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    Argh-girls like you make me ashamed to be female! Why do you feel that you need a man to 'complete' you? You just perpetrate all the needy and insecure female stereotypes that hold back women in our society!
    Why are you posting anonymously unless you're ashamed of your own opinion?! I really don't think I'm holding back women in society, if you feel that I'm impinging on your future then please explain why. If I had a v close friend or a family member that was there for me as much then I'd be equally happy. I may be needy and insecure but I don't buy loads of clothes/makeup get my hair done all the time, go out on the pull, read trashy magazines + think my role in life is to please men. It's only human to want someone or something to rely on emotionally, I'm pretty independent in other ways + looking forward to career I can put my all into but I'm not so much of a hard-assed feminist that I won't take support when I need it. Sorry if that didn't make much sense.
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    am single and happy and quite frankly i dont wana boyfriend at the moment that not because am ugly or fat its because i wana settle down with someone who i truly love and care for and who loves me.
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    I'm not so much of a hard-assed feminist that I won't take support when I need it. Sorry if that didn't make much sense.
    It doesn't, ignoring good advice has nothing to do with feminism.
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    It doesn't, ignoring good advice has nothing to do with feminism.
    And what advice did anonymous #3 actually give? None. She just had a go at her, and didn't offer any help as to how to OP could stop feeling like she does.

    Sorry to keep on at this one a bit but posts like #3's really annoy me because they serve absolutely no purpose whatsoever. There are plenty of people on this thread who don't feel like the OP who haven't felt the need to condemn how she feels, rather they offer help. If anything in this thread makes me feel 'ashamed to be female' it's *****y, over-zealous feminists who can't see when there's a time for arguing your point about stereotypes and a time for helping out. Neg rep away
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    What an Easter day, now feel like my head is stuck in a cage, my boyfriend came over last night + we broke up, at 2am after 3 hours of crying a lot + talking v little n just holding eachother he went home. At 6am he woke me up calling me and saying he loves me and wants to make it work. My brain wasn't working after 4 hours sleep and still isn't. Feel really angry cos I don't know whether it can work + I spent so long going through everything in my head, trying to be strong enough to let go of him and now he wants to start again- knowing that we'll have to split up before I go to Uni. I can't decide. Started thinking being single would be scary but an opportunity to sort myself out. F***! Seeing him later.
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    (Original post by Sarky)
    This is the first time i have been single since i was 17 and it is hard. All of my freinds are loved up and spending time with them seems to be rubbing my nose in it. But i know its for the best and i need to get used to being alone, and be confident in my own company. I could go and get someone else to block out how painful it is to have lost my ex, but that wouldn't be fair on them or me. It is hard being alone and not having someone there, but when i'm a stronger person in myself i'll be able to attract someone who is more likely to be suited to my needs, and i'll be a better girlfriend because i won't be so needy.
    I'm in a similar situation I think. I was with my bf for 3 1/2 years & we broke up in Nov. At first, although I really missed him, I loved the freedom of not having to think about any1 else & just go where I wanted. Then got a bit messed around by another guy & realised I missed having someone who cares. I was a bit lonely at uni which made it worse. Then i found out my ex was with someone else (& engaged!) & most ppl at uni seemed to be in relationships.I almost got into another relationship but suddenly realised I didn't want to give up my new found freedom for him! He was a nice guy, but not 'the one' or anything & I decided i'd rather b single. I want to get married & sometimes I want to meet that guy now, then I think hold on, I've got years to be in a relationship, might as well make the most of being single now! I still really miss my ex & regret breaking up at times & it does seem like I won't find any1 better but deep down I know I will. We broke up for a reason, he was a great guy but we weren't right for each other forever. I mite have to wait a long time but I'm gonna try mmy hardest to enjoy the wait!
 
 
 
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