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    (Original post by shinytoy)

    anyway. yea, i think its totally wrong for another girl to perform private dances for him, even if it is a naked dance. i dont get why he is doing this.
    If only i knew why!!
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    why do you think. Its quite obvious isn't it? dump his ass
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    i dunno- if you love him, maybe its worth sorting it out. maybe you should go out with the girls to a male strip club, take some photos and have a laugh, then go back and show them to him. see how the boot is like on the other foot.

    however personally i doubt he'd dump you for a stripper - they seem to be mindless hoes and if he is jealous with other guys thinking of getting you a drink, what would he be like with a stripper-gf grinding her naked arse on a random guys crotch every night?

    i mean, i dont think its cos he doesnt love you, i think its more that he likes to see variety. i doubt he'd do anything for the above reason. have you talked to him about it>? maybe if he has to choose between your feelings and his strip clubs? or maybe a compromise - he only goes once a month and no private dances.only he can truly tell you why he likes it. i mean to me privte dances is like prostituton. guys on this thread - why do you ike it?
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    (Original post by BombShell)
    , you just need to sit down and have a good chat with him and be honest with each other. If he can't do that then he's not worth it.

    Good luck hun xx

    He's not really the sit down and chat kinda guy. Maybe its me and the way i talk to him about things. He just wont want to talk about it anymore and thats it! His foot is down!
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    what if he says "im glad you have fun, im off too now bbl!"

    ~ most likely thing he'll say with what hes up to.
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    (Original post by Mangaroo)
    why do you think. Its quite obvious isn't it? dump his ass
    no explain what you think is goin on...
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    (Original post by shinytoy)
    i mean to me privte dances is like prostituton. guys on this thread - why do you ike it?
    harsh reality has just hit me
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    I doubt he'd ever dump you for a girl he meets in a strip club - I'm sure he goes there to get away from the idea of relationships in general n just leer and attractive, naked girls. Most guys watch porn and although this may seem worse because the girls aren't just visual fantasies, he goes to the strip club with the same intent. Maybe you could join him and if you feel uncomfortable, just talk to him about it and tell him that you think it's a bit strange that he feels the need to go to strip clubs when he has you.
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    i thikn nothing is going on - a jealous guy is hardly going to have a stripper as a gf.

    if he wont talk about it, wont compromise and he knows its upsetting you, it says alot about how much he values you compared to how much he values strippers. maybe you've done all you can. the fact you've made this thread seems like you are looking for us to say its ok for you to dump him and that we agree that what he is doing in wrong. so in your heart i think maybe you feel its right to let him go. maybe he'll come back if he matures. but right now he is being totally selfish and hurtful, and you have every right to be upset.
    most of the guys i know have never been to one. yet this guy is frequenting them alot. i mean first strip clubs, then private lap dances, then what - prostitutes? i mean he's gonna need worse and worse to get the same impact. perhaps just leave him to sort his head. a guy that values porn over his gf has issues
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    ~ ok sorry to say this, but if a person who has been in a relationship for three years with someone goes to a strip club for a private dance and wont stop even after you talk to him about it shows TOTAL lack of respect for the partner. Its immature and he needs to be taught a lesson. I would think he could be going for a few reasons:

    1) hes bored with his relationship and needs a little extra spice which he gets from the strip club
    2) hes not really going to a strip club but is in actual fact superman and has quit tv to work for the UK's new fbi alternative SUPERHEROTOSAVEOURASSES corporation.


    ~~ either you want to save your relationship before he looks for someone else by spicing up the relationship asking him about what he feels, tough **** if he doesnt want to talk, you can make him if you try hard enough. OR you find some kryptonite ~ (or of course break it up)

    { it may seem a bit radical that it means so much, but his mates have the sense to stop going, after listening to their girlfriends and giving them the respect they deserve ---- you shouldnt have to put it up with it, but you might want to save such a relationship }
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    i mean to me privte dances is like prostituton
    Why?

    Where is the sex??

    It's a dance for money!
    Not sex for money.
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    (Original post by chrissy909)
    I doubt he'd ever dump you for a girl he meets in a strip club - I'm sure he goes there to get away from the idea of relationships in general n just leer and attractive, naked girls. Most guys watch porn and although this may seem worse because the girls aren't just visual fantasies, he goes to the strip club with the same intent. Maybe you could join him and if you feel uncomfortable, just talk to him about it and tell him that you think it's a bit strange that he feels the need to go to strip clubs when he has you.

    its not that often and its always with his mates.... i just dont like the idea that he has paid himself for a couple of private dances.

    And see's nothing wrong with it .... nothings going to happen?? right?
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    (Original post by GLaMouR)
    harsh reality has just hit me
    sorry girl, but its kinda true. i mean, out of context say your best mate told you she had just found out her bf was drunk at a party and went back to a girls room where they spent the evening together with her naked and grinding her crotch on him, you'd tell her to dump him wouldnt you?

    thats cheating isnt it?
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    (Original post by Mangaroo)
    ~ ok sorry to say this, but if a person who has been in a relationship for three years with someone goes to a strip club for a private dance and wont stop even after you talk to him about it shows TOTAL lack of respect for the partner. Its immature and he needs to be taught a lesson. I would think he could be going for a few reasons:

    1) hes bored with his relationship and needs a little extra spice which he gets from the strip club
    2) hes not really going to a strip club but is in actual fact superman and has quit tv to work for the UK's new fbi alternative SUPERHEROTOSAVEOURASSES corporation.


    ~~ either you want to save your relationship before he looks for someone else by spicing up the relationship asking him about what he feels, tough **** if he doesnt want to talk, you can make him if you try hard enough. OR you find some kryptonite ~ (or of course break it up)

    { it may seem a bit radical that it means so much, but his mates have the sense to stop going, after listening to their girlfriends and giving them the respect they deserve ---- you shouldnt have to put it up with it, but you might want to save such a relationship }

    He's already paid to go on this trip this weekend i cant exactly stop him this time??
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    is a few quid more valuable then saving your relationship?
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    (Original post by kacas)
    Why?

    Where is the sex??

    It's a dance for money!
    Not sex for money.
    yes but as i mentioned, my friend worked at a very high profile one in london and said that extra favours pay quite alot and are often offered. it depends on the club, but how do you know what she is doing? and both stripping and prostitution are exploiting naked bodies and mens sexual urges to make money
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    (Original post by Mangaroo)
    is a few quid more valuable then saving your relationship?
    yes this is a good point.
    if he sees how much its hurt you then he wont go. or he'll take you with him, not go out to the clubs and instead take you out every night to make up for it.
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    (Original post by kacas)
    Why?

    Where is the sex??

    It's a dance for money!
    Not sex for money.
    its still selling your body
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    (Original post by shinytoy)
    sorry girl, but its kinda true. i mean, out of context say your best mate told you she had just found out her bf was drunk at a party and went back to a girls room where they spent the evening together with her naked and grinding her crotch on him, you'd tell her to dump him wouldnt you?

    thats cheating isnt it?
    but thats doing it freely

    he paid her .... its her job right?
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    (Original post by Mangaroo)
    is a few quid more valuable then saving your relationship?

    he goes every year though its a sports thing.... event though theres no sports involved though just drinking clubs bars and strip joints. ANd its about 100 quid?
 
 
 
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