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    I can understand this too. University has been the biggest disappointment of my life. I much preferred my sixth form and I miss it like mad!

    I never fitted in at secondary school. Even though I was just a normal girl into clothes and boys and makeup, because I got good grades I was bullied and immediately labelled as "weird" or "a nerd" before people got to know me. So irritating but by Year 11 I had totally given up hope and was just looking forward to a fresh start with new people the next year.

    My sixth form was brilliant. I met loads of cool people and made a massive group of friends. For the first time in my life I had a proper social life and felt included. Had so much fun and those two years were everything I hoped they would be.

    I expected uni to be a step forward from sixth form... amongst people of my intelligence who wanted to go out and have a good time.
    How wrong I was...

    The problem with University is that I come from a different world. I stupidly chose to go to a rah university. People judge me and prefer to be close to other people because I have a regional accent, drink Carlsberg and value different things in life. I can't relate to them and they can't relate to me.
    Cannot wait to get out of there. Worst decision I ever made.
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    it is what you make it thats the thing
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    So far pretty much yes.
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    (Original post by djm-uk)

    anyway, I'm looking forward to moving on to the next stage of my life. At least i'll have a degree so I've got a chance at getting a better job now (i'm hoping to get into the charity sector, life-hating misanthrope that I am). Soon all this will just be a rapidly fading memory. Roll on June 2011!
    Shame you didn't enjoy your time. I went to Hull and loved it... a lot fo my friends did politics but they did the 4 year course which you do a sandwich year in the 3rd year.
    From them I do get the impression no one repects each others opinions but i know they all enjoyed it.

    Did you say you didn't manage to stick at any societies? The human rights society would have been good for getting into the charity sector - one of the politics guys i know was involved in that and is now working for a charity.
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    (Original post by lissi08)
    I can understand this too. University has been the biggest disappointment of my life. I much preferred my sixth form and I miss it like mad!

    I never fitted in at secondary school. Even though I was just a normal girl into clothes and boys and makeup, because I got good grades I was bullied and immediately labelled as "weird" or "a nerd" before people got to know me. So irritating but by Year 11 I had totally given up hope and was just looking forward to a fresh start with new people the next year.

    My sixth form was brilliant. I met loads of cool people and made a massive group of friends. For the first time in my life I had a proper social life and felt included. Had so much fun and those two years were everything I hoped they would be.

    I expected uni to be a step forward from sixth form... amongst people of my intelligence who wanted to go out and have a good time.
    How wrong I was...

    The problem with University is that I come from a different world. I stupidly chose to go to a rah university. People judge me and prefer to be close to other people because I have a regional accent, drink Carlsberg and value different things in life. I can't relate to them and they can't relate to me.
    Cannot wait to get out of there. Worst decision I ever made.
    Which uni was that? x
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    (Original post by gee_shakedown)
    Which uni was that? x
    if you have a look at her profile its Oxford.
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      To a point, it is what you make of it and like everything else in life you have to take the rough with the smooth. I would say it's definitely hyped up to be something that it often isn't, however, and I'm not convinced by "the time of your life" because so many things about it just suck balls from a more mature, adult point of view.
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      At primary school people said they couldn't wait for secondary, but when we got there everyone said it was ****.

      At secondary school people said they couldn't wait for college, but when we got here everyone said it was ****, and now they can't wait for uni.

      Basically the grass is always greener on the other side; that side being the next step in education/life in this example. My philosophy is to try and enjoy what I am actually doing, right now, and make the best of it. I certainly had high hopes before starting college, which were diminished somewhat by my failure to get in to the college most of my friends went to. Rather than giving up and just hyping about uni for 2 years, like some people at college seem to be doing, I prefer to enjoy what I have presently (and really it's actually rather good, although not in the way I expected) . If you hype something up massively in your mind, you will struggle to enjoy the reality of it if it doesn't match up to your expectation, even if it's still a great thing.
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      (Original post by djm-uk)
      Just a short tale from a 3rd year looking back on the uni experience with jaded eyes for those who are interested.

