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    (Original post by Midnightmemories)
    Maybe they send all their post from one address? Correct me if I've been mistaken but I know with my rheumatology appointments are "based" in one place but are actually held in another (my old consultant who referred me to him managed to pull some strings and got me on the outreach clinic list, but it wasn't clear in the original letter that was the case.)

    I think they might have decided to do something similar? Or maybe they've decided they want to assess the situation and then descale as needed?

    :hugs: whatever they've decided to do they've go to your best interests at heart. It may seem that it's OTT now, but maybe it's for the best if they've decided to go that route, it might be they're trying to get you seen as quick as they can so you can benefit quicker. :jumphug:
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    Wrist is completely ****ed now. It's been above normal pain for nearly a week now and nothing is helping. Just wish that something could be done :cry:
    No all the teams have different buildings and different areas of the city.
    Its just so confusing i dunno kinda regret being SO honest

    Ask for some naproxen its amazing :drool: and is used for rhumo pain too :yep:

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    No all the teams have different buildings and different areas of the city.
    Its just so confusing i dunno kinda regret being SO honest

    Ask for some naproxen its amazing :drool: and is used for rhumo pain too :yep:

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    A lot of my mh-y letters come stamped with an address that has nothing to do from where its actually from! No need to worry lovely. :lovehug:
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    (Original post by sherbet_lemons7)
    A lot of my mh-y letters come stamped with an address that has nothing to do from where its actually from! No need to worry lovely. :lovehug:
    No the letter head had the team and address (but that team doesnt seem to exist its soooo confusing)

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    (Original post by PandaWho)
    No the letter head had the team and address (but that team doesnt seem to exist its soooo confusing)

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    Even if you have been referred to the complex care team, what's the problem? They might be able to help you, who cares what they're called.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I hate it when she shouts at me for reacting to the voices, but I don't think that's emotional abuse - I know she loves me and I love her. But it's like she's super logical. if I mention the government doing things she shouts at me not because she's abusive but because she thinks it will persuade me to forget about the government. It doesn't work but I don't think she knows any other way of dealing with the problem. Most of the time when the voices are shouting at me I just want a cuddle and to talk to her - she'll give me a cuddle in bed but will be playing on the DS while I lie there crying. I would love for her to talk to me about anything but she won't - I keep asking and she never complies.That does bother me a lot but I don't know how to make her change. I tried having her talk to my psychiatrist, I tried sending her Mind pdfs, I even got her to watch that video with Anderson Cooper on youtube - she sees it all but doesn't change.

    Sorry, I kind of rambled there.
    Ramble away I didn't mean to label your experience for you. You know your world much better than I know it. I still think she could be more flexible and work with you. The important part is that you feel supported. We can love people that aren't necessarily the best for us to be around. Who aren't willing to make the necessary accommodations. But if what they do give isn't hurting us then it matters less. I'd think about whether you are being hurt. Not to declare to me or to justify anything. Just something to ponder with therapist.

    Hope you're having a good Saturday and the voices have allowed you some reprieve
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    The complex care team are likely to handle the signposting duties within the team. A phone assessment would be to help discover which team would benefit you the most.

    That being said, ive been treated in personality disorder clinic without a personality disorder. I really wouldn't worry too much about what label they've given that department. It's not uncommon for the crisis team to be based near a complex needs or higher tier team because that team would help them should a safeguarding issue occur.

    In my area the CPNs are based in the higher tier service but they refer to lower tier help like cbt for anxiety or the let's talk service. They can also refer into high tier help. I've been referred to all tiers..think of them as the gateway
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    The NHS referral service requires particular diagnosis or various steps to be completed before you access higher help too. It's their signposting tree and there's at least 14 levels which you can enter at or work up. It's rarely a quick process so don't lose heart if you have to do the lower tier stuff to qualify for the higher tier. Sometimes it takes a while to diagnose or for you to display stuff too. I was extremely high functioning for a long time and it hindered my own access to help. Took years for me to show some of what I was experiencing. But I needed a strong shield to hide the continuing abuse and stuff. So patience can be a necessary virtue. Also don't be afraid to ask for what you want. Ive turned down stuff because it wasn't suitable
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Even if you have been referred to the complex care team, what's the problem? They might be able to help you, who cares what they're called.
    Becauae i genuinly dont think things are that bad, and now feel bad for taking up an appointment that someone who does need it should have :dontknow:

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    :hugs: Dont feel like you don't deserve it. They wouldn't have given you the appointment if they didn't think you needed it. Sometimes they hold different places too.

    Already have been given it. It doesn't do anything for me anymore. :sigh:

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    No all the teams have different buildings and different areas of the city.
    Its just so confusing i dunno kinda regret being SO honest

    Ask for some naproxen its amazing :drool: and is used for rhumo pain too :yep:

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    So on Wednesday i was honest with the dr and she said shed refer md for a MH assessment thing.
    Thought this would take ages, got home from work tonight to a letter saying to phone for an appointment.

    Googled the address and theres only 2 teams that work from that address, complex care team and crisis team
    This is blowing up so big

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    Firstly, well done on being so honest!

