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    (Original post by EnterNamehereplz)
    I recommend you go talk to a doctor. You are now in AS or A2? Work on your grades. Go outside your comfort zone a bit and try make friends maybe go to the gym. I can see you want change which is a good sign. You are also seeking it I can see you doing very well. You also have a job which you should be proud. The thing about bad times is they go away . When you go to university you will have the time of your life. Just research what you enjoy get a little work experience. There is no rush. You can enjoy life.
    Thank you for the advice and the kind words.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you for the advice and the kind words.
    Good luck I am going to stop gaming and replying now going to study.
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    (Original post by EnterNamehereplz)
    Good luck I am going to stop gaming and replying now going to study.
    Thank you and good luck with studying
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello

    I suffered alot throughout my life, had a challenging and tough childhood and still is now. I dont have a secure family "network", like im the black sheep of the family and no one is there for me, i dont even have friends. And this has led me to be diagnosed as mute 3 years ago and its only in this recent year that i am slowly talking again.

    I fear i have depression and i struggle badly with punishing myself. Like i self harm alot of the time. Mainly when i cant take it any more and just want a distraction from my mental pain im feeling, so physical pain helps i guess in a way to distract that.

    I also punish myself alot for my weight, like im on diet, barely eat now and trying to lose weight but every time i stray of the diet, and eat what i see as too much or food with too high calories in, i will make myself sick.

    Im sorry for my rambling but i just wanted to know has anyone got any ways to cope or help with these problems i have?

    Any advice ??
    Clearly you have some serious issues to contend with and its encouraging that you are able to recognise them.

    If I were in your position, then I would wnat to get professional help because any one of those issues is significant.

    The good news is that if you do get help and methodically deal with each one then you can come through it and lead a normal happy life. You need a support system or some guidance to help you.

    How old are you or at what stage in your education are you? Your parents arent bothered?

    The best friend you have is yourself plus you can never go anywhere without yourself, so you are stuck with you. That means at some stage you are going to have to make peace and friends with yourself. It will make all the other issues easier to solve.

    1. Go to your GP and sort out getting to see a therapist.
    2. If you are under 18 then you cna talk to childline on 0800 1111
    3. If you are over 18 then you cna speak to specialist charities.

    You seem to have 3 areas:

    i) Self harm- this is the most serious one to get under control.
    https://www.selfharm.co.uk/
    http://www.harmless.org.uk/
    http://www.selfinjurysupport.org.uk/

    Its not my area, but I suspect you really need some counseling so they cna get to understand why you feel you need to self harm, explain why it doesnt make sense, teach you why it doesnt work and show you other techniques to prevent you from doing it and to channel your energies in a different way.
    Sorry if im not giving you the answer. I would have to read up on it and I dont understimate how difficult it must be to deal with. It will be linked in with depression and self esteem issues.

    Contact those charities or read the information on the website and you will realise you arent alone, that there are people who understand and they cna help you get better.

    ii) Your eating disorder. You sound bulimic. You should get help from your GP, bit its all likely to be tied in with anxiety and self esteem issues.

    Losing weight is straight forward. I cannot tell whether you properly understand how it works, whether your diet is healthy or realistic. Its possible your self image is highly distorted and you need assessing.

    The leading charity for eating disorders is BEAT.
    Helpline 0345 634 1414 Youthline 0345 634 7650
    https://www.b-eat.co.uk/support-services

    They also have some good information booklets about eating disorders. I am unsure as to how able or motivated you are to be able to read them. They also have some moderated message boards and information on peer support groups.

    3. For muteness I could only find Scope as a charity. It looks like you have withdrawn so far into yourself that you got the mute diagnosis possibly because of extreme anxiety and low self esteem.

    Anxiety
    http://www.youngminds.org.uk/for_chi...ng_you/anxiety

    https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/


    So I think your task is to get professional help and talk to someone or several people. If you cnat then just show them your post and they cna get an idea of how you are being affected.

    If they get to the bottom of one issue then its all likely to be connected and it should help you understand how its affecting you and how to change the problem so you dont self harm, you can be less anxious, make friends and start to make a life which is more normal an ultimately where you are happy.

    It will take time and it wont happen overnight, but you need to take it one day at a time and take small steps. Gradually you cna build up, the problems will necome less and you cna reclaim your life. People suffer from all the things you have mentioned and they get better.

