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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My boyfriend was like that. Lost it at 13, and has been with now 5/6 girls I think? Myself included. And he had the cheek to call me a ****.

    ...it didn't end well.
    How is 5/6 people a lot? My boyfriend's number is approaching 40. Try that one.
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    (Original post by llys)
    Are they your friends as well?
    No. I just see them a lot.
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    Shake his hand from me.
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    He sounds like my type of guy. He wins lad points.
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    Well how old is he 40 women what's his secret?
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    (Original post by Xhotas)
    To all the people who say "He'll obviously cheat on you." just ignore them. When he was single he may have slept around, as most men do. They're not all going to say "No, I'm waiting for the one."

    Before I met my girlfriend I had slept around a bit which did worry my gf a little bit because I was her only one. After a messy (short-term) break up we both slept around a bit but at the end of the day we loved each other so we put it in the past. If you can't put someone's sexual history in the past, then it probably won't work out. But to be honest, it's only a short term problem and eventually you'll get over it. Yer it's awkward because you know the people he slept with, but would you rather you know who he slept with than not? If he's been loyal to you for a year then obviously he cares about you a lot and more than likely loves you, how would you feel if he said to you "I can't be with you because you used to be a whore before we went out."

    Just give it some time, talk to him about it tbh. Just tell him your uncomfortable about it but get it out your system mostly. It hurts to ask, but if you want to know something just ask anyway and be told, you'd rather put up with the pain for a few seconds than have a prolonged worry in the back of your mind. If you still can't after a few months maybe, well then I think personally you're being a little immature on how you see relationships.
    This is the best response and I strongly agree - talk to him. At the very least it'll feel good to get it off your chest.

    I know I'd feel uncomfy in the same situation. When I've been in a similar situation in the past I had a good chat with my then boyfriend and he made me feel very reassured. From then on it was a non-issue apart from the times I felt very low about myself (low self-esteem usually leads to more worries about partners straying, right?)

    Talk to him. If you don't feel reassured, tell him. Relationship problems like this only work out when you are honest as hell with each other. If you get dodgy vibes then by all means, end it, but at least talk to him first, jeez.

    Good luck.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How is 5/6 people a lot? My boyfriend's number is approaching 40. Try that one.
    How old is he?

    Have you tried talking to him about it? Has he cheated on you? If not, I think you shouldn't judge the guy based on his past.
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    (Original post by Of_the_hook)
    How old is he?

    Have you tried talking to him about it? Has he cheated on you? If not, I think you shouldn't judge the guy based on his past.
    He's nearly 25.

    I wouldnt have a problem with it if it actually was in his past but its not. All these girls are his friends. So they're still very much in his life.
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    I couldn't be with someone like that to be perfectly honest. I certainly wouldn't consider a man-whore (former or otherwise) as marriage material.

    You do know that they don't test you for HPV at a "full screen" right? And guys who've dipped it in every ho in town has a very high risk of having it. It's for life, and can give women persistent cervical cancer- I found this out the hard way. As far as I'm concerened, sleeping with "jack the lad" is tantamount with playing Russian Roulette with your health, fertility and potentiially, life. It may sound all melodramatic, but that's how it is for me. I wish more girls knew.
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    You've been together for a year, I'm going to go ahead and assume there is affection and trust and maybe love. Just because he has been promiscuous in his past does not mean he will cheat on you, or has any intention of cheating you, or will be promiscuous again if you should split up. You are not a one time thing, you're in a relationship, it's obviously different with you. I do not think you should worry at all, lots of people are able to have sex and remain friends afterwards. They are in his past romantically. Please don't let this ruin your relationship because it's not worth it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and we have a great time together. Things seem to be going pretty well apart from this one thing...

    He has slept with virtually every single one of his female friends, a good number of them we see on a regular basis, like at birthdays/parties/events etc...

    This makes me incredibly uncomfortable, knowing that he has been intimate with all these girls and seen them all naked, gone down on them, etc, it just feels so incestuous, as in everyone has slept with everyone.

