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    (Original post by pinkmonkey3)
    wait for him to call you. ignore a text or two. start being busy with your life. if he wants you enough he will make an effort. if he doesn't, then he won't. and so make him realise you are wanted elsewhere, and realise what he had.

    i'm kindof in the same position, the xbox is prioritised higher than me. and all of a sudden i'm the one texing him and behaving all needy and embarrassingly clingy. but i love him grr.
    Hahaha, yes I hate the love, it turns me into some out of control loser. I have never been like this in a relationship before, although I think he's just a different sort of guy. My other two ex's weren't bothered about showing their emotions at all. I think he's just a bit stubborn and I'm not used to the lack of attention. If I ever find the mother ****er who invented FIFA... lol

    I'm trying all this advice, and the not texting/calling is already going down a treat. Got something which resembled an apology last night when I seemed off in my text backs and I've gotten two texts out of him today already... I'll give it another half hour before I will reward him with a response! :P God, I feel so heartless now, but at least I'm getting somewhere!
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    I have not text back to him today and he's just called asking why, I said I'd been busy - which I have. And he's just offered to take me for lunch, shopping then dinner out when we next see one another. I'm never texting first again if this is the result I have achieved after one night! Thanks for the great advice everyone xxx
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    (Original post by serena-xx)
    Hahaha, yes I hate the love, it turns me into some out of control loser. I have never been like this in a relationship before, although I think he's just a different sort of guy. My other two ex's weren't bothered about showing their emotions at all. I think he's just a bit stubborn and I'm not used to the lack of attention. If I ever find the mother ****er who invented FIFA... lol

    I'm trying all this advice, and the not texting/calling is already going down a treat. Got something which resembled an apology last night when I seemed off in my text backs and I've gotten two texts out of him today already... I'll give it another half hour before I will reward him with a response! :P God, I feel so heartless now, but at least I'm getting somewhere!
    yeah i'm not used to lack of attention either. seeing as my guy was so attentive for the first few months. now it's like a chore to give me a text. i'm an out of control loser too lol. that's good, hope it works out.
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    OP, he is out of order. My partner doesn't have a UK license or car so I always travel to him, and he will contribute towards my fuel. I would never expect him to always trek it to me on public transport when I can be with him faster and in the comfort of my own car by going to him.

    He lives with his FIFA friend so they have plenty of time to socialise and play when you aren't around. When you are there he should be spending him time with you!

    Telling you he loves you isn't enough, his actions are speaking louder than his words.

    I think you would be better off without him, you deserve better, sorry honey x
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    (Original post by serena-xx)
    Well I have tried to get involved in it... we had a master plan that he was going to train me up until I was amazing then we were going to trick all our friends out of loads of money when I beat them all.. but then they started playing a season and cups etc so I they dont want me to play anymore because I'll ruin it lol... obv I get it. I'm a girl so I was pretty awful. And if I just pop round after uni I won't make a fuss if they play because we don't have plans but I don't like it when he'll be like, baaabe please come over I wanna see you. Or if I have stayed over and he'll ask me to stay another night and then do that.. its a bit like, why did I bother, you know?

    I feel I may have portrayed myself as a bit of a whiney ***** here - I mean I am girly; I'm a cheerleader and practically live in topshop, but I also love cars, football and porn so I am interested in the things he likes, and will enjoy discussing them, but its kind of awkward when I can't be involved in something. I have a few times watched their fifa battles intently and got quite into it and vocalised my support but then if one of them misses they'll be like, 'oh you were distracting us' hence why now I just sort of sit there lol. I mean I completely understand the effect of fifa so I'd never make him stop playing (although I'm more of a COD girl myself), but if he asks to spend time with me I wish he would. Its just annoying when I could be at home studying or something else.. if you understand where I'm coming from?
    He decides to play fifa when you could both play split-screen online black ops???
    There's something wrong with him :holmes:.

    I wouldn't go cold on him though, it might be that he just doesn't know how to totally relax with you - hence playing with his mate, or he just doesn't know what he's doing. Blanking him will make him feel even more awkward around you, and might just exacerbate the problem..
    So yeah, he's a bit of a tool, but who knows if it's intentional or not?
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    (Original post by Drumzilla)
    well if you pay for petrol :dontknow: plus when its really snowy it'a just as dangerous for him to drive to get you

    and also FIFA > grumpy women, so maybe you should play him, get involved instead of pouting on the side lines
    eejit.
    whats the point in going over to seee your boyfriend and them not making any effort with you?
    i complained about it to my bf when h was just sitting on his laptop or playing Halo all day, but i did it in a joking way so that it didnt turn into a huge row, it's nothing to do with the girl being grumpy, it's about the girl feeling like she's wasting her time there.


    Serena (i think that was you name lol) i agree both with the people who say talk to him, and with the people who say just leave it down to actions.

    Tallk to him about it, otherwise how is he going to know something is wrong and that he has to buck his ideas up?, then leave it and if it starts slipping again (leave this for a few days/however long you like) just to make sure it's him going back to his own ways and not him just having an off day, and then do the "ignoring him" bit.

    hope this helps
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    (Original post by elldeegee)
    eejit.
    whats the point in going over to seee your boyfriend and them not making any effort with you?
    i complained about it to my bf when h was just sitting on his laptop or playing Halo all day, but i did it in a joking way so that it didnt turn into a huge row, it's nothing to do with the girl being grumpy, it's about the girl feeling like she's wasting her time there.
    you missed the point, i was saying if she went over of her own accord and then proceeded to grump that he was playing FIFA he's not going to stop playing FIFA to be grumped at.
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    (Original post by serena-xx)
    I have not text back to him today and he's just called asking why, I said I'd been busy - which I have. And he's just offered to take me for lunch, shopping then dinner out when we next see one another. I'm never texting first again if this is the result I have achieved after one night! Thanks for the great advice everyone xxx
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    (Original post by serena-xx)
    Yes, good advice thanks. I don't like to just assume things. He's quite set in his ways about certain things and I am quite affectionate, just because of the way I've been brought up (I just assume everyone is like me haha) so yeah maybe he just doesn't express emotion that well?
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    Yep that could be the case too so it could have just been lack of communication. I get what you mean, but yes everyone show it differently and because we're so used to the way we show it we ignore the ways that someone could be showing some care or emotions. Spend more time and you'll pick up if its just the way it is or something wrong. It's okay =]
 
 
 
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