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    (Original post by TheNoobishKnight)
    Am not.
    It was just a dose of daily naseeha, you should maybe just take the message and try to be a little more considerate of your akhis and female akhis in humanity .
    I'm being very considerate here. I was given the same advice from my other akhis and female ukthis in humanity Thanks
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    (Original post by Mary562)
    I'm being very considerate here. I was given the same advice from my other akhis and female akhis in humanity Thanks
    I guess our views conflict, but that's fine .

    Okay, well if you want to actual use the advice, that's your choice as long as the message has been delivered to you.
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    QQ: What are the four characteristics of Abu Bakr that Allah Almighty had singled out to him that no one else had?
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    Allah loves gentleness in all things
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    In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
    One of the most beloved qualities of good character to Allah is kindness and gentleness. Allah has reserved a special reward for those who are kind and gentle.
    Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
    يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ وَيُعْطِي عَلَى الرِّفْقِ مَا لَا يُعْطِي عَلَى الْعُنْفِ وَمَا لَا يُعْطِي عَلَى مَا سِوَاهُ
    O Aisha, Allah is gentle and He loves gentleness. He rewards for gentleness what is not granted for harshness and He does not reward anything else like it.
    Source: Sahih Muslim 2593, Grade: Sahih

    Kindness and gentleness are traits that are inherently good, and whoever has them has been given his portion of goodness.
    Jareer reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
    مَنْ يُحْرَمْ الرِّفْقَ يُحْرَمْ الْخَيْرَ
    He who is deprived of kindness is deprived of goodness.
    Source: Sahih Muslim 2592, Grade: Sahih

    Abu Ad-Darda reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
    مَنْ أُعْطِيَ حَظَّهُ مِنْ الرِّفْقِ فَقَدْ أُعْطِيَ حَظَّهُ مِنْ الْخَيْرِ وَمَنْ حُرِمَ حَظَّهُ مِنْ الرِّفْقِ فَقَدْ حُرِمَ حَظَّهُ مِنْ الْخَيْرِ
    Whoever is given his portion of kindness has been given his portion of goodness, and whoever is deprived of his portion of kindness has been deprived of his portion of goodness.
    Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2013, Grade: Sahih

    Allah loves kindness and gentleness in all matters, so we should manifest these qualities even when we face abuse and cruelty. On one occasion, the Prophet was insulted and cursed by his enemies but he did not return their curse. Rather, he showed patience and forbearance and encouraged his companions to be kind.
    Aisha reported: A group of Jews asked permission to visit the Prophet and when they were admitted they said, “Death be upon you.” I said to them, “Rather death and the curse of Allah be upon you!” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
    يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ فِي الْأَمْرِ كُلِّهِ
    O Aisha, Allah is kind and He loves kindness in all matters.
    Source: Sahih Bukhari 6528, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

    Indeed, Allah sent Moses and Aaron, peace be upon them, to Pharaoh and He commanded them to speak mildly to him and to begin their invitation to Islam with gentleness.
    Allah said:
    فَقُولَا لَهُ قَوْلًا لَّيِّنًا لَّعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَىٰ
    Speak to him mildly that perhaps he may remember or fear Allah.
    Surah Ta Ha 20:44

    If this is how Allah commanded the prophets to speak to the greatest of oppressors, then how much more deserving of kindness are those lesser than him?
    Al-Baghawi reported:
    وقرأ رجل عند يحيـى بن معاذ هذه الآية فَقُولاَ لَهُ قَوْلاً لَّيِّناً فبكى يحيى وقال إلهي هذا رفقك بمن يقول أنا الإِله فكيف رفقك بمن يقول أنت الإِله
    A man recited this verse in front of Yahya ibn Mu’adh and he began to weep. Yahya said: My God, this is Your gentleness with one who claims to be God, then how is Your gentleness with one who says You are God?
    Source: Tafseer Al-Baghawi 20:44

