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    From wise words to ‘wise’ paragraphs ahaahaha

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    Try to manage your expectations.

    Sometimes you look at your life and say ‘I never thought I would only be here when he/she has gone so far ’ or ‘Look at me. I’m such a looser. Here I am still single whilst so and so is with the love of their life:mad:’ or even ‘I feel so low and feel so ****. I’ve just lived here, in the same place, all this time when s/he has travelled all around the world:sigh: ’ etc etc

    Okay so we’ve all heard the :albertein:yeah but just because things haven’t gone to plan or you haven’t fulfilled your expectations doesn’t mean it will never ever happen‘ which is completely true: it might happen. Then again it might not and supposing it doesn’t what are you going to do then?

    What is important is how we manage ourselves if we tried so hard but still our expectations aren’t fulfilled. Are we going to fall down crying about how things haven’t turned out as we planned or are we going to look at where we are (it might not necessarily be exactly where we want to be) and try to decide how we can deal with it and change our disappointment into strength to try and get to where we want to be.

    For example, lets say one gets into a relationship and they have super high expectations e.g. this person is always going to be there for me, I can rely on this person 100%, they will never leave me and we will be together until the day we die. If it didn’t work out you would be absolutely devastated (you wouldn‘t want to eat, speak, go out, socialise. You’d feel foolish, stupid, embarrassed, start questioning if something was wrong with you, begin feeling inadequate. It would start interfering with your everyday well-being and you would just be going down a path which would be difficult to recover from etc etc). This is because you expected so much from there and they completely destroyed all your expectations.

    Now I’m not saying to go in really pessimistic but if you go into the relationship hoping for everything to work out, expecting things to go relatively smoothly and understanding that you may have a future together but then again things may change. You still have high expectations but you weren’t just relying on them. You were capable of managing them and knew things may not go as you expect..but then again they could . Consequently although you would feel like crap after all that you would probably be able to recover at a quicker rate. Okay I’m not great at explaining but this anecdote helps a little:

    People will come into your life; some will stay and some will leave. For example, a bus driver drives a bus to a particular destination. People get on and stay for the whole journey right until the end. Some people get off and this makes space for another person to get on. Others intend to stay for the whole journey, and even pay for it lool, but then see someone e.g. maybe a friend from the past and so quickly stop the bus and get off. Other people stay for a while and maybe when it starts to get a little bumby decide they will walk and so get off after a short duration. However, whilst all this is going on the bus driver continues to driver to his destination, he doesn’t pack up the bus and start crying when one person gets off and stay stuck in the particular place lamenting over the fact that some people have got off. You’re the bus driver you’ve got dreams and stuff and want to go to a particular place. People will come into your life and some will go but you can‘t just stop living because one person gets off- they might be making room for another person or an experience you have might prepare you for someone/ something you meet later in your life so don’t regret stuff that happens and most importantly you need to do your best to try and recover rather than staying down.

    Basically just manage your expectations. Sometimes you hope for stuff and maybe pray for stuff but it doesn’t happen. It’s not always going to happen e.g. sometimes you see all these miracles in the bible and you pray so hard and you’re just like ‘I need a miracle’ but for whatever reason it doesn’t happen. You can’t just give up and say oh that’s it I’m not praying anymore or I’m going to stop doing this you just need to control your expectations and realise when you want something it might not always be the best time or like if your praying really badly for someone and their conditions just seems to be getting worse and worse don’t stop hoping just carry on and understand it might go one way or it might go the other way - we can’t always understand why things happen but we can’t just stop and give up, say we’re rubbish and cry and never stop. We just need to continue hoping and just do our best to try and deal with either eventuality, even if it is not what we wanted or what we expected.

    Basically that’s what I learnt at church yesterday. Whether you're religious or completely against religion I think there is some stuff in there that might help some people (I feel it helped me..) :cool:
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    I don't mind. Don't get bad grades whilst leading others to wisdom
    haa aww yeah so true
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    Quote for today: "The grass isn't always greener on the other side" - Unknown
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    Quote for tomorrow: WIth great power comes a great responsibility electricity bill

    -Stan Lee
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    (Original post by randomd_love)
    I don't mind. Don't get bad grades whilst leading others to wisdom
    tried to give you some personal rep- says I must spread some around which sucks!
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    Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.

    I couldn't be bothered to see if it's already been said, but it's highly likely I'll get it tattooed on me wen I get my Fawkes tattoo.


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    (Original post by LouiseOrd)
    Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.

    I couldn't be bothered to see if it's already been said, but it's highly likely I'll get it tattooed on me wen I get my Fawkes tattoo.


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    hmm I can't even remember so many quotes have been quotes :rofl: It's beautiful though and so true if one can just remembers that
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    Dobby has no master, Dobby is a free elf.


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    Pissing in your shoes will not keep your feet warm
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    "If you had a friend who spoke to you in the say way that you sometimes speak to yourself

    how long would you allow that person to be your friend?"
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    "Apologising doesn't always mean that you're wrong and the other person is right. It means you value your relationship more than your ego"
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    There’s always a little truth behind every
    “just kidding”
    A little knowledge behind every
    “I don’t know”,
    A little emotion behind every
    “I don’t care”
    And a little pain behind every
    “It’s okay”
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    one for tomorrow

    “Art should comfort the disturbed, and disturb the comfortable”


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    Today is the first day of the rest of your life.


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    The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, and wiser people so full of doubts.
 
 
 
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