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    Virgin - A lot
    21.99%
    Virgin - Not much
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    Non-Virgin - It did mean a lot
    11.20%
    Non-virgin - Not much
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    I see it as more of a barrier than anything else...I'll be much less worried about sex once I get the first time out of the way.
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    (Original post by Peachykeen09)
    I'm still a virgin and fine with that.
    in fact, i don't think anyone deserves to take it now or for long time because guys right now are just complete ********sss.
    I could not agree more.
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    (Original post by HotIce)
    Losing it will be a BIG thing to me, so it gotta be the right person.
    I think most female virgins feel exactly the same as you and I agree you should lose it with someone that you feel is the right person.

    That said I also believe that after losing it over 90% of them are like, “WTF was I thinking”.
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    (Original post by Mm_Minty)
    I see it as more of a barrier than anything else...I'll be much less worried about sex once I get the first time out of the way.
    Just like everthing else in life, possibly; meeting people, school, interviews, etc?
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    Tbh I wasn't planning on losing it for a while, but lost it in a ONS and it didn't bother me at all. I'm happy I lost it as it makes sex easier now that it's gone, but it doesn't bother me at all that I lost it in a ONS instead of in a proper relationship.
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    It mattered less to me than to the bloke who was taking it :p:
    I'm glad I lost it to a partner who I loved, and who loved me and I had a long meaningful relationship with. I don't regret it at all, even though we're not together any more.

    I just don't think it's a massive thing. I mean, yes, it's an experience and it's important to trust the person - a bad experience can damage you/sex for life. But I don't think it's a really big thing to actually lose your virginity. It's just a bit of rumpy pumpy....
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    (Original post by Yawn11)
    I was born a virgin.

    And as soon I as I got out my mum's vagina, I knew I had to lose it as soon as possible.
    And this is why I took away your virginity at 6 months old.
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    Loads of virginity threads around recently.
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    (Original post by fredscarecrow)
    It mattered less to me than to the bloke who was taking it :p:
    I'm glad I lost it to a partner who I loved, and who loved me and I had a long meaningful relationship with. I don't regret it at all, even though we're not together any more.

    I just don't think it's a massive thing. I mean, yes, it's an experience and it's important to trust the person - a bad experience can damage you/sex for life. But I don't think it's a really big thing to actually lose your virginity. It's just a bit of rumpy pumpy....
    Any words of advice you'd give to a guy/girl who are going to lose it?
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    (Original post by trooper6)
    I think most female virgins feel exactly the same as you and I agree you should lose it with someone that you feel is the right person.

    That said I also believe that after losing it over 90% of them are like, “WTF was I thinking”.
    I probably will but am not there yet to think that.
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    Not much. It irritated me a bit and I was glad to be shot of it.
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    (Original post by ChestHair&SmallTum)
    Thanks

    Do you think I should go on top or tell her to? Or just ask her at the time what she feels more comfortable with, though I don't want to put her on the spot.

    Tell
    her to? lol.
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    (Original post by nai_)
    You should go on top if she's nervous, it's a lot to ask of a girl to know what to do on top if it's their first time! Slightly less so for a guy on top (although being female I might be slightly biased on the matter) but I wouldnt have had a clue (and would have been terrified) if the guy had asked me to go on top first time!
    ditto this completely.

    Losing mine didn't mean much to me, just kind of like a tick in the box.
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    (Original post by ChestHair&SmallTum)
    Any words of advice you'd give to a guy/girl who are going to lose it?
    Take it slowly...all the usual advice.
    But the most important? Laugh about it. Don't make it into some kind of serious event which has huge expectations. Things will go wrong, it might not even work [trust me, it happens :p:]. Condoms might not go on right first time, and chances are there might be some weird noises etc. If you can't both laugh about it, you're both going to be in such a state of nerves that it won't be pleasurable.
    It's meant to be fun and enjoyable, so make it so =]
    Just my 2 cents.
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    It did mean a lot to me, so I waited until I was in a relationship with someone I love and knew I was ready. He never pushed me to make love to him, and when we did, we both lost our virginity to each other, which made it more special As a girl, it did hurt quite a lot, but he was gentle and made sure I was ok and happy to go through with it, which I think made itpossibly the best pain I've ever felt tbh :P It brought us closer to each other and we were both comfortable with each other Though when I bled a bit the next morning he was actually surprised and apologised cos he didn't know that could happen :P

    but yeah, just make sure the two are comfortable with each other, and don't rush things, whisper to each other, and take it from there :P i think it comes pretty naturally to be honest (pardon the pun :P) as long as the two people involved understand the situation if both/one are a virgin, and respect the fact that it's the first time and it could hurt the girl, though not necessarily :P
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    It doesn't mean loads, but it means enough that I'd like to wait for the right person. But if I lost it on a ONS it wouldn't be the end of the world. Just think it will be better with someone I trust at the end of the day
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    (Original post by missygeorgia)

    Tell
    her to? lol.
    Ask!

    Should I ask her to? Or should I 'volunteer'?

    My english sounds terrible. :facepalm:
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    (Original post by ChestHair&SmallTum)
    Ask!

    Should I ask her to? Or should I 'volunteer'?

    My english sounds terrible. :facepalm:
    I very, very much doubt she'll want to go on top first time. Don't ask her to.
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    (Original post by fist of the south star)
    Whether girls admit it or not; it means something. I mean why else would they be born with them?

    Because it's impossible to be born with sexual experience, maybe? :facepalm:
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    (Original post by missygeorgia)
    I very, very much doubt she'll want to go on top first time. Don't ask her to.
    Okay, me on top then!
 
 
 
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