    Likewise, Prophet Muhammad was commanded to begin inviting the unbelievers of Mecca to Islam with gentleness, even though they were plotting against him and the Muslims.
    Allah said:
    إِنَّهُمْ يَكِيدُونَ كَيْدًا وَأَكِيدُ كَيْدًا فَمَهِّلِ الْكَافِرِينَ أَمْهِلْهُمْ رُوَيْدًا
    Verily, they are planning a plan and I am planning a plan. So give respite to the unbelievers, deal gently with them for a while.
    Surah At-Tariq 86:15-17

    For this reason, the Prophet was patient and forbearing with their abuse for more than twenty years. Only after the persecution became so intense was he allowed to fight back in self-defense. Even so, the Prophet was given clear instructions to accept their repentance or at least accept their offer of peace.
    Allah said:
    فَإِن تَابُوا وَأَقَامُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَآتَوُا الزَّكَاةَ فَخَلُّوا سَبِيلَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ وَإِنْ أَحَدٌ مِّنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ اسْتَجَارَكَ فَأَجِرْهُ حَتَّىٰ يَسْمَعَ كَلَامَ اللَّهِ ثُمَّ أَبْلِغْهُ مَأْمَنَهُ ذَٰلِكَ بِأَنَّهُمْ قَوْمٌ لَّا يَعْلَمُونَ
    If they repent, establish prayer, and give charity, let them go their way. Verily, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. If any one of the idolaters seeks your protection, then grant him protection so that he may hear the words of Allah. Then deliver him to his place of safety. That is because they are a people who do not know.
    Surah At-Tawba 9:5-6

    Thus, the door of mercy and gentleness is never closed, as even the worst of criminals are given the opportunity to repent and make amends.
    Furthermore, kindness and gentleness should be shown to the animals and indeed all of creation.
    Aisha reported: I was upon a camel which was misbehaving so I began to beat it. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
    عَلَيْكِ بِالرِّفْقِ فَإِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَا يَكُونُ فِي شَيْءٍ إِلَّا زَانَهُ وَلَا يُنْزَعُ مِنْ شَيْءٍ إِلَّا شَانَهُ
    You must be gentle. Verily, gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything except that it disgraces it.
    Source: Musnad Ahmad 24417, Grade: Sahih

    Small acts of kindness, although it might be trivial in the eyes of people, are an important means for us to be saved from Hellfire and admitted into Paradise.
    Ibn Mas’ud reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
    أَلَا أُخْبِرُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَحْرُمُ عَلَى النَّارِ أَوْ بِمَنْ تَحْرُمُ عَلَيْهِ النَّارُ عَلَى كُلِّ قَرِيبٍ هَيِّنٍ سَهْلٍ
    Shall I not tell you for whom the Hellfire is forbidden? It is every person accessible, polite, and mild.
    Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2488, Grade: Hasan

    Therefore, we should train ourselves and our children to be kind and gentle in all matters, among the Muslims, among unbelievers, and even with the animals. We should resist the temptation to indulge in cruelty and savagery. Times will come when must apply justice to criminals, but we have to remember that the opportunity for repentance will remain and even a great tyrant like Pharaoh should be given his portion of kindness.
    We ask Allah to beautify our manners with kindness and to protect us from falling into harshness.
    Success comes from Allah, and Allah knows best.
    - See more at: http://www.faithinallah.org/allah-lo....bcPGyNsX.dpuf
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    If anyone does reply to the question I'll check it tomorrow insha'Allah
    Need some sleep now

    Asalaamu Alaykum
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    Allah sent Moses and Aaron, peace be upon them, to Pharaoh and He commanded them to speak mildly to him and to begin their invitation to Islam with gentleness.

    Allah said:

    فَقُولَا لَهُ قَوْلًا لَّيِّنًا لَّعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَىٰ
    Speak to him mildly that perhaps he may remember or fear Allah.
    Surah Ta Ha 20:44

    If this is how Allah commanded the prophets to speak to the greatest of oppressors, then how much more deserving of kindness are those lesser than him?