      Uni was supposed to be IT, the pinnacle, the culmination, a breath of fresh air after the hell that was school/college. Life would start when I wove my parents goodbye at my new uni halls and became a student. I'd left college determined not to go to university, such was my hatred of the rote learning and unenthusiastic teachers I found to be the norm there. Yet after travelling and then getting an office job that was going nowhere I eventually decided to go to uni, 2 years after my peers but better late than never, or so I thought.

      I can remember how excited I was. I'd never really got on with anyone at college or school (being judged to be 'different' or'weird' and hence bullied in school and ignored at college). Uni would change all that - I'd meet intelligent, mature young people eager to learn whilst up for having a good time as well. I honesty thought I'd find my niche, find people I'd really click with. Hell, all the judgemental morons have been whittled away at this level, right? Everyone says that uni days are 'the best of your life,' right? I bought it, hook, line and sinker.

      That was 2008. I'm now in my 3rd year, just about to finish my penultimate semester. And truth be told I haven't enjoyed uni and can't wait to leave. At times the prospect of finally getting out of here and starting work has been the only thing that's made me happy.

      The reality has been that there have been just as many prejudiced idiots up here than there were at school (plenty of racists too, which shocked me coming from multi-culti Birmingham). Plenty of people who've never so much as read a book, been to a museum or watched a subtitled film. Instead all people seem to be interested in is drinking, constantly getting hammered, sex and 'pulling girls.' There are HUGE numbers of immature people, people who think knob gags are the height of humour. My uni (Hull) is good for Politics (my course) but even there my course mates tend to be argumentative and un-receptive to others' views. Basically, the same sorts but slightly cleverer.

      Sure I like getting drunk and going clubbing every so often. But as a lifestyle? And like the odd risqué joke too. But all the time? Nope. And boy have I tried - I've been to every single society I was even vaguely interested in, introduced myself to loads of people (something that doesn't come naturally to me) and gone along to parties and socials even when I was ill and tired all in the desperate hope that if I went then I'd finally find 'my' crowd, my sort of people. I never did. Just drinking games and more sex jokes.

      My 3 years of uni have most definitely NOT been the 'best of my life.' There's no one up here I'll be making much of an effort to keep in touch with (at most 2-3 people). No one up here I'll miss that much. I won't miss the uni or the town.
      Sometimes I wonder - would I have been happier if I'd gone to a different uni? A more well-rounded one academically perhaps, or one in a nicer town? The tales I hear of what goes on in other unis makes me think - probably not. I've given up on it all now and am just working really hard on my dissertation and final modules. I gave up hope long ago.

      In short? Without a doubt university has been the biggest disappointment of my life.
      I have two questions:

      * would you go again if you were back in 2008? or would you give uni a miss?
      * would you have paid £9000 per year for it?
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      (Original post by lissi08)
      I can understand this too. University has been the biggest disappointment of my life. I much preferred my sixth form and I miss it like mad!

      I never fitted in at secondary school. Even though I was just a normal girl into clothes and boys and makeup, because I got good grades I was bullied and immediately labelled as "weird" or "a nerd" before people got to know me. So irritating but by Year 11 I had totally given up hope and was just looking forward to a fresh start with new people the next year.

      My sixth form was brilliant. I met loads of cool people and made a massive group of friends. For the first time in my life I had a proper social life and felt included. Had so much fun and those two years were everything I hoped they would be.

      I expected uni to be a step forward from sixth form... amongst people of my intelligence who wanted to go out and have a good time.
      How wrong I was...

      The problem with University is that I come from a different world. I stupidly chose to go to a rah university. People judge me and prefer to be close to other people because I have a regional accent, drink Carlsberg and value different things in life. I can't relate to them and they can't relate to me.
      Cannot wait to get out of there. Worst decision I ever made.
      may i ask, what uni did you go to, and what accent do you have??
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      (Original post by djm-uk)
      Just a short tale from a 3rd year looking back on the uni experience with jaded eyes for those who are interested.

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      In short? Without a doubt university has been the biggest disappointment of my life.
      I know the feeling, I felt the same way in 1st year. Although I didn't have the same problems as you in college or school, I too despaired at the level of conversation and the lack of variety to peoples lifestyles. I still don't understand why people can actual enjoy that kind of lifestyle.