    Please contact some of the charities or your GP and get help. Good luck.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Clearly you have some serious issues to contend with and its encouraging that you are able to recognise them.

    If I were in your position, then I would wnat to get professional help because any one of those issues is significant.

    The good news is that if you do get help and methodically deal with each one then you can come through it and lead a normal happy life. You need a support system or some guidance to help you.

    How old are you or at what stage in your education are you? Your parents arent bothered?

    The best friend you have is yourself plus you can never go anywhere without yourself, so you are stuck with you. That means at some stage you are going to have to make peace and friends with yourself. It will make all the other issues easier to solve.

    1. Go to your GP and sort out getting to see a therapist.
    2. If you are under 18 then you cna talk to childline on 0800 1111
    3. If you are over 18 then you cna speak to specialist charities.

    You seem to have 3 areas:

    i) Self harm- this is the most serious one to get under control.
    https://www.selfharm.co.uk/
    http://www.harmless.org.uk/
    http://www.selfinjurysupport.org.uk/

    Its not my area, but I suspect you really need some counseling so they cna get to understand why you feel you need to self harm, explain why it doesnt make sense, teach you why it doesnt work and show you other techniques to prevent you from doing it and to channel your energies in a different way.
    Sorry if im not giving you the answer. I would have to read up on it and I dont understimate how difficult it must be to deal with. It will be linked in with depression and self esteem issues.

    Contact those charities or read the information on the website and you will realise you arent alone, that there are people who understand and they cna help you get better.

    ii) Your eating disorder. You sound bulimic. You should get help from your GP, bit its all likely to be tied in with anxiety and self esteem issues.

    Losing weight is straight forward. I cannot tell whether you properly understand how it works, whether your diet is healthy or realistic. Its possible your self image is highly distorted and you need assessing.

    The leading charity for eating disorders is BEAT.
    Helpline 0345 634 1414 Youthline 0345 634 7650
    https://www.b-eat.co.uk/support-services

    They also have some good information booklets about eating disorders. I am unsure as to how able or motivated you are to be able to read them. They also have some moderated message boards and information on peer support groups.

    3. For muteness I could only find Scope as a charity. It looks like you have withdrawn so far into yourself that you got the mute diagnosis possibly because of extreme anxiety and low self esteem.

    Anxiety
    http://www.youngminds.org.uk/for_chi...ng_you/anxiety

    https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/


    So I think your task is to get professional help and talk to someone or several people. If you cnat then just show them your post and they cna get an idea of how you are being affected.

    If they get to the bottom of one issue then its all likely to be connected and it should help you understand how its affecting you and how to change the problem so you dont self harm, you can be less anxious, make friends and start to make a life which is more normal an ultimately where you are happy.

    It will take time and it wont happen overnight, but you need to take it one day at a time and take small steps. Gradually you cna build up, the problems will necome less and you cna reclaim your life. People suffer from all the things you have mentioned and they get better.

    Please contact some of the charities or your GP and get help. Good luck.
    First of all thank you for taking the time to write this advice, i really appreciate it.

    Yea i guess so. And im scared to due to pas experiences with professional help.
    I hope so and i dont know, if i need a support system but i guess i just lack guidance in my life and just wish i had a supportive family.
    Im 17 and im in year 12. I dont live with parents, but my mum is bothered but i dont see here anymore due to her own illness problems.
    Thats a good advice there and i should follow that.

    Thank you for saying the places i can go.

    i) i agree with ya. And i guess i do but im ashamed of it so its hard to tell someone. And dont be sorry and i agree i think it all linked together in a knock on sort of effect. And i will check them websites out, thank you.

    ii) Whats bulimic and i guess i need to. and i think it might be. It is possible, i have been badly bullied and have experienced emotional abuse. Thank you for the links. And would ya think that would help? , if so where would ya find booklets about eating disorder and peer support groups.

    3) You may be right there, thank you for the links and i will check them out.

    I will try my hardest to. And thats a good idea to do that. And i guess it will and i know, got a long and tough journey of recovery i guess. I will try to and hopefully i will.

    I will try to, and thank you for all your help. I really appreciate it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    First of all thank you for taking the time to write this advice, i really appreciate it.

    Yea i guess so. And im scared to due to pas experiences with professional help.
    I hope so and i dont know, if i need a support system but i guess i just lack guidance in my life and just wish i had a supportive family.
    Im 17 and im in year 12. I dont live with parents, but my mum is bothered but i dont see here anymore due to her own illness problems.
    Thats a good advice there and i should follow that.

