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    (Original post by Jacob :))
    You can have that without your parents being virgins at marriage. Surely you shouldn't even know what a virgin is until at least 12 anyway.
    From my background, the social stigma will great. I can't imagine the though of my parents fornicating with different people before marriage.
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    (Original post by Type 052D)
    From my background, the social stigma will great. I can't imagine the though of my parents fornicating with different people before marriage.
    Then get rid of the social stigma. It's the people causing the stigma who are in the wrong.
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    (Original post by Jacob :))
    Then get rid of the social stigma. It's the people causing the stigma who are in the wrong.
    Your quite a bit radical, aren't you O_o!?
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    (Original post by Type 052D)
    Your quite a bit radical, aren't you O_o!?
    If you mean I want to get rid of oppression, discrimination and authoritarianism then yes.
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    (Original post by Type 052D)
    Your quite a bit radical, aren't you O_o!?
    Do you live in a cave?
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    (Original post by Type 052D)
    healthy nucleus Family.
    Surrounded by Aunty Electron and Uncle Proton, you do of course also have Cousin Neutron. Ah Tradition!

    Completely digressed there...

    I am sure you can get numbing lube or something OP, that can stop you from coming so quickly

    Or just tell her she is so damn pretty you can't help yourself?
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    Honestly, ideally a guy would last longer than that. But no man lasts an ideal amount of time! I've had sex plenty of times where it's gone on a while and I've ended up feeling a bit bored and have had to sort of pretend I'm enjoying it still out of politeness because I want the guy to get his. My first sexual partner didn't last that long but I never minded that much because we could just wait a bit and go again if we wanted. there was one time that he came literally as soon as he got inside, but we just laughed about it and it wasn't an issue at all. So in all I would prefer a guy to not last long enough than to last too long. Then at least she's enjoying everything that you do rather than waiting for it to finish.

    The other thing is, you may find that you find you last longer during sex itself than during other stuff, particularly with condoms (and you can get ones that are slightly numbing which might help), and you will probably last longer with age as well. By the sounds of things you are good at the orgasms which is far far more important, anyway. I really can't imagine this issue being a dealbreaker at all, particularly if you are both as happy together as you imply. But communication is really important in a relationship so don't just bottle it up and let it come between you. As someone else said, it can be something you work on as a team.

    Basically, I would suggest bringing her to orgasm before you have sex. Also, talk about it beforehand, mostly because then she will be able to reassure you and it won't be weighing on you so much (which I say not from a "it'll make it worse" point of view but simply because you should be able to enjoy sex with your girlfriend!).
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    (Original post by Blind Ferret)
    What about having a tactical-****? Will that work? Personally, I like to knock one out about 30-45mins before she comes round then when we get down to it, I'm OK.

    Not a longterm solution but it will help as you're trying to get into it.
    Does that not make the sex less pleasurable at all?

    I think a good solution would be to change positions a lot - that certainly affects how long I last. E.g. if she only rides me on top (in my opinion, the best position) then I will last under 10 minutes with absolute certainty. But if we keep changing it up then I'll last too long and not enjoy it as much.
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    (Original post by maskofsanity)
    Do you live in a cave?
    What do you mean?
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    (Original post by Caramarley)
    Surrounded by Aunty Electron and Uncle Proton, you do of course also have Cousin Neutron. Ah Tradition!

    Completely digressed there...

    I am sure you can get numbing lube or something OP, that can stop you from coming so quickly

    Or just tell her she is so damn pretty you can't help yourself?
    Do you disagree with me?
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    (Original post by Type 052D)
    Do you disagree with me?
    A nuclear family is not my cup of tea so yes I guess so. You don't have to be in a nuclear family to have stability, and you don't have to have retained your virginity to have a great family if that suits you fine, if that doesn't suit you - also fine


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    Watch porn n*gga
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    (Original post by Type 052D)
    What do you mean?
    I think what they mean is, if you think that view is "radical" and that yours is one held by most these days, you might be a bit backwards.
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    I would say, don't be too worried about getting intimate with her and try not to overthink - take it off your mind - the psychological barrier is the largest one. The more you do it, the more you will probably end up lasting and the more you will learn about each other.