      But then I got a good bunch of housemates for second year and joined societies for the activities I was interested in. Thankfully, the sort of activities I like to do are the kind that attract what I consider to be fairly 'normal' and intelligent people. In the end it was all good, sorry you don't have any more time left to change this. But hopefully you will find life better after Uni.

      Just try not to lock yourself away from everyone, I made that mistake and it took me a year to realise it.
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      TOO. MUCH. TEXT. :nooo:

      Gutted that you've not fully enjoyed the experience, OP. Though, I think that the problem may stem from this:

      (Original post by djm-uk)
      I'd left college determined not to go to university, such was my hatred of the rote learning and unenthusiastic teachers I found to be the norm there.
      Just sayin' :cool:

      Surely, with a bit of motivation and effort, you could have made yourself enjoy it. A place with the majority of people a similar age to you, different backgrounds, cultures etc. A new place to explore and at the end of it all, a degree to increase your job prospects?

      Sounds like quite the experience to me. Can't wait!
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      (Original post by djm-uk)
      Just a short tale from a 3rd year looking back on the uni experience with jaded eyes for those who are interested.

      Uni was supposed to be IT, the pinnacle, the culmination, a breath of fresh air after the hell that was school/college. Life would start when I wove my parents goodbye at my new uni halls and became a student. I'd left college determined not to go to university, such was my hatred of the rote learning and unenthusiastic teachers I found to be the norm there. Yet after travelling and then getting an office job that was going nowhere I eventually decided to go to uni, 2 years after my peers but better late than never, or so I thought.

      I can remember how excited I was. I'd never really got on with anyone at college or school (being judged to be 'different' or'weird' and hence bullied in school and ignored at college). Uni would change all that - I'd meet intelligent, mature young people eager to learn whilst up for having a good time as well. I honesty thought I'd find my niche, find people I'd really click with. Hell, all the judgemental morons have been whittled away at this level, right? Everyone says that uni days are 'the best of your life,' right? I bought it, hook, line and sinker.

      That was 2008. I'm now in my 3rd year, just about to finish my penultimate semester. And truth be told I haven't enjoyed uni and can't wait to leave. At times the prospect of finally getting out of here and starting work has been the only thing that's made me happy.

      The reality has been that there have been just as many prejudiced idiots up here than there were at school (plenty of racists too, which shocked me coming from multi-culti Birmingham). Plenty of people who've never so much as read a book, been to a museum or watched a subtitled film. Instead all people seem to be interested in is drinking, constantly getting hammered, sex and 'pulling girls.' There are HUGE numbers of immature people, people who think knob gags are the height of humour. My uni (Hull) is good for Politics (my course) but even there my course mates tend to be argumentative and un-receptive to others' views. Basically, the same sorts but slightly cleverer.

      Sure I like getting drunk and going clubbing every so often. But as a lifestyle? And like the odd risqué joke too. But all the time? Nope. And boy have I tried - I've been to every single society I was even vaguely interested in, introduced myself to loads of people (something that doesn't come naturally to me) and gone along to parties and socials even when I was ill and tired all in the desperate hope that if I went then I'd finally find 'my' crowd, my sort of people. I never did. Just drinking games and more sex jokes.

      My 3 years of uni have most definitely NOT been the 'best of my life.' There's no one up here I'll be making much of an effort to keep in touch with (at most 2-3 people). No one up here I'll miss that much. I won't miss the uni or the town.
      Sometimes I wonder - would I have been happier if I'd gone to a different uni? A more well-rounded one academically perhaps, or one in a nicer town? The tales I hear of what goes on in other unis makes me think - probably not. I've given up on it all now and am just working really hard on my dissertation and final modules. I gave up hope long ago.

      In short? Without a doubt university has been the biggest disappointment of my life.
      So what you're saying is that, even after all those years of education, most people still think you're a ****!

      Yet it's their fault not yours. Ho and indeed hum.
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      be happy yo

      the dumb people are sometimes the most interesting and amusing!
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      (Original post by djm-uk)
      The reality has been that there have been just as many prejudiced idiots up here than there were at school (plenty of racists too, which shocked me coming from multi-culti Birmingham). Plenty of people who've never so much as read a book, been to a museum or watched a subtitled film. Instead all people seem to be interested in is drinking, constantly getting hammered, sex and 'pulling girls.' There are HUGE numbers of immature people, people who think knob gags are the height of humour. My uni (Hull) is good for Politics (my course) but even there my course mates tend to be argumentative and un-receptive to others' views. Basically, the same sorts but slightly cleverer.