    Thank you for saying the places i can go.

    i) i agree with ya. And i guess i do but im ashamed of it so its hard to tell someone. And dont be sorry and i agree i think it all linked together in a knock on sort of effect. And i will check them websites out, thank you.

    ii) Whats bulimic and i guess i need to. and i think it might be. It is possible, i have been badly bullied and have experienced emotional abuse. Thank you for the links. And would ya think that would help? , if so where would ya find booklets about eating disorder and peer support groups.

    3) You may be right there, thank you for the links and i will check them out.

    I will try my hardest to. And thats a good idea to do that. And i guess it will and i know, got a long and tough journey of recovery i guess. I will try to and hopefully i will.

    I will try to, and thank you for all your help. I really appreciate it.
    1. If you have had poor experiences with professional help then you just havent found the right sort of help. Its not an excuse not to keep on trying. In the interim contact the charities indicated and you will see they have the experitise and understanding to appreciate what you are going through.

    2. 17 is vey young, so you are still eligible to talk to childline about anything, jsut as a friend and someone to listen.

    3. You already know they are all interlinked. so a professional will ahve to take time or you will have to start addressing each issue and dealing with them one by one. the importnat fact is its solveable.

    4. Bulimic is where you eat and then vomit it back up. It explains in this booklet about eating disorders. Its important you educate yourself. its safe and one of the things you need to understand how to get out of the situation is knowledge.https://www.b-eat.co.uk/about-eating...1431349325Post back here if you get stuck. You have a lot going on, but you started to identify all the different areas well. Try ringing the beat helpline and they cna discuss things with you.

    It may be you have so many issues each charity cna only help you with certain aspects and nobdy can cover them all. Realise its all solveable and you cna have a happy life. Never give up and try to look after yourself.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    1. If you have had poor experiences with professional help then you just havent found the right sort of help. Its not an excuse not to keep on trying. In the interim contact the charities indicated and you will see they have the experitise and understanding to appreciate what you are going through.

    2. 17 is vey young, so you are still eligible to talk to childline about anything, jsut as a friend and someone to listen.

    3. You already know they are all interlinked. so a professional will ahve to take time or you will have to start addressing each issue and dealing with them one by one. the importnat fact is its solveable.

    4. Bulimic is where you eat and then vomit it back up. It explains in this booklet about eating disorders. Its important you educate yourself. its safe and one of the things you need to understand how to get out of the situation is knowledge.https://www.b-eat.co.uk/about-eating...1431349325Post back here if you get stuck. You have a lot going on, but you started to identify all the different areas well. Try ringing the beat helpline and they cna discuss things with you.

    It may be you have so many issues each charity cna only help you with certain aspects and nobdy can cover them all. Realise its all solveable and you cna have a happy life. Never give up and try to look after yourself.

    1)Maybe so and i know its no excuse thats why i started this thread, because im aware i need help.

    2) Okay thanks, for letting me know that.

    3) I guess so and i try to believe that this is solvable but sometimes its hard to.

    4) Thank you for explaining that and for all the information. And i will try that.

    Thank you for the helpful advice and kind words.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    1)Maybe so and i know its no excuse thats why i started this thread, because im aware i need help.

    2) Okay thanks, for letting me know that.

    3) I guess so and i try to believe that this is solvable but sometimes its hard to.

    4) Thank you for explaining that and for all the information. And i will try that.

    Thank you for the helpful advice and kind words.
    Its very important to be determined, to know that you matter and never give up. Things might seem overwhelming at the moment but you can solve each one of the issues affecting you and have a happy life. Do NOT beat yourself up, but become your own best friend and it will make your journey a whole lot easier. There wukk be people who listen, understand and help you along the way and they are the only ones you need to seek out, ignore the others and the voices in your head that seek to punish you. Take care.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Its very important to be determined, to know that you matter and never give up. Things might seem overwhelming at the moment but you can solve each one of the issues affecting you and have a happy life. Do NOT beat yourself up, but become your own best friend and it will make your journey a whole lot easier. There wukk be people who listen, understand and help you along the way and they are the only ones you need to seek out, ignore the others and the voices in your head that seek to punish you. Take care.
    Thank you for the advice, and i will try to.
 
 
 
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