Why do boys brought up by single mothers often have LESS respect for women?

Nice try blaming single mothers for everything.

A lot of fathers cannot deal with the responsibility of having children and abandon them. How do I know? My father abandoned my mother while she was pregnant with me, left the country and hasnt even bothered to contact me as an adult.

I take serious issue with people like you. There are bad mothers and bad fathers. Every case is different.

I think you're right about the "unbalanced" thing in that single mothers often seem to discipline their children (especially sons even when they also have daughters) less. When I was growing up it was actually my Dad who was the soft one and spoiled me, but my parents are together and several single mothers seem to give their sons everything (both in being too nice and too many things) they want purely to "overcompensate" for their dads not being around, when perhaps sometimes tough love would be better. But sometimes the best option for people is to divorce unless you're talking about why they got married in the first place (though this is a whole separate topic I guess).


I know one guy on my course who is an only child with a single mother and he gets about £100 a week in allowance money off his mum on top of a full student loan, grant and bursary, most of which ends up with the local drug dealer (as well as perhaps too much "love and care" as she talks to him like a baby though he's over 20 and he regularly gossips about his friends on the phone to her!) He isn't particularly smart or talented at anything but his arrogance and attitude towards people (especially girls) is amazing.

Why should it be a different topic ? You have to get married first before divorce - one is indelibly connected to the other. The real issue is did the parents marry without love and for other reasons like politics, power, no wanting to be alone, it was the thing to do, to prove they could get someone...

This is selfish behaviour and rather evil if I may say since involves bringing in a new life without properly caring for it ( yes they prolly knew in the back of their heads they would not last).

So I am afraid the two are very connected.

You still don't / don't want to understand, the SM is overcompensating - yes but not necessarily for lack of a father (you can still bring up a child well single handed if you really want to) but our of GUILT for knowingly making him fatherless.

Yeah sometimes, if you go to the root of the problem. Makes my blood boil when people know they won't last but "want a baby because they feel like it" anyway. But the single mother doesn't necessarily "make" someone fatherless (e.g. if they had a kid in a shaky relationship); what if you found out your husband was cheating and decided to leave him or something?

Would be tougher to bring up a child single handed regardless of your sex, but especially, perhaps, if you were a woman bringing up a boy (as other people have said in this thread boys need strong male role models, which I'm beginning to think may be the answer).

The single mother may not necessarily "make" someone fatherless but she is 1 half of the problem.
if the man is cheating then most of the time they weren't meant for each other anyway so it returns to same point - don't marry and have kids if you are not more or less absolutely sure you will stay together at least for a very long time.

Agree with most of what you've said in this thread but I'm gonna have to disagree with you here in that there's often no way to tell if a guy is going to cheat on his wife or not. Every couple has minor disagreements and they don't necessarily prompt someone to cheat - it's 100% the fault of who's cheating regardless of gender. It's got nothing to do with "not being meant for each other" or being unsure as to how long they'll stay together. Many people only get into affairs after decades with their partners when their kids have grown up.

But anyway we're going off topic here so I'll leave it at that.