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    Listen to Boris:
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    (Original post by [Shadowplay])
    Maybe you should try it.
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    (Original post by JGR)
    As for all the talk of immature and annoying gay people, there are vast swathes of annoying heterosexual twits too.
    My acquaintances form a fairly diverse mix on that front, and you get idiots in both camps.
    There are plenty of sensible people too though, many of whom you would not be able to guess their orientation when you met them.

    As for the OP, I suggest you try not to fantasise about what people get up to behind closed doors, at least in their presence, it can make things feel awkward.
    Concern yourself instead with the matter at hand, as if you were not aware of their bedroom preferences.

    Have you tried talking about your unease in person with a gay friend? Some frank may discussion dispel your uncertainty.
    I don't have any gay friends. As I said, I'm really uncomfortable around gay people so find it hard to be friends with them.
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    Do not get me started on those posters. I hate them.

    Before you decide I am a homophobe despite my previous record I am infact, Bi.

    Those posters piss me off.
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    (Original post by impressionist89)
    I'm a straight male. I just can't fathom how people can be gay. I mean, the idea of kissing another man is utterly disgusting. Whenever I see a gay man, I always think of how they'd kiss another man and the anal sex and I mean, it just grosses me out. I don't hate gay people, but I'm very uncomfortable around them.
    I really want to get over this though. Any suggestions?
    To be honest, dude I don't get the whole vagina thing. It's seems...squelchy. :ahhhhh:

    Don't get me wrong, I think many women are gorgeous, it is just that nothing is happening downstairs.

    As others of said, just try and imagine it less. It is good that you want to get over it and I really don't think you warranted the negative rep you have received thus far. Usually it helps to get to know a gay person, and honestly most, if not all gay persons aren't likely to hit on a straight guy. Just as most straight guys aren't likely to hit on lesbians, even if they find them attractive.

    If it makes you feel any better I was quite uncomfortable around straight guys after I came out. Not because I was attracted to them, but because I thought they would be homophobic or some other kind of prejudice. But I'm past that now after discussing being gay with straight guys and seeing that they are mostly alright and/or don't care haha.
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    I dont understand.

    I dont think about other people's sexual antics or where they put their tongue...

    And the straight guys who feel uncomfortable because they feel all gay men will try it on with them... well... I'm not even going to entertain that idea.

    Seriously, get with a guy if you're that obsessed. If not, deal with it.
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    (Original post by emiliee21)
    I'm not against gay people at all, many of my friends are gay.
    However It was pretty awkward when two of them came out at a party once, and i woke up that night and they were having sex in the bed next to me.... but i didn't want to move because I didnt want them to feel like I was against it.
    worst.night.ever.
    It doesn't matter if they're gay or not. If they were your straight friends, would you have moved? If the answer is no, then fair enough, but if the answer is yes, you should have done something about it. No need to give different treatment. And this is coming from a bisexual.
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    (Original post by impressionist89)
    I mean, the idea of kissing another man is utterly disgusting. Whenever I see a gay man, I always think of how they'd kiss another man and the anal sex and I mean, it just grosses me out.
    All it means is, your not gay (shocker i know) I personally find the though of getting that intimate with a female queezy at best.

    But just because you find something disgusting doesnt make it wrong, I personally hate mushrooms always have, but it doesn't mean anyone who does like them are immoral people.
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    (Original post by Chaofan88)
    It doesn't matter if they're gay or not. If they were your straight friends, would you have moved? If the answer is no, then fair enough, but if the answer is yes, you should have done something about it. No need to give different treatment. And this is coming from a bisexual.
    I was thinking this too. If I woke up and 2 people were having sex next to me I would leave the room.

    Or join in. :sexface:
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    To summarise: you're homophobic. Sort it out.
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    (Original post by impressionist89)
    I'm a straight male. I just can't fathom how people can be gay. I mean, the idea of kissing another man is utterly disgusting. Whenever I see a gay man, I always think of how they'd kiss another man and the anal sex and I mean, it just grosses me out. I don't hate gay people, but I'm very uncomfortable around them.
    I really want to get over this though. Any suggestions?
    To get over it? Watch some gay porn?

    Seriously, though, if it bothers you that much, just look away and don't think about it. You're straight, they're gay or bi. Accept it.
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    (Original post by [Shadowplay])
    Well I could ask you the same thing, how do you find another woman attractive? There's no way to describe it, it's just 'taste'. Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I don't find women beautiful, gay guys are just not aroused by the opposite sex, and that's not something you have any control over. I think if any gay teen had a say in that area, they would decide to be straight.

    And no, we don't think/act like women, we're still men. We're still human beings and we all act differently. I don't see why just because we are attracted to the same sex, we automatically have to have our whole personality dictated by that sexual / emotional preference.
    Why the hell did you get negged for this? :confused: This is a pretty damn good post!

