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Mixed feelings about my boyfriend of 9 months Watch

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    LIVE FOR TODAY, be happy for today,- you're only 19.

    Don't look too much forward, just LIVE TO BE HAPPY NOW!
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    Why is a relationship a "waste of time" just because it won't last forever? The OP is 19, ffs!

    If you enjoy being with him and make each other happy I fail to see why that is a "waste of time".
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    (Original post by Boobies.)
    Doing the ILY too fast = Total relationship killer!
    Does he know you don't like him as much as he likes you? If he knows that (not because you tell him outright, but he must have an idea as to whether you do/do not reciprocate his feelings of marriage and such) and he still wants to be with you then its all good.

    If he thinks you're on the same wavelength as him, then there's quite a problem, and it seems unfair on him. Your still young though, he may feel like this now, but is capable of moving on.
    He knows that I care for him loads but I don't reciprocate the feelings in the same intensity. Partly I think its because before university he'd never had a girlfriend and he was a virgin (I'd never had a boyfriend either) and during first year he kept trying to pull girls and didn't do too well and got insecure and is just really happy to find someone who finally reciprocates his feelings. Especially since he got turned down by this other girl he really liked last year and was telling me about it at the time (bit awkward lol). I reckon sometimes with peoples' first relationship they go way in over their heads. I haven't really unfortunately, but I love spending time with him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    He knows that I care for him loads but I don't reciprocate the feelings in the same intensity. Partly I think its because before university he'd never had a girlfriend and he was a virgin (I'd never had a boyfriend either) and during first year he kept trying to pull girls and didn't do too well and got insecure and is just really happy to find someone who finally reciprocates his feelings. Especially since he got turned down by this other girl he really liked last year and was telling me about it at the time (bit awkward lol). I reckon sometimes with peoples' first relationship they go way in over their heads. I haven't really unfortunately, but I love spending time with him.
    What happened between you both?
 
 
 
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