    This says to me that we dont share the same views on sex. I'm not one for casual sex, but going by his track record, he appears to be willing to do it with just about anyone. I also know he's used a prostitute in the past, although he now says he'd never do that again as it was a young one-time thing.

    Do you think I should leave him?
    he shagged them while going out with you? yeah ditch him, if he stopped shagging everyone except you during the year long relationship then past is past
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    (Original post by Schroedinger's Pandora)
    I couldn't be with someone like that to be perfectly honest. I certainly wouldn't consider a man-whore (former or otherwise) as marriage material.

    You do know that they don't test you for HPV at a "full screen" right? And guys who've dipped it in every ho in town has a very high risk of having it. It's for life, and can give women persistent cervical cancer- I found this out the hard way. As far as I'm concerened, sleeping with "jack the lad" is tantamount with playing Russian Roulette with your health, fertility and potentiially, life. It may sound all melodramatic, but that's how it is for me. I wish more girls knew.
    I've asked about HPV testing (asked to be tested when I had a regular STD test) and they refused me because I had no visible symptoms. Apparantly they can't test unless you have symptoms (to take a sample from)...assuming what you meant is that you caught the virus, how did you get around this problem?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    He's nearly 25.

    I wouldnt have a problem with it if it actually was in his past but its not. All these girls are his friends. So they're still very much in his life.
    It is his past if he isn't sleeping around anymore. Does it bother you that he's still friends with them? If that's the problem, then you are going to have to talk to him about it but I wouldn't suggest picking his friends for him.
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    (Original post by Schroedinger's Pandora)
    I couldn't be with someone like that to be perfectly honest. I certainly wouldn't consider a man-whore (former or otherwise) as marriage material.

    You do know that they don't test you for HPV at a "full screen" right? And guys who've dipped it in every ho in town has a very high risk of having it. It's for life, and can give women persistent cervical cancer- I found this out the hard way. As far as I'm concerened, sleeping with "jack the lad" is tantamount with playing Russian Roulette with your health, fertility and potentiially, life. It may sound all melodramatic, but that's how it is for me. I wish more girls knew.
    But the HPV virus is incredibly common, the majority of people will have it at some point in their lives. You can get it just from kissing somebody.

    In most people, it either lies dormant or goes away on its own as we actually develop immunity to the virus as we get older.
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    Why did you ignore my post? How old are you aswell? How did you meet? Is he good looking?
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    How did you find out?

    Do you trust him?
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    (Original post by black_mamba)
    I've asked about HPV testing (asked to be tested when I had a regular STD test) and they refused me because I had no visible symptoms. Apparantly they can't test unless you have symptoms (to take a sample from)...assuming what you meant is that you caught the virus, how did you get around this problem?

    With High risk HPV there are no symptoms. It's nasty as the lesions that grow on your cervix and are flat (you can't feel them) and obviously you can't see them. It's actually what your cervical smear test is for, they scrape your cervix and look for cancerous cells AND abnormal cells which contain HPV. A persistent cervical HPV infection can turn cancerous very quickly (as mine did), as as I said, there is no cure for this. The only treatment option is to have the area physically cut out, but HPV is a virus, and can very well carry on causing cancerous lesions your cervix indefinitely. They just keep cutting it away. I've met girls in their early 20s who have needed radical hysterectomies already.

    My specialist advised me that having a partner who had had many partners will put you at high risk of this. I had no idea what HPV was when I was told what was wrong with me. I REALLY wish I knew about this three years ago, things would be very different for me now if I had. It lives in areas of skin that aren't covered by condoms, too just to add insult.
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    (Original post by HumanNature1992)
    He's prob gonna cheat on you.
    I think so too.

    Man ****s are so predictable.
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    He's not Mick Hucknall is he?
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    It's understandable that you'd feel that way but i doubt that he's proud of it himself. I mean, like you said, you've been together for a year and everything else is going fine. There is no real reason why this has to be an issue, if he and them can overcome the awkwardness then surely you can? Also, you don't have to have identical beliefs about the value of sex to have a meaningful relationship. But if it get to the stage where the negatives of his past actions outweigh the good points of your relationship then it makes sense to consider it. But yeah, I'm a guy so I'm a little biased.
 
 
 
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