    Also, if she is literally perfect, I am sure she is very kind and understanding, and understands this might happen the first few times and won't mind. And as others have pointed out, it isn't as huge of a deal for us girls - we don't usually come from penetration anyway, it feels good, but it's better if it is short and sweet than long, boring and sore (much, much better in fact). If you can please her with your hands and your mouth, then that is already fantastic, so you really shouldn't worry too much about the sex, and hopefully when you feel and realise that you don't have to be under so much "performance" pressure, you will probably find you last longer.

    Also, stopping and starting when you feel it might 'happen' apparently works a treat too.
    Anyway, don't be scared!!
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    You can pleasure a girl in other ways than just penetrative sex.

    Mutual masturbation, or oral sex..?

    If all else fails, when you start to reach the point of ejaculation, just think of your gran.
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    (Original post by Kabloomybuzz)
    I think what they mean is, if you think that view is "radical" and that yours is one held by most these days, you might be a bit backwards.
    LOL! Most of the world still regard this ''view' while Anglo-Saxon nations have low sexual conducts and safety restriction. Go India or China or West/East Africa.
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    (Original post by Type 052D)
    LOL! Most of the world still regard this ''view' while Anglo-Saxon nations have low sexual conducts and safety restriction. Go India or China or West/East Africa.
    Because, there are absolutely no STI's, or AID's epidemics in any of these countries!

    I am pretty sure these 'Anglo-Saxon nations' you appear to disagree with, have better sexual health measures, readily available contraception, etc

    Just because your parents might not have screwed others before they got married doesn't make it right for everyone.

    'LOW SAFETY CONDUCT AND SAFETY RESTRICTION'

    RAPE i.e. the forcing of somebody to have sex with you, is MUCH more prevalent in the countries you mentioned. I would much rather live in a country like England, than India where rape is the most common crime against women.

    I am also sure that rape is much more dangerous and less restricted than two consenting peoples.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_statistics
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    (Original post by Caramarley)
    Because, there are absolutely no STI's, or AID's epidemics in any of these countries!

    I am pretty sure these 'Anglo-Saxon nations' you appear to disagree with, have better sexual health measures, readily available contraception, etc

    Just because your parents might not have screwed others before they got married doesn't make it right for everyone.

    'LOW SAFETY CONDUCT AND SAFETY RESTRICTION'

    RAPE i.e. the forcing of somebody to have sex with you, is MUCH more prevalent in the countries you mentioned. I would much rather live in a country like England, than India where rape is the most common crime against women.

    I am also sure that rape is much more dangerous and less restricted than two consenting peoples.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_statistics
    OK, China, India and Africa is an bad example. What about the Islamic world, eh? They tend to have the lowest STD rates. I mean Sweden (9 million people) have more AIDS than S.Arabia (30 million)
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    dude you're doing it wrong the first round usually dont last long its the rounds after which you should be able to last long in. There are some condoms that help last longer. Also dont just go in and out in and out until you *** stop if you feel you're about to *** but keep your thing inside her then carry on when your ready. Also take it out and try different positions.
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    (Original post by Type 052D)
    OK, China, India and Africa is an bad example. What about the Islamic world, eh? They tend to have the lowest STD rates. I mean Sweden (9 million people) have more AIDS than S.Arabia (30 million)
    I won't argue that Islamic countries tend to have lessened rates of STI's, if you have the evidence to back that up.

    It doesn't necessarily mean that a country is any better, The Quran advocates a husband taking advantage of his wife and compares it to plowing a field. Female oppression is still prevalent in these countries, and I really don't think anybody has the right to dictate their views on a sex life, personally.

    I am not a virgin and I have never had an STI because I am cautious. Protection is easy enough to get hold of.

    If you want to remain a virgin until marriage, that is fantastic. This doesn't give you some right to tell the OP to not have sex if he wants to, it really isn't your decision.
 
 
 
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