      Sure I like getting drunk and going clubbing every so often. But as a lifestyle? And like the odd risqué joke too. But all the time? Nope.
      I completely feel you on this one, and I go to a supposed second-tier university - Southampton. It is true that everyone has a deeper level, even if they don't show it; the knob gag people are just doing it because they've learnt to socialise that way, and if you get to know them they do have informed opinions and wide range of interests. One could argue that it's more sophisticated to actually bury heavy topics at a deeper level (shows you understand how to play the social game), but I'm as annoyed as you are by that kind of person.

      I also agree that most opinionated people are "the same sorts but slightly cleverer", and generally, the more noise they make, the less analytical they really are.

      On prejudice: I come from rural Gloucestershire, where a black man in the street is something very noticeable, and light-hearted racist jokes are current. But most people here are from London and I find myself very careful not to say the wrong thing or draw attention to race in any way.

      On other types of prejudice however, I have found barriers. I identified as bisexual in my home town, and moved in circles where that was normal. But since coming here I have seen very poor understanding of alternative sexualities. The gay people I've met are very much sequestered into a subculture whereby they're defined by their gaydom, go to gay clubs, etc.

      You say you've had a job - maybe this sets you apart from most of the middle-class kids who've never had a proper job/taste of the real world.
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      (Original post by djm-uk)
      That was 2008. I'm now in my 3rd year, just about to finish my penultimate semester. And truth be told I haven't enjoyed uni and can't wait to leave. At times the prospect of finally getting out of here and starting work has been the only thing that's made me happy.
      And guess what. The world of work is exactly the same. Welcome to real life. Enjoy.
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      I understand how you feel. I think things like sports clubs are much better than just relying on halls and course. The people in halls were so generic and *****ish, similar to what you say that I barely made friends. I must say I noticed that it was these dull clubbing-centrics loved it the most so take comfort in that I was infuriated by the student night out mentality (I like drinking too, but I find the pub or field trip drinking the best) and that I was made to feel like a leper if I wasn't up for pouring away my money on something that bored me. This year has been a bit better as I've done some fun trips and tried new sports and met some very nice people so it's unlucky if you don't find them. But of course I have met some absolute knobs as well which comes with the territory I'm afraid.
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      Many people just have unreasonable expectations I suppose.
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      (Original post by djm-uk)
      The reality has been that there have been just as many prejudiced idiots up here than there were at school (plenty of racists too, which shocked me coming from multi-culti Birmingham). Plenty of people who've never so much as read a book, been to a museum or watched a subtitled film. Instead all people seem to be interested in is drinking, constantly getting hammered, sex and 'pulling girls.' There are HUGE numbers of immature people, people who think knob gags are the height of humour. My uni (Hull) is good for Politics (my course) but even there my course mates tend to be argumentative and un-receptive to others' views. Basically, the same sorts but slightly cleverer.
      You remind me of shree from Big brother a few years back. He was a douche (not saying you are though) - just the thing about immature. Famous Shree quote "you are so immature" LOL

      Moving on...You sound a bit like me, apart from the partying thing - i hate partying, drinking and all that crap - into fitness and cultured stuff. Museums, climbing, nature walks/hikes, reading news/books etc .

      I went to oxford (year), then warwick (1 week) then UCL (3 years), and i hated all those uni's. I kept changing in hope i'd find one that i liked but i never did and it got to the stage people were thinking i was dumb cos i kept dropping out. So anyway, left uni and vowed never to go back, but can't find a job and thinking of doing a masters or something cos i can't get work. I love learning, just hate doing it in the uni environment. Even though i was bullied in school i think it was the best years of my life in terms of achievement and self-esteem i had (both of which suffered in university).

      go travelling after you graduate man - i travelled from last june to dec and it changed my outlook of the world and cured my depression i think. I'm a much happier, more content person.

      Peace dude.
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