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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    No need to apologise! I'm the one who needs to apologise actually - had a breakdown and was out of action for quite a while.

    I've PMed a draft of an OP to some of the mods, just waiting to hear back from them about any additions/amendments. Then hopefully can post and get the ball rolling.

    Sorry this is taking so long, it's difficult what with the unpredictable nature of my mental health
    Hey. I've received your PM and I have read it. The only member of the PSV who is free to do things for around another week and I've been trying to catch up on some of the replies. I'll give it my proper attention tomorrow and get back to you?
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    (Original post by markreed)
    Hey, no problem

    Wow, how can your psychiatrist deny the potential fact that it may the new meds that might be causing weight gain if it even says so on the health and safety information leaflet? Next time you go see them, I'd definitely bring in the leaflet and point that fact out to them. Maybe they can get you onto something different in that case.
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    1500 is definitely not starvation levels. I think 2000 calories is around the average recommended daily intake for a male, so a deficit of 500 calories sounds pretty good to me. Do you drink a lot of water? I always found that drinking 2 litres of water helped a lot with weight loss.


    If your psychiatrist refuses to prescribe you different meds could you not possibly get your GP to refer you to a different psychiatrist?
    I actually live in the US so I can just call a different psychiatrist myself if I want to change. I'm really considering it after my last appointment and the "snacking hypothesis". Found another one in my town but will give this one one more chance because I hate having to see new people. But yeah, I googled the drug and weight gain and I had an immense number of hits so I know it's not just me.

    I have a pint glass on my desk and sip it regularly and refill it with water quite a few times during the day. I also rather like green tea (no sugar) so drink a fair bit of that along with the water - this has helped me avoid snacking as I just drink tea instead to fill my stomach. Happy to hear I'm not hugely overeating.

    Thank you for the advice. I don't recall seeing you around here recently, how are you?



    And btw, I just spoilered the calorie counts in your post - someone pointed out the other day that things like that can be triggering for people with EDs. Just telling you incase you weren't aware; we try to make MHSS a safe place.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
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    That's interesting that your doctors told you that :beard: I've heard it's more a guideline and shouldn't be taken too seriously, but when you see that big red arrow pointing at "obese" it's difficult to not feel bad about it

    I think you're right - from what I know about sizing 12/14 isn't that big. I bought new jeans 3 months ago in a 32" waist and now my 36" shorts no longer fit. I'm only 5'9 so I can't even blame my high clothing sizes on my height

    But yeah, I've cut out a lot of things I really enjoy from my diet. And due to recently-diagnosed GERD I can't drink alcohol, eat pizza or drink milk/soda - but yet the weight keeps piling on. :cry2:

    And that did help, thank you :hugs: I feel less bad being so close to obese hearing your doctors have told you it's a crap measure.
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    I used to be around a 16 and I got bullied about my weight quite badly, I still do get the odd comments. That's what they said to me, it's more of a guideline, and especially as I'm only around 5"2 ish it doesn't really take it into account.

    36" waist isn't that bad from what I've seen. Try not to focus on numbers if you can help it, if you reach a size that you're happy with who cares what a number on a label says?

    Best things to eat if you want to loose weight I've found is smoothies, salads and also fruit and veg.

    You're welcome :hugs: this is the same doctor who told me that my insomnia can't be helped with and its just something in my head. :hide: and she also pushed off me attempting to explain my anxiety to her. However I can't see another doctor in the practice as she's the only one who I'm really comfortable with and she knows my history / knows that I'm affected by "white coat syndrome" (as she calls it) so when she does my blood pressure knows how to get the best reading from me lol.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I actually live in the US so I can just call a different psychiatrist myself if I want to change. I'm really considering it after my last appointment and the "snacking hypothesis". Found another one in my town but will give this one one more chance because I hate having to see new people. But yeah, I googled the drug and weight gain and I had an immense number of hits so I know it's not just me.

    I have a pint glass on my desk and sip it regularly and refill it with water quite a few times during the day. I also rather like green tea (no sugar) so drink a fair bit of that along with the water - this has helped me avoid snacking as I just drink tea instead to fill my stomach. Happy to hear I'm not hugely overeating.

    Thank you for the advice. I don't recall seeing you around here recently, how are you?



    And btw, I just spoilered the calorie counts in your post - someone pointed out the other day that things like that can be triggering for people with EDs. Just telling you incase you weren't aware; we try to make MHSS a safe place.
    Oh sorry I didn't know about that! I'll be more careful about posting calorie intakes and such in the future!

    I'm doing okay. Currently on a gap year but not really doing anything at the minute so a bit bored. Didn't really used to be a prolific poster on TSR so that might be why you haven't seen me around haha.
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    (Original post by Midnightmemories)
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    I used to be around a 16 and I got bullied about my weight quite badly, I still do get the odd comments. That's what they said to me, it's more of a guideline, and especially as I'm only around 5"2 ish it doesn't really take it into account.

