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I think the key difference between photos of models and photos of his exes is that one is far more 'achievable'. It's not uncommon for guys to have pictures of that type on their phones (though normally 13-year-olds or people that are dicks), but normally as a fantasy. And those sorts of images should be just that, a fantasy, i.e. unachievable. Everyone has their opinion of 'a person who's outrageously attractive who I'd have sex with if they came asking', but once you start grouping past partners in that area it becomes a bit dodgy as the potential is there for them to go back and start something again. So OP, as others have said, I'd be wary - maybe it's not worth ending a relationship over but if it seems like he's back after them again you might have to confront him over it.
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Naked models - wouldn't bother me.
Naked ex? - personally, not acceptable.

I mean, come on, I wouldn't even be too happy seeing clothed photos of his ex on his phone, let alone naked ones. He probably would not appreciate me having topless or clothed photos of my ex either.

But at the end of the day it's up to how you feel and whether you're okay with it.
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My boyfriend is a typical 24 year old guy, he believes he is a lad when he is most certainly not at all. He goes out drinkin every weekend partying being stupid him and his guy friends talk about seex constantly blah blah im hoping he will grow up as im 5 years younger yet i feel more mature than him by far.

I saw on his phone hes got like the topless models photos of them fully naked with their boobs out hanging over cars and I dont mind this at all because they are just naked models they arnt anybody personal although it makes me feel a bit **** as there all big boobed and pretty and im not he must eaisly have 100s if these photos and he doesnt hide them or anything from me. But what im really bothered about is that he has a 'section' on his phone where he can have private photos which need a password to get onto it. Ive seen it once when he put a funny photo of me in it ( i was dressed as a giant pumpkin nothing dodgey) and i saw about 20 plus photos of a women fully nude posing over the bed nd stuff, there were also photos of girls posing in their knickers topless in their mirrors so clearly not models. The other day he was clearing out his room and i reconsised the girl who was naked from one of his photos was his ex girlfriend of 3 years, i know that she was sexually very open as he alwqays bangs on about what she did/ does, and the other girl is the one he met on holiday and had a fling with. I know wever been together over a year so i shouldnt care at all but its really upset me im not confident in my body i hate how i look so wouldnt fell confident posing like that i also dont morally think its rights taking naked photos of youself which is just my opnion i dont slate anybody who does that at all.


he doesnt know i have seen it but is it ok for him to have this
It isn't really a moral question. The important thing is do you feel comfortable with him having these images? If not then maybe you could discuss how you feel about this with him and see if he would consider deleting them.

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click 'edit photo', go to the little icon of a t-shirt, enlarge it, and put it on the girl. Repeat as many times as there are nakey girlies.
Better yet, put your face on all of them.
He must understand you have to compromise on some things in a relationship.
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It was all seeming not that bad until I got to the naked ex part. Ask him to delete them, he doesn't need photos of his ex
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I personally wouldn't have a problem with it, although I would ask my partner why they still have the photos.

However, it'll be much better for you to think for yourself, rather than having people on here telling you what to do.
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Personally, I think that having one or two photos of models on your phone is understandable for someone who is of his age, however having a whole load of them and having photos like that of his ex girlfriends is pretty wrong. If it were me and my boyfriend I would talk to him and tell him that you understand that having one or two is a 'manly' thing however, you draw the line at ex-girlfriends. You also said that he talks openly about how 'willing' his ex-girlfriend was, I think that's a little weird, I mean it would make me uncomfortable but in the end it's all down to you. You know you're relationship better than anyone else on tsr and elsewhere.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
My boyfriend is a typical 24 year old guy, he believes he is a lad when he is most certainly not at all.
Wrong!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
My boyfriend is a typical 24 year old guy, he believes he is a lad when he is most certainly not at all. He goes out drinkin every weekend partying being stupid him and his guy friends talk about seex constantly blah blah im hoping he will grow up as im 5 years younger yet i feel more mature than him by far.

I saw on his phone hes got like the topless models photos of them fully naked with their boobs out hanging over cars and I dont mind this at all because they are just naked models they arnt anybody personal although it makes me feel a bit **** as there all big boobed and pretty and im not he must eaisly have 100s if these photos and he doesnt hide them or anything from me. But what im really bothered about is that he has a 'section' on his phone where he can have private photos which need a password to get onto it. Ive seen it once when he put a funny photo of me in it ( i was dressed as a giant pumpkin nothing dodgey) and i saw about 20 plus photos of a women fully nude posing over the bed nd stuff, there were also photos of girls posing in their knickers topless in their mirrors so clearly not models. The other day he was clearing out his room and i reconsised the girl who was naked from one of his photos was his ex girlfriend of 3 years, i know that she was sexually very open as he alwqays bangs on about what she did/ does, and the other girl is the one he met on holiday and had a fling with. I know wever been together over a year so i shouldnt care at all but its really upset me im not confident in my body i hate how i look so wouldnt fell confident posing like that i also dont morally think its rights taking naked photos of youself which is just my opnion i dont slate anybody who does that at all.


he doesnt know i have seen it but is it ok for him to have this
Why is he banging on to you about what his ex used to do? He sounds like a tool!!! I would certainly be bothered by this and if he cares about the way you feel he will do something about this.

In terms of naked models I think that's a grey area [personally I find guys who keep that kind of stuff even on their phones are kind of seedy] and it's up to what you're comfortable with. You can't force him to do one thing or another but I feel like if he cared about you enough he could surely sacrifice a couple of soft porn pics for you?

Look at it this way if you had naked pics of guys on your phone and he wasn't happy about it you'd get rid of them right?
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He sounds great.


And you're with him.



So...






Yeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaah.
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I think you've answered your own question. A high proportion of the male population are going to have photographs/videos of naked girls on their phones/computers. Not that I do it myself, but many of my mates do. That is the reality. But I think that naked ex-girlfriends is too much, and it is unreasonable. Tell this second rate to punk to get in order with what is acceptable.
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Sounds just like my ex,

Theres a few things this could mean:

Hes not over his ex to a point where h still wants to be with them and be sexual.

He could be still chatting her up and such and still involving himself with her and sending nudes etc.

If hes anything like my ex was, and you approach him about it hel turn the blame onto you and say your being stupid. and becuase your younger hel think he can almost take advantage of that and pull the wool over your eyes. Using your age as a exsuse for your 'lack of experience' in a relationship and not knowing him but hel claim to know you better than yourself.

If im honest sweetheart something is probably going on especally if hes doing it so blatently.
I'd do one.
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I do not think this is ok because he with u not them and it is a sign of respect
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I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Ive seen over 300 photos of naked pics of models or insta girls in a hidden album, I haven’t told him I’ve seen it. I’m trippen. Should i be or is it normal for that many?
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Show it to his mom
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