    OP, all your uncomfortableness (made-up word alert!) means is that you're not gay. I personally, don't understand how two women can sleep together. Two of my best friends are lesbian and have been together for about 2 years and I love them to bits but I honestly don't understand how they can find each other attractive in *that* way. But then, I can sort of understand a little bit more how men can find each other sexually attractive because I'm attracted to men, if that makes sense. But yeah, it's the same thing for gay and lesbian people, they don't get how we can sleep with the sex they're not attracted to. I'd advice you to stop thinking about sex when you see gay people 'cause tbh, no wonder you're uncomfortable! If I was trying to hold a conversation with someone while visualising their sex life, I'd feel uncomfortable too! Get the sex out of your head and talk to the gay people you meet! When it comes to it we're all human and someone's sexuality is just a secondary part of who they are, it's not everything. They'll probably won't make their sexuality an issue anyway, unless it's a case where you can't help but realise/notice! I didn't know half my friends were gay/bi until a random party or something and they were like 'Oh I'm gay, didn't you know?'
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    (Original post by impressionist89)
    just wondering how they can think like that.
    we think how we think have you ever sat down and asked why YOU think how you think?

    when did you decide pussy was heaven sent ????? when did you decide you liked girls?

    remember that process .......NO

    i thought as much

    homosexuality/heterosexuality are states of sexuality and existence they are not thinking actions
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      What's the name of that study where they watched a load of homophobic mens dicks grow to gay porn?
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        (Original post by Lukely)
        Ok well I guess it's my turn to get shot down in flames...

        I have no issue with people being gay, I don't wanna infiltrate their love lives and the thought of anal sex is just not one that I like. I could never do the gay thing.

        What pisses me the **** off though is when gay guys make a big scene out of it. Have you noticed that? So many do it. I met a gay hairdresser once, he was ok though because he wasn't like childish and immature about it like a lot of gay people my age seem to be. You almost kinda have to wonder whether they actually ARE gay or not?? One of my "gay" friends (I'm putting that in inverted commas because I still believe he's only allegedly gay and it's all a front for him to make a scene about something for attention) has this profile picture on Facebook of him making out with his new bf.

        Not only that but all his bloody statuses are about him and they have heaps of xs on the posts and his bf has also changed his surname to my gay friend's surname too.

        It's like ok... it's their lives, fine, whatever, but it's a bit weird y'know??

        Being camp or whatever is one thing. Being gay is another thing. But making such a ****ing scene of it to the point where it seems like it's all just for attention, well that pisses me off and THEN it becomes something else for me.

        But all the same - I have nothing against people being gay/lesbian and I understand where these things come from but when you're almost fakin' it then jusssssst get the **** out.

        Have you not seen the way that some hetrosexual people act on facebook?
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        How old are you OP? 14? Grow up seriously. Not everybody on this planet is the same as you
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        What's with all the people saying 'Don't knock it till you've tried it?'..

        That's such a stupid suggestion. I've watched 2 girls 1 cup, didn't like it one bit, so you're telling me I can't think that those girls are absolutely vile beings because I haven't eaten mine and someone else feaces and vomit? **** off. I can have an opinion on something without having experienced it. It's just that, an opinion, not a fact of what's right or wrong.

        I wouldn't class myself as a homophobe at all. I don't condone any actions of discrimination towards gays. Just annoying how apparently 'liberal' people love forcing their own beliefs and opinions on others and in doing so become the closed minded ones. Happens far too much on this forum. But like the poster with Boris Johnson, it can be reversed, 'I find two males kissing disgusting, get over it'.
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        (Original post by tieyourmotherdown)
        Well I imagine it's pretty much the same as heterosexuality, except I prefer my gender rather than the other one. Apart from that there's no difference.
        Technically gays are a threat to the human race.
        A gay couple cannot have offspring.
        If everyone was gay there would be no reproduction and we would cease to exist.

        Lots more differences, but let's work with the top one first. Thoughts?
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        (Original post by impressionist89)
        I'm a straight male. I just can't fathom how people can be gay. I mean, the idea of kissing another man is utterly disgusting. Whenever I see a gay man, I always think of how they'd kiss another man and the anal sex and I mean, it just grosses me out. I don't hate gay people, but I'm very uncomfortable around them.
        I really want to get over this though. Any suggestions?
        As long as you do not swear at them, beat them up...etc and you just let them be, what is wrong with not being comfortable with two men kissing? :s I fail to see why you want to change how you feel. Just do not treat them differently, that is all.

        You could also maybe make friends with a homosexual? then you can have an insight into his way of life, and maybe then you will see how gays and hetros have a very similar life style outside of the bedroom, making you a but more comfortable to be around them? Your opinion of homosexuality doesn't have to change, just do not do anything that harms them in anyway what so ever.
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        (Original post by crazylemon)
        Do not get me started on those posters. I hate them.

        Before you decide I am a homophobe despite my previous record I am infact, Bi.

        Those posters piss me off.
        I'm straight. Those posters still piss me off.
        The poster makes out as if others are not entitled to their opinion.
       
       
       
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