    36" waist isn't that bad from what I've seen. Try not to focus on numbers if you can help it, if you reach a size that you're happy with who cares what a number on a label says?

    Best things to eat if you want to loose weight I've found is smoothies, salads and also fruit and veg.

    You're welcome :hugs: this is the same doctor who told me that my insomnia can't be helped with and its just something in my head. :hide: and she also pushed off me attempting to explain my anxiety to her. However I can't see another doctor in the practice as she's the only one who I'm really comfortable with and she knows my history / knows that I'm affected by "white coat syndrome" (as she calls it) so when she does my blood pressure knows how to get the best reading from me lol.
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    It makes me so angry to hear about people being bullied about their weight. No one has any right to make a judgement about someone else's weight. Especially when their argument consists of "fat people eat too much hur hur they cost the NHS money so they are satan-spawn".

    I think I actually read that BMI is inaccurate at height extremes so you might be onto something there. :beard:

    Yeah, I never much cared about numbers when I was a teenager, although I used to help my dad with manual labor a lot so had a very muscular physique even though I never stepped foot in a gym then. But now the worst thing is my wife, sure I feel crappy about how I look and stuff but the worst thing is that my wife has to put up with this. She keeps telling me she loves me the way I am, but I feel so disgusting that I think she's lying. No one could find me attractive.

    Er....yeah that doctor sounds a bit strange but I suppose that if you're most comfortable with her it's probably best to. I suppose she won't prescribe you anything to help you sleep? I saw your post about needing an early night, I take it you haven't managed? Might I recommend online jigsaws as a way of winding down and hopefully boring yourself to sleep!
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    (Original post by markreed)
    Oh sorry I didn't know about that! I'll be more careful about posting calorie intakes and such in the future!

    I'm doing okay. Currently on a gap year but not really doing anything at the minute so a bit bored. Didn't really used to be a prolific poster on TSR so that might be why you haven't seen me around haha.
    No worries. I wasn't aware it could be triggering until someone told me.

    I'm glad to hear you're doing ok. Have you thought about learning a language/instrument/something else during your gap year if you're bored? I bought a pretty cheap guitar and a book on how to play, along with online resources and it really kept me busy when I spent 2 years doing **** all. Local libraries sometimes have resources like Rosetta Stone for language learning so it doesn't even need to be expensive. I dunno, just an idea :dontknow:
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    (Original post by Deyesy)
    Hey. I've received your PM and I have read it. The only member of the PSV who is free to do things for around another week and I've been trying to catch up on some of the replies. I'll give it my proper attention tomorrow and get back to you?
    No worries at all

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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    No worries. I wasn't aware it could be triggering until someone told me.

    I'm glad to hear you're doing ok. Have you thought about learning a language/instrument/something else during your gap year if you're bored? I bought a pretty cheap guitar and a book on how to play, along with online resources and it really kept me busy when I spent 2 years doing **** all. Local libraries sometimes have resources like Rosetta Stone for language learning so it doesn't even need to be expensive. I dunno, just an idea :dontknow:
    I've been thinking about learning Swedish (I'm pretty committed to eventually doing my masters in Sweden). I would love to play an instrument, but I feel like I don't have a musical bone in my body haha. These are decent suggestions and I do have like 3 and a bit months before uni starts.
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    Kind of struggling, have mentoring tomorrow, well technically today. Don't really want to go as I always feel like I'm wasting her time/making her pissed off with me. So drained. ED thoughts are really bad lately, so are the voices. Finding it hard to deal with everything. Should probably see my GP soon too. She probably won't do anything as per usual because all she sees is the fact I'm still able to do my degree. :sigh:
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    So my mum and step dad come down friday evening :woo:
    But in that time i have an entire flat to pack up and tidy still
    Really rubbish at packing.

    Feeling so numb to life rn like, i dont care whats gonna happen to me, i just want to sleep forever

    Last week at work this week and im so sad about it, but on the other hand so relieved because iv had enough crap at work the past few weeks.

    Though i was working friday evening and was given a bunch of flowers and a card from a you g person appologising for his truly awful behaviour the other week. So that was kinda nice i guess.


