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    Seems like everyone on page 2 didn't bother to read further than the OP :facepalm:
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    (Original post by air-ninety-one)
    yeah but why would you even say that in the first place? :confused:
    Because i am inexplicably attracted to them, i thought all girls were like me and would be crazy for oriental guys... I'm sorry my rash and insensitive choice of words offended you :dontknow:

    Edit: not just you, i mean in general. It was my bad.
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    (Original post by ipulledhermione)
    Because i am inexplicably attracted to them, i thought all girls were like me and would be crazy for oriental guys... I'm sorry my rash and insensitive choice of words offended you :dontknow:

    Edit: not just you, i mean in general. It was my bad.
    yeah but,

    your an attractive girl and to come up with something like that is just blasphemy
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    (Original post by air-ninety-one)
    yeah but,

    your an attractive girl and to come up with something like that is just blasphemy
    I wouldn't repeatedly apologise if i didn't understand the gravity of my idiocy. I myself have been victim to sexual assault and thus appreciate how low such words would be.

    Anon because i don't want to be associated with my experience.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I went out tonight to a social at my university. And not for the first time, i get rejected by a load of girls most of whom i wasn't even trying to do anything with. It's subtle, but i can feel the racism they have and especially the prejudices they hold against me.

    I'm not a abnormal guy physically by any means. I was the same height as most of the guys there, lookswise i was better than a lot of the guys who got girls, i go to the gym regularly, everything else is perfectly fine.

    This is what makes me wonder, i hold the same energy levels as the guy sitting next to me when a girl came over for a conversation. Yet, she keeps eye contact with him 90% of the time. And also, she initiates getting his phone number later. Now, this guy is no looker, he is only a bit taller than me too. So physically, it was pretty even.
    I don't know what i did wrong tbh, because these girls who i didn't know (no one knew each other) looked at me like i was not worth anything... and that gets to my head. That i have nothing wrong with me , but there IS something wrong.

    Now, maybe i have the wrong end of the stick. Maybe i just suck with women, but there is a big feeling that they dislike me because of my race (i'm Chinese by ethnicity, Northern origins). I got groped in the balls by some lesbian (as did a mate) but i didn't know if that was just banter. I just don't know and i hate this.
    It hurts everytime i go out (i don't go out much because this always happens) and especially when i think about the girl i was in love with who was mixed race Chinese who wanted nothing to do with me because she only hung around white people (her words, i got her to admit it).
    Well, there's not a lot you can do about it. I mean, we can't change people's minds.

    Its not necessarily racism. Some people are just not attracted to certain races. I think this is ridiculous, but its the way things are. Some people just don't find certain races attractive. That does not mean that they think that people of a certain race are unattractive, it just means that they are not personally attracted to members of a certain race.

    You just have to stick it out, try not to let yourself get hung up and wait it out until you meet someone who clicks with you. That's just the way things are, unfortunately. There isn't much else you can do about it. My only piece of advice would be not to waste time trying to change yourself to be more like others.
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    You cannot help how you are made. I am a white guy from t'north and I am primarily attracted to black women. Nothing anyone can do about it, I am happy with the situation. My girlfriend I hope is happy with the situation. You are what you are.
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    It isn't discrimination or racism. A lot of people are attracted to specific races. Most white girls are not attracted to Oriental guys. Which sucks for me because I am an Oriental guy and I like white girls a lot :sad:.
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    Mate, I know what you mean. I'm tall, handsome, chatty and funny [not just my words] and I get that crap here too. Back in China, South Korea and Japan the girls just keeps on coming to me but the Korean and Japanese girls get slightly put off that I can't speak their language fluently.
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    You're certainly going to have a hard time picking up girls at nightclubs where the attraction is based soley on looks. Join a society or something and try to befriend females so they can get to know you better. If they dislike you purely because of your race then they are not worth it to begin with.
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    (Original post by ipulledhermione)
    Because i am inexplicably attracted to them, i thought all girls were like me and would be crazy for oriental guys... I'm sorry my rash and insensitive choice of words offended you :dontknow:

    Edit: not just you, i mean in general. It was my bad.
    I'm Oriental... I could be your reverse Harry Potter and you could be my reverse Cho Chang.

    :sexface:
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    I wish people would stop using the word "race".
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    If it's just from a pulling point of view, maybe they're not attracted to chinese people? I'm definitely more attracted to white people: nothing racist about it, they're more physically attractive in my eyes.
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    (Original post by Jingers)
    I'm Oriental... I could be your reverse Harry Potter and you could be my reverse Cho Chang
    Cho Chang is ugly!!! Nothing compared to Yuri Kwon from Girls Generation!!!
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    If they weren't attracted to you then they weren't attracted to you.

    http://knowyourmeme.com/i/000/052/81...gif?1275684729
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    Would it not be just as "racist" to find someone attractive based on race?


    Now I find asian girls really hot, especially Japanese girls but thats because I am attracted to girls being girls, giggly cute and sweet which a lot of UK girls dont seem to be these days, plus they are generally more petite.

    So just as I like asian girls for how they look and act, a British girl might not like you because of your apperance, thats not racism.

    Also I dont find Black girls in general as attractive as white girls, but there is many stunning black girls out there like Beyonce who I would love a girl to look like.
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    It's a matter of preference but I get you dude */sympathy
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    (Original post by Aj12)
    How is it racism? Not all girls are attracted to Chinese guys the same way some girls like only short guys or tall eyes ect.
    I had to reread that. Tall eyes, lol.
    Then I realised you meant short guys or tall, eyes, etc.
    Tall eyes, haha.
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    Attraction is directly related to media exposure, if you ask me. You don't see that many asians on TV or in the more popular sport events(which bothers me alot). If there was more popular culture with asians in the western world, I don't think you would not have this probelm.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I wouldn't repeatedly apologise if i didn't understand the gravity of my idiocy. I myself have been victim to sexual assault and thus appreciate how low such words would be.

    Anon because i don't want to be associated with my experience.
    but before you edited the post you were talking about how asian men should get 'raped'. i mean seriously, this is so disrespectful and racist.

    even though you are anon, i still remember your username.

    i have messaged some moderators, as have other members affected, and they have promised to take action.

    this is a sad say in the history of tsr.
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    (Original post by Aspiringlawstudent)
    If they weren't attracted to you then they weren't attracted to you.

    http://knowyourmeme.com/i/000/052/81...gif?1275684729
    aren't you the same guy who was stalking that other guy on the Harvard btec thread? you got properly embarrassed. lol
 
 
 
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