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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yup it's more common than the OP thinks, nothing wrong with it of course...i do it sometimes, like i might hate the girl but she is hott..so i dont feel bad about it, also at the end of the day it is a massive compliment to a girl...just don;t tell them, you know what girls are like "OMFG SUCH A PERVERTED FREEEEK AM TELIN POLICE"

    At the end of the day you find them attractive enough to do it, huge compliment...OP its very common im sure...just weird he told you
    Yeah I know what you mean. Some of the pictures girls put on facebook, they must know what guys are doing. Either that or they're incredibly naive.

    On a serious note OP (I'm assuming this means original poster ?) Yes I would be a little bit weirded out if my GF told me she did this however I know she would never act on it and you need to trust your bf on this. You also need to talk to your bf about what he tells you because I've been with my gf for 2 years and even though we discuss some weird things eg. Bowel movements. If I'm attracted to someone else I don't tell her or tell her who I'm ******* over. This isn't lying it's common courtesy.

    I don't want to make a generalisation but trust me there can't be many guys that don't do this type of thing ....
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    It's not any reason to leave him, but I understand why it would annoy you/upset you. It would upset me too, it'd make me wonder why not me? And i'd get an even bigger inferiority complex about the way i look. Hmmmm. :confused:
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    Why did he tell you this?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hey everybody! would appreciate some honest advice on this one:

    I'm in a long term relationship with a guy (almost 4 years now)
    My boyfriend w*nks over girls that we both know...
    Porn isn't great, and he's into that too (obviously!), but I'm far less uncomfortable with him doing that because its people that he doesn't have a personal relationship with: it's just physical attraction. But doing it over our friends makes me uncomfortable, because they're people he and I interact with on a regular basis.

    Girls, would you find this a problem if your man did this?
    Guys, do you/would you do this?

    If it is just me being uptight, any advice on how to deal with it? I don't want to loose him over this, but i also don't want this to fester and become an issue between us.

    thanks in advance for any help
    I don't think it's that strange that he does it. What's strange is that he told you about it. Sounds a bit provocative to me.
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    How exactly do you know? OP REPLY :facepalm2:

    Anyway, you cannot control his mind. If he collects photos of them, problem, but if it's something he confessed then what's in his brain is there. Our thoughts are private, and in all honesty would you have it any other way? It's the kind of thing that upsets us to think about (100 times more to KNOW), but we all have 'illegal' thoughts. I'm dead into the guy I'm seeing, but I've masturbated over a couple of his friends a few times... He has some mates that are seriously good-looking. If I allow myself to do that I simply have to put up with his ideas.
    Untag Facebook-photos where you're with your hottest friends if it makes you feel better. Now this is why you should be the social circle's hottie :danceboy:
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    Why not tell him you masturbate over the thought of his best male friend
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    You should definately talk to him and get him to stop if it affects you so much. A point worth noting many men do this lets make an assumption 1 in 3 guys do this(men have weird fetishes anyway) and you want to discount yourself to 33% of the male population or future relationship because they do this is a bit daft.
    What if you dumped him and find another men who does the same? dump? your thinking into it too much, just talk to him.
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    if hes doing it over your friends im suprised they havent complained about the mess hes leaving all over them lol ;p
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hey everybody! would appreciate some honest advice on this one:

    I'm in a long term relationship with a guy (almost 4 years now)
    My boyfriend w*nks over girls that we both know...
    Porn isn't great, and he's into that too (obviously!), but I'm far less uncomfortable with him doing that because its people that he doesn't have a personal relationship with: it's just physical attraction. But doing it over our friends makes me uncomfortable, because they're people he and I interact with on a regular basis.

    Girls, would you find this a problem if your man did this?
    Guys, do you/would you do this?

    If it is just me being uptight, any advice on how to deal with it? I don't want to loose him over this, but i also don't want this to fester and become an issue between us.

    thanks in advance for any help
    I guess that like you I would be a little uptight that it was happening with friends

    How did you discover his intimate activities? Did he just voluntary tell you?

    If he did, then I’m thinking he would really like to do them and is hoping that you may be interested in arranging a threesome which is fine if you’re Bi.

    If you’re not into that tell him that you often get off thinking about a mutual male friend that you would like to do (whether it’s true or not) and gauge his reaction. He may actually agree to an MMF if that’s what you want.

    With either scenario you are probably headed toward an open relationship or none at all imo.

    Best wishes
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    Sometimes i dream about some of the users of this forum and **** over them too :ssaw:

    It a Normal Thing that men do.
    Spice up your relationship it will work trust me!!!!!!!!!
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    **** over his guy mates and see how he feels lol
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    (Original post by Kansa1527)
    **** over his guy mates and see how he feels lol
    I think your advice is a little out dated...
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    You're boyfriend is a perv m8, you just need to give him some of his own medicine, rub one out to a picture of his best mate, or better yet, his dad.
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    Your boy friend is a ****ing ****, how could he abuse the sweet flower that is your love! You did bestow it upon him in earnest and he has scolded you sweet princess, if you were to allow me to call you mine I would **** furiously over pictures of us at the beach and on holidays together, I would show you how a real man wanks and neglects a perfectly good pussy.
    My address is: Stoner Lane 420
    Search me out, I am the prince charming you long for.
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    It just means he finds your mutual friendships special and his tribute to this is to rapidly rub his hand over his shaft and ejaculate forcefully.
    But hey, it's his way of showing that he loves the things you have in common... Like sexy friends...

    CMON WAKE UP GIRLFRIEND!! He's obviously not satisfied by your sexual prowess (typical CIS Scum), get a watermelon and use angels bonus sex technique. That may spice up the sex life enough to reduce his masturbating tendencies.
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    Why does he not just do it with you?
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    Lol you should dump him, if he is going to **** to a girl then it should be to you and certainly not to one of your friends.
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    (Original post by Kansa1527)
    **** over his guy mates and see how he feels lol
    How'd you find this thread?
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    This thread is 5 years old... chances are they are now married with kids
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    (Original post by Ezisola)
    This thread is 5 years old... chances are they are now married with kids
    Or ran of with of with one of her friends :teehee:
 
 
 
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