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    I hate how nervous I get before making a phone call to anyone other than my family or friends. Been tossing and turning all night over it and then when I did sleep, I even dreamt about it all that worry over an one minute phone call:erm:

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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    I hate how nervous I get before making a phone call to anyone other than my family or friends. Been tossing and turning all night over it and then when I did sleep, I even dreamt about it all that worry over an one minute phone call:erm:

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    What phone call do you have to make?
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    Had to call up the council to get another bin emptying schedule sent out since I lost the first one they sent. All done now thankfully
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    What phone call do you have to make?
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    I really like reading these posts because it makes me feel like I'm not alone. Everyone out there seems so honest about their problems. I don't think I could be so open and honest about my problems. I really think the British are more open and honest about their problems than us Americans. It seems like Americans spend their entire lives running away from and denying their problems and issues. LOL I have to go take a drug test in about 60 minutes and even though I know I'm going to pass I still feel extremely nervous about it. It's strange to know that there aren't any abuse of drugs in my system but I'm still nervous. I'm sick and I have to go to the doctors all of the time. I actually spend a lot of time thinking about what I'm going to say and how I'm going to say it. I'm so afraid of being judged by them. I'm scared they're going to write things down about me in my file. All of you are much stronger than you think you are because I don't think us Americans could be sitting around and having these kinds of discussions about mental health issues with strangers on TSR. People should never be afraid to ask for help.
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    Attempted college today. It didn't go well. Luckily she let me come home early. :hide:
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    You know my main contamination fears are drugs, toxins and chemicals. I do have a slight contamination fear of germs bit compared to the rest, it's very minor but it does flare up every so often whereas the rest are constant.

    Me and Callan were leaving the flat and he loves bugs and all things creepy crawlies and he saw a dead wasp and he picked it up to have a look at it and I saw it and instantly the typical thoughts of "omg Callan's touching a wasp and it could be covered in its venom and then he could touch me and then it goes on me. I don't know if I'm allergic. What if I die?! What if I get ill?! What could I do to get rid of it if he does touch me?!" and it went around in circles and when we got out of the block he took my hand like he always does and boom, I broke down. I took a full blown panic attack and told him he had contaminated me and at first he couldn't understand where I was coming from because it was dead but he later realised that what can trigger OCD isn't always obvious to someone who doesn't suffer from it.

    I haven't washed my hand where he touched but I feel like its burning and my anxiety is going through the roof and I can't stop shaking and welling up. I know its just OCD and I will be fine but its horrible. I feel like my entire day out has been ruined now and I'll constantly be on guard and wary of him touching me until he washes his hands or something.

    OCD is an absolute nightmare and I'm aware how silly it all sounds and that only makes it worse because I can't switch it off. One day I'll have control of OCD, but it's not this day
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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    You know my main contamination fears are drugs, toxins and chemicals. I do have a slight contamination fear of germs bit compared to the rest, it's very minor but it does flare up every so often whereas the rest are constant.

    Me and Callan were leaving the flat and he loves bugs and all things creepy crawlies and he saw a dead wasp and he picked it up to have a look at it and I saw it and instantly the typical thoughts of "omg Callan's touching a wasp and it could be covered in its venom and then he could touch me and then it goes on me. I don't know if I'm allergic. What if I die?! What if I get ill?! What could I do to get rid of it if he does touch me?!" and it went around in circles and when we got out of the block he took my hand like he always does and boom, I broke down. I took a full blown panic attack and told him he had contaminated me and at first he couldn't understand where I was coming from because it was dead but he later realised that what can trigger OCD isn't always obvious to someone who doesn't suffer from it.

    I haven't washed my hand where he touched but I feel like its burning and my anxiety is going through the roof and I can't stop shaking and welling up. I know its just OCD and I will be fine but its horrible. I feel like my entire day out has been ruined now and I'll constantly be on guard and wary of him touching me until he washes his hands or something.

    OCD is an absolute nightmare and I'm aware how silly it all sounds and that only makes it worse because I can't switch it off. One day I'll have control of OCD, but it's not this day
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    Glad you manage to make the call.

    I completely understand how you feel and have similar issues. If you get a good cbt therapist they will help you with these things otherwise I'm sure there are some decent books or guided stuff online for it but I don't think it really matches having a good therapist support you through it all. Make sure you write stuff down you've struggled with over the week so you can discuss these things with your therapist at the next session. Hopefully they're on the same form they were the last session you had with them.
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    anyone had experiences with venlafaxine/effexor?

    Been on 225mg since september 2015. First four months I adored it, and then it seemed to just stop being effective. I've been carrying on with it anyway because of intense time in university and not feeling up to discussing with doctor and talking about changing / dealing with adjustment.

    I've just moved back from the US to the UK and had an awful time travelling and a lot of bad luck with flights n timing and stuff and then when I got home I slept for just over 21 hours straight and so basically I've missed four days.

    I'm having the worst withdrawal of my life and IDK if i should just head in to see my doctor at home and try expalin everything and try something new or start taking venlafaxine again? anyone got any suggestions?
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    I'm in the psychiatric ward right now but I just want to go home

    I'm allowed to self discharge but I don't know how I'll get home. It's miles outside London
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    (Original post by usycool1)
    I'm in the psychiatric ward right now but I just want to go home

    I'm allowed to self discharge but I don't know how I'll get home. It's miles outside London
    Hey man,

    I just wanted to send you a :hugs: and I wish you all the best with whatever you're going through. If you ever need to talk to someone about anything, you know where to find me!

    Ethan
 
 
 
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