    Al-Baghawi reported:

    وقرأ رجل عند يحيـى بن معاذ هذه الآية فَقُولاَ لَهُ قَوْلاً لَّيِّناً فبكى يحيى وقال إلهي هذا رفقك بمن يقول أنا الإِله فكيف رفقك بمن يقول أنت الإِله
    A man recited this verse in front of Yahya ibn Mu’adh and he began to weep. Yahya said: My God, this is Your gentleness with one who claims to be God, then how is Your gentleness with one who says You are God?

    Source: Tafseer Al-Baghawi 20:44
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    Wassup my female akhis
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    (Original post by Mary562)
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    QQ: What are the four characteristics of Abu Bakr that Allah Almighty had singled out to him that no one else had?
    Truthfulness
    loyalty?
    Are these correct?!
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    Someone hacked Tpos's account.

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    Wassup my female akhis
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    (Original post by Ibn Fulaan)
    Someone hacked Tpos's account.
    How can you be sure?
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    (Original post by Tennumbers)
    SubhanAllah thats beautiful. Downloaded it onto my phone
    I know, the lyrics are so beautiful and meaningful subhanAllah :heart:

    (Original post by HAnwar)
    Anyone going to the #WhoIsMuhammad event at Westminster university tomorrow?

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    I wish I could shaykh Haitham is too awesome. But I have commitments. If you do go then make sure to tell us how it went ok
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    (Original post by Dima-Blackburn)
    How can you be sure?
    It's not like her to post something like that lol. I can't ask her on whatsapp either as she hasn't been online in several hours.
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    (Original post by themorninglight)
    It's not like her to post something like that lol. I can't ask her on whatsapp either as she hasn't been online in several hours.
    Hmm...true. It is an unusual post for someone like her.
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    (Original post by themorninglight)
    I know, the lyrics are so beautiful and meaningful subhanAllah :heart:


    I wish I could shaykh Haitham is too awesome. But I have commitments. If you do go then make sure to tell us how it went ok
    Yeah sure
    I know he's jokes. Unfortunately some fools have tried to stop him attending by signing a petition.
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    Female akhis :rofl:
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    (Original post by Ibn Fulaan)
    Someone hacked Tpos's account.
    Lol I was taking the mick
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    (Original post by Mary562)
    I don't understand one thing can someone explain ...

    Well, I shouldn't bring this topic up but today I was shocked to hear what a friend had to say about one of her relatives marrying a shia etc Her parents weren't happy with it...

    What is the main difference between Shia and Sunni Muslims - I don't understand and why is it we distinguish from them. We both are Muslims. I understand the whipping part but why that as well?

    Sorry too many questions.
    Peace be with you sister,

    Since you have had many response, not from i believe from an actual shia muslim dictating what they perceive to be our beliefs (similar to what we see on TSR, where people who aren't muslim distort what muslims actually do and believe) let me give you brief points as well as clearing misconceptions. I don't think it's my place on this thread to argue that X are wrong, i am right , all i am going to do is give you a shia position without attacking anyone directly, so you are inshAllah better informed I am glad rather than believing rumours, you decided to ask for yourself which is more than a lot of people do to be fair.

    Firstly, here are the main beliefs of Shia Muslims:

    1. TAWHEED That Allah swt has no confine, can never be literally physically witnessed, can not move / ascend or descend, and is not confined to any one location, nor is he literally everywhere. He was there before a 'where' so can not be described by means of location, he is the giver of forms, and is Allah swt and can not be limited to a confine, or a body. He does not ascend nor does he descend, he is not subject to the limitations of movement, he is free of all need and no laws or regulations are imposed on him.

