank you for your opinion. I think a gap year could help me, forcing myself to stay wouldn't be a good idea and wouldn't help me in any way :/ What did you do after your first year? Did you change course or take a gap year?
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    (Original post by Cll_ws)
    Drop out, seriously. I couldn't tell you how much I wish I could go back and tell my 18 year old self not to stress so much over the decision. I wound up waiting until the end of my first year as I couldn't bring myself to tell anybody, which was dumb.

    Going to university later than 18 might feel like a disaster scenario now whilst other people you know are off starting their courses, but you've got time on your side believe me, so take some of it. Finding work or travelling during your year out would no doubt help.

    A gap year can be invaluable for some people. It can be difficult to develop real interests, or aspirations, with the constant pressures of school or college and lack of time to contend with. The time out could help you more than you'd expect.
    Yeah I've seen people on course who are like 30 - 19. I don't have to get it right the first time but my accommodation is coming through on the 10th. I'm just hoping it's not too late. I'm trying to change course to Mathematics or Physics I'm not so sure now. Now that I think about it I want to study Physics.
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    (Original post by megmrsh)
    Sorry for the late reply, but thank you for your opinion. I think a gap year could help me, forcing myself to stay wouldn't be a good idea and wouldn't help me in any way :/ What did you do after your first year? Did you change course or take a gap year?
    No problem! I took a gap 5 years :lol: Because I had no real idea of what I wanted to study, and didn't want to get it wrong a second time. Hopefully if you already know it won't take you that long! But I would still encourage you not to jump into a course that you're unsure about.

    I've done a few things in that time. Worked full-time, studied part-time, spent some time living and studying abroad. It wasn't until I was 22 that I found something that I truly enjoyed studying, and i've been self-studying that subject for the past 2 years. I'm applying now to return to university next September.

    It's taken me longer that I expected, but I don't regret taking the time to work things out.
 
 
 
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