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    Awesome, thanks for the advice!


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    I think it's entirely reasonable for your mum to want to come to Oxford with you and for you to allow her to do so. There's a huge difference between that and her trying to elbow her way into the interview room, which she clearly won't be trying to so. So let her enjoy her time in Oxford - she might even buy you something lovely whilst you're being interview, and I should have thought at least that you'd go out for a nice lunch after. So it'll be nice for you both.
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    I think it's entirely reasonable for your mum to want to come to Oxford with you and for you to allow her to do so. There's a huge difference between that and her trying to elbow her way into the interview room, which she clearly won't be trying to so. So let her enjoy her time in Oxford - she might even buy you something lovely whilst you're being interview, and I should have thought at least that you'd go out for a nice lunch after. So it'll be nice for you both.
    ^This.

    Hysteria about what clothes to wear to the interview, whether it is best to stay in your room preparing or socialising with other interviewees, whether you should shake hands, fist bump or rub noses with your interviewers....this all enhances the mystique of the Oxford interview, and is an excellent way of maximising your anxiety.

    If you perform best when you are highly anxious, then go ahead. In fact, I would be happy to suggest some other things you could fret about; for instance, have you thought about what sort of knock to use when called into the interview room? (it's well know that you should scratch and whine in imitation of a King Charles spaniel at Christ Church, slip a note written in green ink under the door at Magdalen, sing a madrigal at St Hilda's and break down the door with an axe, cackling, "Heeeeere's Iman!" at St Katz, for example)

    However, if you are a normal person, I'd suggest that you do whatever makes you feel comfortable and do your best to enjoy the whole experience.
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    Would it be ok for my mum to come to oxford with me if I got an interview? Ive been hearing stuff about how applicants that travel with parents are looked down upon. I don't mind the fact that she would stay in oxford while i have my interview, but I don't want to look stupid either (or to hurt her feelings).
    This would not be a problem. Parents can't be accommodated so your mother/father will need to make separate arrangements. Parents also cannot be present at interviews.

    In our experience, the great majority of applicants do not come with parents but some do, usually for one of the following reasons:

    1) long travel times (parents often drive down with applicants)
    2) special needs (parents may be carers)
    3) young applicants, partticularly under-16-year-olds
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    Would it be ok for my mum to come to oxford with me if I got an interview? Ive been hearing stuff about how applicants that travel with parents are looked down upon. I don't mind the fact that she would stay in oxford while i have my interview, but I don't want to look stupid either (or to hurt her feelings).
    Going to university is a big step, especially if it's overseas. It's entirely reasonable for your mother to travel with you, but she should leave you on your own at the college for the duration of your stay. It's a good opportunity to experience living in Oxford and your college.

    If he gets an interview, I will be accompanying my son (we live in California). I probably won't stay in central Oxford - I'm not sure if the colleges would have space during interviews anyway.
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    have you thought about what sort of knock to use when called into the interview room? (you should you scratch and whine in imitation of a King Charles spaniel at Christ Church, slip a note written in green ink under the door at Magdalen, sing a madrigal at St Hilda's and break down the door with an axe, cackling, "Heeeeere's Iman!" at St Katz)
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    I've only just stopped laughing at this :grin: There's a wicked part of me imagining frantic prospective interviewees scribbling down "...madrigals...springer, no KING CHARLES spaniels..."
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    I don't see an issue with this... presumably she just wants to see the place in the same way as she might accompany you to an open day. Obviously she shouldn't be anywhere near the interview itself or any other formal events (e.g. a talk about how the interviews will be conducted) but it doesn't sound as if that was her intention.
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    I don't see an issue with this... presumably she just wants to see the place in the same way as she might accompany you to an open day. Obviously she shouldn't be anywhere near the interview itself or any other formal events (e.g. a talk about how the interviews will be conducted) but it doesn't sound as if that was her intention.
    Yes I don't think it is her intention, I've sort of panicked because some people made snarky comments about her flying with me, but I'm pretty much in agreement with you now


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    Going to university is a big step, especially if it's overseas. It's entirely reasonable for your mother to travel with you, but she should leave you on your own at the college for the duration of your stay. It's a good opportunity to experience living in Oxford and your college.

    If he gets an interview, I will be accompanying my son (we live in California). I probably won't stay in central Oxford - I'm not sure if the colleges would have space during interviews anyway.
    Yeah I'm a international applicant too, which is why my mum would do what you are doing, so I suppose it's ok


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    I reckon if they're coming due to travel, or to see the sights or something like that, it's no problem, as long as they "keep their distance". For example, If I get interviewed it'll be a 6 hour drive from Scotland, and I'm autistic, so my dad's planning to come with me so he doesn't have to drive back, and in case there's an emergency or I get really anxious about something he's nearby (we don't expect this'll happen, though). But while he's there he's just planning to stay in a hotel and see the sights - no "helicopter parenting" or anything like that.
 
 
 
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