    2. Muhammed pbuh is the last and final messenger of Allah swt. Every Prophet of God is free of sinning in the Dunyah.They are granted this by Allah swt so that they see sin as it really is. For instance, would you jump outside your window and kill the old lady walking by? In a similar way, Allah swt has blessed those he has chosen - and he knows best where to put his prophethood- and given them that insight so that they see all sin as it really is. Prophets of God can still choose the lesser of the two goods, or a path less preferable, but do not commit sins. They are the guides of humanity, people must follow them unconditionally in every sense and way. Muslims all believe in Imam Mahdi a.s, someone Allah swt will choose to restore justice to the earth and obedience to Imam Mahdi a.s is wajib. Shias believe Allah swt had chosen twelve Imams , who were the liniege of the Prophet PBUH i.e Ali a.s , Hasan a.s , Hussein a.s and so on, whom even sunni brothers and ulema regard as righteous and or great scholars , to preserve his Sunnah. As we believe Allah swt has chosen them to preserve the Sunnah of Muhammed pbuh, and be an absolute authority to all , he has given them the mercy of seeing sin as it is, and hence have the ability to sin, but not commit it. We can see historically, after his death and fastforward time, you get so many splinter groups each holding fast to their own Islam. Imam Bukhari cites there were many, many, fabricated or false hadith floating around, there was confusion. Where do we go to hold onto the true Sunnah? Shia's attest the ahlulbayt a.s There are a lot of proofs for this, but one we use is the following ahadith:

    Someday (after his last pilgrimage) the Messenger of Allah (S) stood to give us a speech beside a pond which is known as Khum (Ghadir Khum) which is located between Mecca and Medina. Then he praised Allah and reminded Him, and then said: "O’ people! Behold! It seems the time approached when I shall be called away (by Allah) and I shall answer that call. Behold! I am leaving for you two precious things. First of them is the book of Allah in which there is light and guidance...The other one is my Ahlul-Bayt. I remind you in the name of Allah about my Ahlul-Bayt. I remind you in the name of Allah about my Ahlul-Bayt. I remind you in the name of Allah about my Ahlul-Bayt. (three times)."
    • Sahih Muslim, Chapter of the virtues of the companions, section of the virtues of ‘Ali, 1980 Edition Pub. in Saudi Arabia, Arabic version, v 4, p1873, Tradition #36.


    3. The vast majority of shias do not cut themselves. Many shia Ulema directly and indirectly forbid such an action. I.E anything that can cause self harm or ridicule in the Ummah. I have never done it, and from my view, the majority of shias do not. It is only a minority who follow misguided culture. And as we know in our Ummah, shia or sunni, culture sometimes takes precedence.

    Grand Ayatullah Khamenei


    Ayatullah Khamenei, in his position as the Hakim Al-Shari’i has given a Hukm forbidding blood flagellation. A hukm is binding on all Muslims, unlike a fatwa.


    Question 1450:
    Is hitting oneself with swords halal if it is done in secret? Or is your fatwa in this regard universal?

    Answer:
    In addition to the fact that it is not held in the common view as manifestations of mourning and grief and it has no precedent at the lifetime of the Imams (a.s.) and even after that and we have not received any tradition quoted from the Infallibles (a.s.) about any support for this act, be it privately or publicly, this practice would, at the present time, give others a bad image of our school of thought. Therefore, there is no way that it can be considered permissible.


    Question 1449:
    In commemorating the martyrdom of Imam Husayn (a.s.) on the tenth of Muharram, some people hit themselves with a machete, or walk bare-footed on fire. Such actions defame Shi‘ism and put it in a bad light, if not undermine it. They cause bodily and spiritual harms on these doing it as well. What is your opinion in this matter?

    Answer:
    Any practice that causes bodily harm, or leads to defaming the faith, is haram. Accordingly, the believers have to steer clear of it. There is no doubt that many of these practices besmirch the image of Ahlul Bayt’s (a.s.) School of Thought which is the worst damage and loss.

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    (Original post by Mary562)
    I don't understand one thing can someone explain ...

    Well, I shouldn't bring this topic up but today I was shocked to hear what a friend had to say about one of her relatives marrying a shia etc Her parents weren't happy with it...

    What is the main difference between Shia and Sunni Muslims - I don't understand and why is it we distinguish from them. We both are Muslims. I understand the whipping part but why that as well?

    Sorry too many questions.
    The shia view of the companions:

    The shia view of the Companions is that of the Quran, no more no less. We love those loyal to Muhammed pbuh, before and after his death. We do not love those who were not sincere or obstructed him and did not truly reform. We do this because to obtain the true sunnah, we need to take an academic - not emotional- look at who lived with him, their lives, what happened etc.