    Secondly, as others have said, does it really matter what team? Help is help :hugs:
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    ughhh just wanna blow stuff up.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
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    I left uni in February my first time round but I felt so helpless, lazy, and useless at home that I applied to go to another uni in September of that same year (which was a huge mistake I wasn't in a good place mentally). After getting a 2:2 I rushed into a master's then ended up getting a year extension on my dissertation. After writing it I did nothing for 2 years then when my spouse got a job in a college town I decided to try another degree, but one that led to a good job. Now I'm failing at that but I'm almost 30, I can't exactly take much more time out. :sad:

    When I was a kid I wanted to be in the army. Teenage me wanted to be a police officer. Both completely impossible now :cry2: I thought this degree will lead to a job where I'm helping people, enjoying it, and getting paid well but everything is ****ed up again. I don't know what to do.



    So glad to hear about your brother. It must be a huge weight off your shoulders. I wouldn't worry too much about not seeing the university you want to go to. I only bothered to look at Cambridge (got pooled) but the university I went to was awesome in it's own way, I'm sure as long as you're not doing something like applying for St. Andrews and expecting the nightlife of London you should be fine.
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    I don't really know what to suggest, I'm sorry. I think I'm headed for a similar position I really do hope it works out, and this guy is able to help you figure some stuff out. You are incredibly determined though, and that's an admirable trait. I'm not sure I could've carried on that long, and that speaks volumes

    Yeah, it is. I've been to the city before and know what to expect in that respect, so I'm pretty happy with my choice. I'm glad I didn't go yesterday, I went shopping quickly but only managed to stay awake for about 6 hours before I was back in bed by 7pm :laugh:

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    So glad he's safe now. Take time for your self, definitely x
    Thank you :hugs: Hope everything is working out okay for you at the moment :hugs:
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    So still inpatient, with escorted leaved only and still no clozapine urghhh. Not allowed to uni this week either. Fingers crossed for clozapine tomorrow though!
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    I hate that lingering feeling of spaceyness and jumpiness you get after a panic attack. Its sometimes bloody worse than the panic itself :cry2:
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    i hate anxiety.
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    I live 4,000 miles away unfortunately :cry:
    You can still do it! Up to you and obviously it makes it a bit more expensive but anyone is welcome and there's plenty of us still be happy sending stuff to you let me know anyway!
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    Can I ask someone their opinion on if they think this is emotional abuse...

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    So I live with a girl and a guy, he used to be my best friend before they hooked up. Now she's really demanding from me, guilts me into doing everything for her, makes out like my problems aren't important and that She has bigger issues I should be dealing with. she also makes constant annoying jokes about my weight and appearance, my boyfriends and friends and hobbies and when I get annoyed she just acts even more like an ****. Sometimes she's started some pretty huge arguments and if i get annoyed or pissed off or her bf takes my side because she's started some **** she'll start crying or run into the bathroom and make out like we don't love her and that we've hurt her even though most the times she's started the fight by being a ***** to one of us. If i try and confront her she denies it all and again makes out like I'm the bad guy. i constantly feel worthless and unwanted as she's started to get her bf to act similarly to her by constantly making jokes and pushing my buttons knowing that they'll get their own way anyway. I'm always apologising for nothing and doing everything they ask. I've been working upstairs and she's calls me down regularly to make her food or get her things because "she's more important than my work". I've kind of had enough but I cant talk to them without her getting upsetting and treating me like the bad guy and I can't afford to move out right now.
    Sorry as well that this is anon but she has an account and my unsusername is my name so if she ever saw it she'd know it was me
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    Yes. Id consider that emotional abuse and falls under the definition of bullying
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    ou can always check a definition online the CPS and legislation government site show legal side but nspcc, shelter, living without abuse - they all provide more friendly descriptions of what these terms mean and what falls under illegal. Emotional abuse tends to be present in all other forms of abuse but can be a standalone act of abuse.

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    Emotional, psychological and mental abuse

    Emotional, psychological and mental abuse are often closely linked terms that can be used interchangeably. The aim of the perpetrator of emotional abuse in relationships is to reduce confidence and esteem in order to make their victim increasingly reliant on them. They use tactics such as intimidation, bullying, constant criticism and keeping someone isolated from family and friends in order to exert control. Emotional abuse in relationships is often a means of controlling the victim by having a strong mental hold over them.
    Emotional abuse in relationships can include (but is not limited to):
    • Constant put downs which make their victim feel stupid, worthless and useless
    • Making them feel that they are a bad/incapable parent
    • Making them feel ugly or fat
    • Telling them they are mad or ill
    • Isolating them from family and friends
    • Not allowing them out alone, constant checking up or following them
    • Playing on their fears or phobias
    • Ignoring or using silence against the victim
    • Making false allegations about them or endlessly making accusations

    Many survivors of emotional abuse in relationships state that the impact of the abuse is worse than any physical violence they experienced, however it was much more difficult to prove, to obtain protection, or even to get others to take them seriously."
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    Good things that happened on the ward today:

    - starting clozapine tonight yay
    - saw the doctor who said I can go out by myself (but then retracted after speaking to CCO, more escorted then by myself hopefully soon)
    - no longer threatened with section
    - got my chargers back so can now stay on laptop all day if I want to!

    Speaking to uni MH advisor tomorrow about extensions as will be here for another 2-3 weeks.
 
 
 
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