    Here's a very short list of ones i quickly had compiled earlier, i will add to it with time, there are many to add(including the matyr's of Badr etc)

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    Short list of Prominent companions excluding Ali a.s Hassan a.s Fatima a.s Hussein a.s Umm Salama r.a Khadija peace on her Umm Saudi r.a etc
    1. Malik Al Ashtar r.a
    2. Miqdad r.a
    3. Bilal r.a -first muazin, amazing individual, refused bayah to first Caliph
    4. Hamza r.a
    5. Abudhar r.a
    6. Ibn Abbas r.a
    7. Jabir r.a
    8. Salman al farsi r.a
    9. Abu Talib r.a
    10. Abdullah ibn Masu'd r.a
    11. Ammar bin Yassir r.a
    12. Sumayyah Bint Khayyat r.a - first female matyr of Islam
    13. Yasir Ibn Amir - father of Ammar Bin yassier, husband of Sumayyah, tortured to death also one of the first matyrs r.a
    14. Umm Ammarah r.a who gave for of her sons r.a to the cause of Allah swt, while herself going onto the battle field.
    15. Ubaydah r.a - one of the ones Muhammed pbuh summoned to fight in the initial stages of the battle of Badr.
    16. Zayd Bin Harith r.a
    17. Sa'd Rabi r.a
    18. Hujr bin Adi al-Adbar r.a
    19. Al-Harith ibn Abi Hala, r.a
    20. Obaidah ibn al-Harith ibn Abdul-Muttalib r.a
    21. Zayd Ibn Haritha r.a
    22. Muhammed Bin Abi Bakr - son of Abu Bakr - very very interesting.
    23. Malik bin Nuwayrah r.a
    24. Uthmān ibn Madh'ūn famous companion, Ali a.s named son after himi
    25. Umar ibn Muqrin r.a
    26. Hujr ibn 'Adi al-Kindi - sentanced to death by Muawiyah
    27. Kumayl ibn Ziyad
    28. Zayd ibn Suhan
    29th. Ṣa‘ṣa‘ah ibn Suhān
    30th. Habīb ibn Muzāhir al-Asadi- kerbala
    31. Qays ibn Sa'd



    You see, we shia's believe Muhammed pbuh, someone with such a large political, religious gap would not die without addressing the issue of leadership after him. He would either by the command of Allah swt or delegation choose, or he would facilitate the Ummah and guide them in this important issue. Even in America they take political stability so much so, that if Obama dies, Biden is already there to fill his shoes. Shias and non-muslim historians as well as sunni brothers and sisters all attest , after his death there was a power struggle occurring in Saqifah.

    For example, did you know Imam Ali a.s never gave Bayah for six months?

    We are all told the Sahaba r.a loved each other a lot, but would you really reject giving allegiance to someone you love , someone alleged hadiths say are the best of the Ummah for six whole months, and keep away from them? This is unanimously known as a fact.

    I don't want to go into too much detail, but while shias do love many of the loyal Sahaba r.a, we know the truth was not as rosy as is painted, and that there was dissension, disagreement, etc

    At the same time, we are not allowed to use mocking words against any , like he was an evil disgusting etc. That's forbidden.


    Ayatollah Khamenei issued a fatwa, declared unlawful the insulting Prophet's wife Aisha, and any of the Sunni Islamic symbols.

    Ayatollah Khamenei issued a fatwa, declared unlawful the insulting Prophet's wife Aisha, and any of the Sunni Islamic symbols.

    Islamic World widely welcomed the fatwa, Rohama reported.

    The leader of Islamic revolution in response to question announced: "insulting the symbols of the Sunni brothers, including the Prophet Muhammad's wife [Aisha] is forbidden. This includes the women of all prophets and especially the holy Prophet Muhammad ."


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    “There are no rational or lexical proofs, nor are there any principles, that can support blood matam in the mourning sessions of the leader of the martyrs, Imam Husayn (a), being permissible, let alone recommended. Furthermore, the principles and secondary rulings testify to its forbiddance. Therefore it is necessary to refrain from it.”
 
 
 
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